Ok so me and OH had been together bit over 2 years and has always been an intense relationship.Its very complicated and long but basically to sum it up - he wasn't happy about the pregnancy and punished me by not talking to me for weeks on end.I did not beg and eventually the other week he spoke to me (not so much about baby) but i could tell he was talking to me because he was curious and obviously felt ****** for treating me like this. Anyways he has a daughter who is almost 8 and a son who is almost 10. The boy is not his biological child though and unfortunantly the child does not know this (but its their problem - they chose to lie). Their mum is well to say the least an absoloute **** . She basically does nothing with her life , has a lovely 3 bed house that his dad is having to sub let to the council for her , she has a good income from where he pays for the kids and has every weekend free - for her to enjoy with her partner and go out get drunk. She doesnt work either so she has an extremly non stressful life to say the least. Apparently she can't have children anymore - although she should be extremly greatful she has 2 healthy children and of each sex - plus a very generous man (my oh) who supports her children emotionally/financially. She has everything yet is very jelous and she has caused so much trouble for him in the past yet he basically pussyfoots around her to keep things easy.Which ive had so many rows with him about as she basically takes him and his family for mugs and has the kids as a meal ticket and has never met me but is extremly rude about me and has sent insults via the internet. ANyways he contacted me again so i thought right ok he obviously does want to be there for our child.Then after being all nice and stuff he suddenly txts me friday saying he does not want to tell his kids as it will cause trouble!! I rung him all yesterday and then eventually today ge ta txt saying if their mum knows your having my baby ill lose my kids and im not prepared to do that!!! Iam sorry ok he may not be worth it etc but how dare my life/my childs future suffer because of HER!!! i know deep down he hates her . Yes she may be an extremly jelous and difficult person but what has it to do with her.To be blunt how dare he be such a weak pathetic man and txt me that! Id said to him all along i did not have this baby to keep him i purely could not have a termination. Ive not asked for money ive been very reasonable considering he blanked me for weeks on end after we'd been in a long term relationship! I mean i could easily go and say to her look yeh iam having his baby and cause so many problems....but im not like that - so why the hell do me and my unborn child have to be punished!! What am i supposed to do say to my child sorry you don't have access to your father and sister/step brother because their mum was jelous. Iam so furious and distgusted!!!