Wedding seven weeks after due date?

[Erika Ida]

Hi! I am hoping for some advice. I have just found out that I am pregnant, although it is still very early days. All going well (fingers crossed!), my due date is 30 May 2012.

My boyfriend and I are currently due to get married on 21 July 2012, seven weeks after the due date. I am now wondering whether we should cancel that date (we would have to pay our holding deposit on the venue this weekend).

Would you guys have felt up for (your own!) wedding 7 weeks after giving birth?

 

[skydragonfly]

Honey, congratulations. I myself would have felt fine, my babies however probably would have made it hard. My 2nd child did nothing but scream and feed till she was 3 months old and my 5th child was still feeding 2-3 hourly till 10 weeks. Its a difficult one to say tbh. Maybe someone on here has done it and can help you out. I myself would not want to do it. xxx

 

[k4th]

7 weeks is not a long time for your recovery Hun & you are likely to be shattered. All women are different though & if you have your heart set on it I'm sure it can be done!

My biggest worry would be that you could potentially be 2weeks late in delivery, making lo only 5 weeks old. You may still be bleeding and if u have to have a c-section for any reason you won't be able to drive - this may not matter to you but in the days before my wedding i was all over the place sorting out last minute problems.

Personally I would cancel and choose a later (or earlier!) date so you can really enjoy your special day and your pregnancy!

Congratulations btw

 

[caz_hills]

Firstly, congratulations! That is great news and I hope your pregnancy is going well so far. I had an emergency c-section so couldn't drive for 6 weeks and like others said, I don't think I would have been up to my wedding 7 weeks after the birth. I felt LOADS better after 7 weeks and our LO was sleeping 5-6 hours straight at night so the sleepng wasn't that bad but I was still quite emotional and tired from everything - the labour, the hormones, being a first time Mum etc. Also, you will have loads to plan in those last few weeks - table plans, finalising everything and with the LO that might be stressful.

But your wedding is such a special day that as long as people could help you out with the last minute things, you could still do it but as long as you know you will totally enjoy it and not be too stressed out.

But good luck with everything and congrats again - wonderful news, next year a hubbie and a baby!!!!! Wow! xxx

 

[kmumtobe]

Bearing in mind with your first you could be two weeks late, likely at least one i'd say no.. In myself i'd of been okay and i've been blessed with a fab baby so i could of got away with it but you just dont know and you wouldnt want to risk your big day for a colicy baby, or you been up all night. You will be so overwhelmed with your little'n you'll just want all the focus on that not your wedding. Theyre the two biggest things you'll do in your life, enjoy each one seperately or you'll miss out x

 

[Amyface]

If I was you, I'd make sure EVERYTHING was completely planned way before it was needed. As long as you put the wheels in motion now and prepare for the fact that last minute decisions can't really be made then you should be able to do it. Brief your bridesmaids on things you NEED them to do for you in the last couple of weeks because you can't do it and I reckon you can pull it off

 

[Laurenmomma]

I couldnt have done it! And like another person said u may go over by 2 weeks, u may also not feel at your best, your gona be tired and I'd rather be at my best on my big dayx

 

[Bumpontherun]

I think you could do it but like another poster said these are two of the biggest things in your whole life. Your wedding day should be really special and all about you. I think if you go ahead with your planned date it will cause a lot more stress and worry and the big day may end up being more about your new baby than you and your DH. It would break my heart but if I were you I think I would either have cancelled or totally scaled back my wedding to a little registry office type thing. We had a big wedding and it took all of my time and energy to make it how I wanted - I couldn't have done it with a newborn to look after. Could you rush things and have it before?

 

[aliss]

I would wait or I would do it at 3,4,5 months pregnant. At 7 weeks, you may be horribly tired, unable to have sex, etc...

We decided to wait until LO is 2-3 years old so we can feel comfy to have our wedding night to ourselves, and I have no regrets!

 

[Erika Ida]

Thank you all! This has been very helpful! I have now cancelled the wedding and will plan another one for when we hopefully have a lovely little (but no longer so little) child!

 

[kmumtobe]

Aw tough decision im sure but i think you'll be pleased in the end. Everyone fusses over newborns so much they'd prob not be interested in you two like they should be! Having your little'n toddling down the aisle with you will be extra special x

 

[Destiny08]

i got married 2 weeks after LO was born lol. But I had 2 family members staying over to help with the baby its a tough decision, but it'll be great when you finally get there!