What a refreshing change

[bambino156]

Yesterday we were in Starbucks, which as you probably know is usually pretty busy. There was a couple with their little boy who must have been about 1. No sooner had they sat down, the little boy started having a right tantrum, straight away the mother whipped him out of the highchair and took him straight outside to calm him down. I thought to myself how nice it was to see a mother actually respecting those around her and showing her lo that that kind of behaviour is unacceptable. I've seen it so many times when the parents just let the kids run riot in restaurants, on buses etc.
A few months back we were out for lunch with some friends and thier lo. Lo started crying which turned to screaming, the dad actually said to the mum 'are you going to take him outside or shall I?'. The mum said 'no he can stay in here, he's only six months old, what do people expect?', err they expect to be able to enjoy thier lunch without listening to your kid screaming?!
Am I the only one that has this as a pet hate?

 

[ellie27]

I am not sure on this one - I think you might get lots of mixed feedback.

Soon as you said the mother whipped him out the chair and took him outside I was expecting you to say 'and gave him a whalloping!'

I would prefer to have my tea&cake in peace and quiet but if there is a baby crying and the parents are trying their best then I dont expect them to have to take LO outside or just to instantly leave - babys cry and sometimes they can have an outburst that we maybe cant quite control.

So, if your Lo cries anywhere are you just going to get up and leave if they dont stop?

Sorry, thats not really what your post was about - I think you were merely saying that it was a nice change to see the mum get up and take the boy outside - I would have felt the same if I were you and praised the mum for doing so - as you said there are kids who are left to run riot sometimes!!

 

[iceylou]

no im with u on this, we all know kids can through tantrums at the drop of a hat at any age but i def would take mine outside or away. my son threw a tantrum in tescos when he was 4, threw himself on the ground, kicking and screaming. i grabbed him, apologised to the guy stacking the shelves for having to leave a full trolley of shopping, and left the store. no way was i walking around the store with a screaming child annoying other ppl

although its not always easy to do this. sorry finding it hard to type with 1 hand

 

[bambino156]

I am not sure on this one - I think you might get lots of mixed feedback.

Soon as you said the mother whipped him out the chair and took him outside I was expecting you to say 'and gave him a whalloping!'

I would prefer to have my tea&cake in peace and quiet but if there is a baby crying and the parents are trying their best then I dont expect them to have to take LO outside or just to instantly leave - babys cry and sometimes they can have an outburst that we maybe cant quite control.

So, if your Lo cries anywhere are you just going to get up and leave if they dont stop?

Sorry, thats not really what your post was about - I think you were merely saying that it was a nice change to see the mum get up and take the boy outside - I would have felt the same if I were you and praised the mum for doing so - as you said there are kids who are left to run riot sometimes!!

Oh no I don't have a problem whatsoever when the parents are trying to calm thier lo and I know sometimes its impossible to do so. Its just the kind of 'so what my lo is crying, deal with it' kind of attitude which I think is beyond rude!

 

[ellie27]

I am not sure on this one - I think you might get lots of mixed feedback.

Soon as you said the mother whipped him out the chair and took him outside I was expecting you to say 'and gave him a whalloping!'

I would prefer to have my tea&cake in peace and quiet but if there is a baby crying and the parents are trying their best then I dont expect them to have to take LO outside or just to instantly leave - babys cry and sometimes they can have an outburst that we maybe cant quite control.

So, if your Lo cries anywhere are you just going to get up and leave if they dont stop?

Sorry, thats not really what your post was about - I think you were merely saying that it was a nice change to see the mum get up and take the boy outside - I would have felt the same if I were you and praised the mum for doing so - as you said there are kids who are left to run riot sometimes!!

Oh no I don't have a problem whatsoever when the parents are trying to calm thier lo and I know sometimes its impossible to do so. Its just the kind of 'so what my lo is crying, deal with it' kind of attitude which I think is beyond rude!

You just got me thinking...... my Anna is such a content baby that she never really cries much. She loves being out in a restaurant and all the attention she gets. If she did start screaming I would be shocked and would no doubt get dad to take her a walk round the corner!!

 

[iceylou]

I am not sure on this one - I think you might get lots of mixed feedback.

Soon as you said the mother whipped him out the chair and took him outside I was expecting you to say 'and gave him a whalloping!'

I would prefer to have my tea&cake in peace and quiet but if there is a baby crying and the parents are trying their best then I dont expect them to have to take LO outside or just to instantly leave - babys cry and sometimes they can have an outburst that we maybe cant quite control.

So, if your Lo cries anywhere are you just going to get up and leave if they dont stop?

Sorry, thats not really what your post was about - I think you were merely saying that it was a nice change to see the mum get up and take the boy outside - I would have felt the same if I were you and praised the mum for doing so - as you said there are kids who are left to run riot sometimes!!

Oh no I don't have a problem whatsoever when the parents are trying to calm thier lo and I know sometimes its impossible to do so. Its just the kind of 'so what my lo is crying, deal with it' kind of attitude which I think is beyond rude!

ah thats what i was trying to say. lack of sleep has messed up my brain

 

[bambino156]

I am not sure on this one - I think you might get lots of mixed feedback.

Soon as you said the mother whipped him out the chair and took him outside I was expecting you to say 'and gave him a whalloping!'

