Waters Breaking At 14/15 Weeks?

[midori1999]

Well, I'm feeling rubbish this morning...

Yet again I saw a midwife who didn't have a clue what was going on or what she was meant to be doing. I feel like I know more than most of the midwives I see.

Also, the CRP levels in my blood are elevated. (I know as I asked the midwife about my blood results and she looked them up for me) However, she had no idea what it meant, and then looked up 'CRP' on Wikipedia in front of me!!!! FFS!!! Then she just said it could indicate an infection (which could obviously be life threatening for my babies) but not to worry and I'd be fine to wait until my consultant's appointment tomorrow.

I obviously got upset and started crying, and the midwife then became very patronising and basically said that although my babies mean the world to me, it is all pretty routine for them and I would probably miscarry as the prognosis isn't good in these situations.

I feel really angry and upset and like they are just managing me until I miscarry, not being proactive in my care at all. I'm not stupid and I know that statistically the odds are aganst me, but I also know that there is a chance and have spoken to women who were told there was no chance for them when they were in my situation and yet their babies survived.

Hopefully I'll feel better when I speak to the consultant later.

 

[aiimee12345]

:O as if she was like that with you!!! wtf nasty cow!!!!

& babe do try not to worry... they told me friday 2 and half weeks ago i would miscarry in the next 2 days & get pains!!! but fingers crossed nothing has happened yet & the water is back ... i no its very worryin and it doesnt help when people are like that with you... x hope your ok... x

 

[lizziedripping]

Oh Midori - I have so been there darlin'

Some of the midwives/docs are unbelievable. We sat there on the night of our daughters impending premature birth at 23wks, whilst a registrar proceeded to tell us (with a grin on his face) that there was nothing they could do, our daughter would be born and she would die

I absolutely would not accept it - and asked them to fight anyway. THank God I did - otherwise she wouldn't be here today.

I am not saying they are always wrong, but hun don't give up or believe everything they tell you. This is your pregnancy, your babies and it's not over yet. The ignorance of some midwives is unbelievable to me, not to mention their complete insensitivity amd callousness.

We have been told numerous times that things look bad, there is no hope and there is no point in bothering. I look back now with such anger - I was so desperate and vulnerable. They were wrong on so many occasions - I just had to trust my instincts and fight on regardless.

Even if things don't work out, all you can do as a Mum is the very best in that moment for your pregnancy - being negative certainly will get you nowhere. Medical statistics are only part of the story hun, faith and the power of positive thought also play a huge part.

Much love my sweet, and PM me if you need some extra strength to get thru this

 

[MGD]

All I can say is a friend's waters broke at 12 weeks, but despite declining fluid in the sac she held on until 24 weeks - was hospitalised and gave birth at 28 weeks. Baby was very small and still has some problems with his lungs but he's a great little 6 year old now, at school and he's as bright as a button....

She was told on multiple occasions to abort and that there was no point and she was adamant that whilst there was a heartbeat she would fight and so would her baby! and he is a wee cracker!

Good luck x

 

[louise1302]

thinking of you hun x

 

[cheryl6]

im sorry to hear the such insensitvity of the midwive,

 

[midori1999]

Thankyou all.

I have just got back frommy consultant appointment, although saw a registrar as my consultant is away at the moment. Had to endure the usual negativity about my condition, do wish they would be more positive. I'm fully aware of what the outcome is likely to be, so why harp on about it...

Both twins are fine for now, although twin 1 doesn't have much room and is very constricted. He/she is moving a little though, and does have a heartbeat, although for some reason the registrar only wrote 'FM (foetal movement) for twin 1, but wrote FM ++ (very wriggly tiddler) and FH (heart) for twin 2.

She said the blood results were nothing to worry about, and the levels had actually come down a little on yesterdays blood results, so that's good.

 

[chetnaz]

Hello hun, i'm so sorry to hear what you are going thru and furious on your behalf about being spoken to like that by the midwife!! How dare she! If she cannot show some sensitivity and sympathy for you then she is in the wrong job! I would complain about her if i were you. Keep your spirits and and try not to let them get to you. Wishing you and the babies well. xxx

 

[TwoBumps]

That's great news

The docs aren't always right....a slightly different situation but my friend was told at 29 weeks that one of her twin girls had suffered a bleed on the brain and would die or be born severely handicapped. She endured a week of tests and doctors telling her to abort before one doctor finally told her that there was a good chance that her daughter would be fine and that they should be delivered immediately as not to would put both twins in danger. They were delivered at 30 weeks and spent 9 weeks in SCBU but are now both 9 months old and to date there is no sign of any developmental problems with either of them

Hang on in there!

