What a friggin waste of time that weekend trip was

[aliss]

We drove 3 hours (6 hours round trip) so that MIL can see her grandkids. She refuses to visit us more than once a year because she "hates our lifestyle".

She played with the baby for about 40 minutes total over 3 days and spent about 15 minutes with Alex. What a waste of fucking time that was!!!


Then she bitched at me for not having the kids at the dinner table for 7:30pm dinner (the baby goes to bed at 6PM and the toddler at 7PM, the baby was so exhausted he went to bed at 5PM). Makes a smartass comment about my kids going to bed too early and waking up too early (yeah like I enjoy waking at 5am?!?!?!).

Then to top it off on the last night, just throws dishes around and stomps off and drinks until 2am with her sister. Apparently drinking until 2am on a Sunday morning with 2 babies in the house is "normal". Because we don't eat at "normal" times, she says.

I have never met such a pretensious superficial woman in my life, it's unbelievable. I feel bad for my OH trying so hard to be nice to her. She got her tubes tied after he was born and then gave up custody of him to his father at a young age... no surprise there. How very maternal.

 

[aliss]

Loves to show off their photos to all her friends and act like she's the world greatest grandmother when she doesn't give 2 shits. My own mother spends more time with them and she lives 5000km away and visits once every 2 years.

 

[minties]

What a total loser and a bitch. My mum lives in another town too, she's maybe held Sophie for 10 minutes total in 7 months. My dads never seen her, he's seen Thomas twice, last time was when he was 3 months.

What the hell is wrong with loser grandparents? I can't wait to snuggle the hell outta my grandkids.

p.s Sophie gets up at 4:50am on the dot every day and goes to bed early. I feel you. Screw anyone who has the nerve to comment on it.

 

[SarahP13]

Ugh, sounds a bit like my mil. She lives 300 miles away and didn't see DD1 from when she was 9 weeks until she was 2 years. She came for DD2's christening and stayed in a hotel locally (we had no space for her and she struggles with our steps) but she made no effort to come and see the girls. She only stayed at the reception for an hour (it went on for 3 hours) and the only time she spoke to the girls was when she asked for a photo with them to 'show her church friends'!

Finally persuaded her to come to ours for an hour before she went home and she spent the entire time talking about herself. Didn't ask a thing about the kids, didn't play with them, barely spoke to them. DD1 was being really sweet and trying to show her toys and DD2 was just smiling the whole time. It made me so sad for them but tbh think they're better off not really knowing her. She's a selfish, self centred, rude old witch. I won't go into the family history but I will say she was not a great mum at all.

As for your mil moaning about bedtimes, every LO I know is in bed by 7.30 and would never manage to eat dinner then. Completely unrealistic.

 

[stephie_corin]

That sux. What a horrible woman. At least you can hold your head high and know you did the right thing letting her spend time with her grandkids. Try not to let it get you down.

 

[kirst76]

Thats shit!!!

Sounds like my weekend a couple of weeks ago. My BIL had been bleating how we never go see him....yeah, cos taking 4 kids to a bachelor pad is high on my list of priorities! Anyway, so we went and he informs us that he has a mate coming over.....they proceed to play drinking games and get super drunk and make noise. Me and hubby watch a movie with the kids while he is playing with his friend. 7 y/o is in tears because she wants to spend time with her uncle.
They finish playing long after the kids are in bed....I had a hell of a time getting the baby to bed and they are yelling up and down the hallway.
Baby wakes up, BIL starts yelling about something and getting in my hubbys face while he is comforting baby, baby gets scared, hubby tells his brother to back off, he doesn't, hubby threatens to punch his brother.....we all go to bed. When we were all awake in the morning we left....waste of time!!!!!

Sorry to threadjack

 

[Indi84]

ooh it sucks when they are like that, that's why i love my own mum and mil so much. my dad gets my lo and his cousins mixed up, can never remember which is which, he only lives a town away!

 

[aliss]

Thx girls

My dad doesn't care eitehr but at least he doesn't plaster my kid's faces all over Facebook and put on a show like he actually is involved. I feel like they are used for a charade.

 

[SaraEmily]

I can totally relate when it comes to the facebook thing. My mom's constantly posting pictures and statuses of LO, but then doesn't many much effort to actually see her. She doesn't live very far so she doesn't have a good excuse either.

And then my MIL tells people I don't let her see LO enough, even though we've told her she's welcome to come over any time she wants to. She just wants us to bring LO to her every time, even though she knows we don't like going over there because they smoke in the house.

Ugh. Grandparents.

 

[Noelle610]

That's awful, I'm so sorry hun. I hate it when people don't understand that different families do things different ways. It's like anything outside their experience is mind blowing and earth shattering. It's so silly. It must stem from insecurity of some kind. I just hate that you have to deal with it! It doesn't matter the reason, it still sucks.

 

[fairydust87]

If it was me my kids would never be going there again x

 

[HappyAnjeL]

What a jerk. Maybe it's just that I'm lucky but how could a grandparent not want to be with their grandchildren as much as possible?? Like someone else said, they are probably better off not knowing her too well if she's such a selfish pig. I'd say its her loss and not make the effort to go to hers again. She wants to see them, she will have to get over your lifestyle differences and the fact that you are a good parent and do what's best for your children.

 

[aliss]

She's 65 and retired, apparently 363 days a year is not enough to live the way she wants, she has to do it those 2 days too!

 

[Seity]

What a shame and a huge loss on her part. She'll never even realize what she's missing out on by still being the center of her universe.

 

[MrsPMP]

How rubbish! Her loss...I wouldn't bother going there. 7.30 is way too late for dinner for a baby. 6pm is considered normal adult dinner time even...
And what the heck is wrong with your lifestyle?! Are you raving looney druggies or something?!! That would so pee me off. My inlaws are a bit hands off with my LO and they live 2hrs away but at least they make an effort.

 

[chelseav1213]

sometimes I wish my MIL lived 3 hours away! Lol but I'm sorry hun, it's not fair to you or your children that grandma doesn't want to be a part of their lives

 

[Peggy O]

Hearing shit like this makes me very glad our families love spending time with LO. It really sounds like even at 65, MIL has some growing up to do. Her loss. If I were you, I would not be making an effort to go there any time soon, she knows where you live. So sorry. The whole story makes me sad. Kid's deserve to spend time around grown ups who love them, and not just "love" on facebook. UGH.

 

[sequeena]

Well you know what to say next time. No we won't be coming because we hate your lifestyle. Said in the sweetest voice possible

Witch.

 

[lomelly]

Oooh I agree with sequeena. I don't see how someone's lifestyle should prevent them from being loving grandparents, but this crazy bat seems selfish. 6pm is an appropriate dinner time, I don't see how she can't just change it for a few days.
Are you roaming French gypsies who pillage villages??? If not I don't get it. Suck it up lady (the grandmother).

 

[Haylee.]

What a bitch alright! You both did well to not lose your bananas at her. She sounds pure evil. Sorry the weekend was a waste of time xx