I would prefer to have my tea&cake in peace and quiet but if there is a baby crying and the parents are trying their best then I dont expect them to have to take LO outside or just to instantly leave - babys cry and sometimes they can have an outburst that we maybe cant quite control.

So, if your Lo cries anywhere are you just going to get up and leave if they dont stop?

Sorry, thats not really what your post was about - I think you were merely saying that it was a nice change to see the mum get up and take the boy outside - I would have felt the same if I were you and praised the mum for doing so - as you said there are kids who are left to run riot sometimes!!

Oh no I don't have a problem whatsoever when the parents are trying to calm thier lo and I know sometimes its impossible to do so. Its just the kind of 'so what my lo is crying, deal with it' kind of attitude which I think is beyond rude!

You just got me thinking...... my Anna is such a content baby that she never really cries much. She loves being out in a restaurant and all the attention she gets. If she did start screaming I would be shocked and would no doubt get dad to take her a walk round the corner!!

Aww bless her, shes super cute btw!
I'm lucky too atm, my lo quite likes being out and about, shes a nosy little madam that just loves any attention. I'll enjoy it, it could all change!

 

[gills8752]

I'm on the side of take the child outside. I would be mortified to have my screaming baby inside annoying everyone. Its the same as some annoying tit talking loudly on a phone right next to you or having a fight (verbal lol not a punch up) with someone in restaurant.

I'm forever seeing mums ignoring crying babies in buggys etc and wonder why the hell you have children if you are going to let them be distressed and ignore them.

 

[Natasha2605]

If it were me and Summer was screaming blue murder I'd try to calm her down inside but if that failed I'd take her for a walk outside til she calmed down. There's nothing that annoys me more than a screaming baby that is ignored by their parents. xx

 

[hayley x]

Everytime we go out for a meal Daisy crys and doesnt stop, not sure what it is but she always does it, I refuse to take her outside cause theres always people smoking and I dont want my daughter around smoke, but of course I do try my best to settle her but not very successful! x

 

[littleone2010]

I mean thats what I would do if I had a toddler for sure, but a young baby, you cant take them outside if they are sitting in a carrier and screaming, you just have to do your best to calm them down inside the restaurant.
Im travelling with my LO to cyprus to see family in october, shes never been on a plane and have no idea how she will handle it..I worry people will be horrible if she starts crying, afterall, I certainly cant take her outside or anywhere!! lol xx

 

[bump_wanted]

id take my LO out of the resturant if it was a clear tantrum but not just if they were crying because they werent well or had just got upset xx

 

[babybliss]

I would take my lo out as well. I must say that Carmen gets very upset when baby/toddlers scream really loud. And I think that babies calm down better when they are taken out of the situation that kicked tantrum off at first place.

 

[Jchihuahua]

I always take Daisy outside or for a walk around the block or something if she starts crying a lot when we are out somewhere.

 

[aliss]

I went on "vacation" with my 6 week old colic baby (looong story) and yes, he freaked out and cried in EVERY restaurant 4-6x a day. I wore him in a sling so I got up and left everytime. I don't want to disturb others. I missed a lot of dinners and lunches that weekend (as if MIL gave a shit but that's another story). We even left the bed & breakfast at 3am and drove around while he screamed so others were not disturbed.

That being said, I'm very sympathetic to others in the same situation and I do not fault them for staying.

 

[polo_princess]

Not sure on this one, if they were just having a 5 minute whingey tanturm then i wouldnt take Brooke outside, but if i knew it was going to be a full on kicking and screaming session then i would

Other peoples children crying doesnt irritate me, since becoming a mother i automatically sympathise with them and feel sorry for the child. We've all been there, done it and gotten the t shirt, so its not a big deal to me.

 

[Mummy2Asher]

When my son wet through tantrums I wouldn't take him outside but I quietened him down quickly and he went on to a time out. If he was screaming and wouldn't settle I would take him outside and as a baby if I couldn't settle him I'd go for a walk. I don't think a toddler should be taken away from the situation really, I think then they don't learn how to behave in such places.

 

[Lu28]

If I knew it was going to be a quick cry then I would soothe her down inside but if that didn't work or it was clear she was going to have a tantrum, I'd take her outside and have done. I think it also depends on where you are. I would call the likes of Starbucks a more adult environment where people can expect to have a coffee without a screaming child in the background. If it's moreso a kid friendly pub etc then I don't think there's as much cause for complaint.

But yes, screaming babies/children in a place intended for adults to enjoy some nice food and drink and relax is one of my pet hates. Having a child myself hasn't changed my opinion on this at all!

 

[mummy3]

If I was out with my husband, probably one of us would take lo out to calm down if they are having a temper. On my own though, it would nigh on impossible I have 3 kids, if the other 2 are nicely having lunch/ drink etc I can hardly take the one who is upset outside!!!

Starbucks have a kids menu also, so I wouldn't feel like I was an awful person taking my kids there if 1 had a temper We stay out of adult establishments.

 

[Seity]

Yep, I expect the baby/child to be taken outside as well. Gabriel is almost always quiet and content, but when he was 3 weeks old we were at a restaurant and he decided to start fussing, so my OH took him out to the car.