 

[aiimee12345]

dont listen to the doctors hun!!! one says something the other one says something different!!! jus think every day that passes is a day closer to 24weeks xx

 

[Kitty23]

thinking of you and the babies xxx

 

[Lindyloo]

aw, glad to hear they are both moving and heartbeats are good that little one is a fighter.

Part of me can understand that dr's have to prepare the patient for the worst but this is just wrong, you are well aware of what could happen but it's amazing what positivity can do. I used to live with a really negative outlook on everything and since I have been with my partner I have slowly changed and have achieved so much just by changing this outlook so I know that it makes a huge difference.

Please keep us updated x

 

[Luzelle]

Good luck and hold on. Remember that there is a bunch of positive, hopeful people praying for you and thinking of you - the ladies on the forum. XXXXXXXXXX

 

[Mumiof2]

Omg i can't believe the attitude of some doctors and midwifes.

I'm thinking of you and your babies xx

 

[Laura2919]

I havent been on for a few days because I havent been well but I am hoping all is still ok with you Midori!!
Your going through it a bit it must be very sad thinking you may lose your baby but please keep hoping and praying!!

Fingers crossed for you and the twins xx

 

[Kitten]

Only 7weeks left!

 

[midori1999]

Thankyou! Only 6 weeks and 5 days to go until 24 weeks now...

Been to see the consultant and had a scan today. No real change, both twns still fine, and some fluid around twin 1 (the one with the ruptured membrane) although not much at all, just some smallish pools. Still, better than no fluid! Twin 2 is fine and very wriggly.

We did ask the sex, but they were in an awkward position, so he couldn't see. Twin 1 is head down and twin 2 is currently bum down.

I do have a low lying anterior placenta, although I am not too worried about that, as although there probably isn't time for it to move up (although there could be!) before I deliver, the consulant thought it would reduce the risk of a prolapsed cord, which is a big risk with prematurely ruptured membranes and would mean the baby would die.

My CRP levels are down a bit again, although still 21, when they should be under 10, but the consultant sys he isn't worried as they are staying around the same level and the worry would be if they suddenly started to really rise.

Consultant was the most positive person I have seen so far, and said 'so far so good', which was great! Clearly my babies are as stubborn as their Mother, I am determined to prove all those negative medical staff wrong, and it seems so are they/

 

[aiimee12345]

awww hun hope u & the twins prove them wrong
&& not long til 24weeks!!!
im sure everything wil be fine!!!
& lol what is it with babies not wanting us to no if thier boys or girls!! little monkeys
hope ur ok xxx

 

[chetnaz]

Really pleased that babies are well and that you had a positive consultant for a change! Not long left now, you show them all what you are made of! Sending positive vibes your way. xx

 

[KittenKat]

aiimee12345, sorry I didn't respond to your post before, it was quite hard to reply at all from the hospital. How did your scan go? I hope everything is well with your baby.

I am back at home now. I have to go to my local maternity unit three times a week to have bloods, urine etc done to check for infection levels, and see my consultant there once a week too. Then, if I make it to 20 weeks, I will be re-admitted.

I have had another scan today and although the doctor who did it was worse than useless and had an attitude problem, both babies are still OK. Twin 1 (the one with the ruptured membrane) still has a hearbeat and it seems is able to move a little also. Twin 2 is doing great and a right little wriggler!

I am on antibiotics 4 times a day as the main risk to my babies now I am past the period where I am most likely to go into labour is infection, and from what I can gather, it is a huge risk. I am on complete bed rest except for hospital visits and doing what I can to help prevent nfection such as using anti bacterial wipes after toileting, drinking lots of water and trying to eat as healthily as I can. I am also having those 'friendly bacteria' yoghurt drinks as apparently the bacteria in them is the same as the good bacteria in the vagina. Not sure if it will make any difference, but it's worth a try at least!

Statistically I know my babies don't have much of a chance, but survival rates aren't so low that it would be a miralce if my babies survied. My consultant was very honest and said I would be lucky to come out of this with one twin, exceptionally lucky to end up with two. He did also say thought that he has never dealt with a rupture this early, but has had two ladies, one with ruptured membranes at 17 weeks, the other at 19 weeks, both of whom took live and healthy babies home.

24 weeks is the magic number, when my babies will be considered viable and can be delivered, but I am hoping I can maybe hold onto them a bit longer than that. This is going to be the longest 9 weeks of my entire life! I am 15 + 2 today, and counting...

Thanks so much for all the support, it helps a surpisingly huge amount.

Hi Midori, have been reading through this and had to borrow my friend's account to reply to you, I went through exactly what you are going through while I was pregnant with my twin boys and they are now healthy, lively 6 years olds, which i delivered via an uncomplicated natural birth at 37 weeks. I hope everything works out well for you and your family and hopefully this little bit of information brings you hope and makes you feel better.
Blessed Be xx