what brilliant friends i have... not

[barrowland]

well this friday i was meant to be having a suprise baby shower/birthday party. My friend organised it all, told my other half about it to make sure i went since i wasnt supposed to know, she told his 14 year old sister about it aswell. well on the day she came round mine, to collect me, i was in a good mood because another friend came and suprised me with presents and a nice chat and things. then my other half asked if his sister could come down with me because she hasnt seen me for a while and i said yes because i love his sister, well 3 hours later we set off for my friends house when i got there 2 other friends were there and that was a nice surprise but my other halfs sister seemed a bit uncomfortable so i kept her entertained because i just thought she felt uncomfortable being around people she didnt know very well. well my friend told me about half an hour after i we got to hers that people were coming round at 9 which i was looking forward to. well heres where i get upset.
at half past 8, one of my friends has to go to work, he works behind a bar at a strip club in our town and my friend whos house were we at decided that she wanted to go to the strip club for a drink. so she cancelled the party, made my other halfs sister go home an hour earlier than i told her dad i would get her home by, then dragged me to this strip club to watch her get free lessons off a stripper on how to dance on a pole and drink herself into a state. my friend who worked behind the bar baught me a few soft drinks and talked to me until i had enoug hand left which im thankful for.
but the reason im annoyed isnt because of how selfish my supposed friend was, its the fact that they made sure my other halfs little sister came down and she was the only one with a present for me.

so im talking her shopping with me for the baby things because i know she will enjoy it and im not going to talk to my selfish friend for a while until iv cooled down enough not to bite her head off

 

[tink23]

aw poor you hun, it can be disappointing to find out who your true friends are, especially when you need support e.t.c when you're pregnant. Believe me I've had friend issues, although not quite the same as yours...sounds like your friend is just a little insensitive..!

 

[barrowland]

im not that bothered if shes insensitive and selfish with me, its my other halfs 14 year old sister who made an effort to come down and baught me a present because she had been told it was a baby shower and then had to sit feeling uncomfortable because she knew what was going on, i didnt find out it was supposed to be a baby shower until i got home and my other half asked me why i was upset and he told her what my friend had asked him to do. if she had left my other halfs sister out of it i wouldnt be so annoyed.

 

[TattooedMama]

I would be pretty damn irritated too. I have a little step sister who I could imagine if that happened to would be really hurt and upset. I think taking her with you to have her help you go shopping is a great idea. I'm sure it will mean a lot to her and you will have much more fun with her than your supposed friends. i would be hurt if a baby shower for me turned into a drunken strip fest. I know damn well I don't want to be anywhere late at night except at home with my son, checking on him while he sleeps and cuddled up with my husband. Sorry that the party got ruined for you, Happy Birthday by the way!!!

I've realized so many people come and go once you get into a serious relationship and have kids. It is sad at first but at the same time enlightening. It is fortunate for us that we can learn who our true friends are and who really cares for us before we waste our time and efforts being great and loyal friends to them. It is disheartening but the few people who will stick around are worth it

 

[barrowland]

yeh i think she did get upset but not for herself for me, and your right i didnt want to be walking through town late, the worst thing is it was half ten when loads of drunk people were out making loads of noise and they left me to walk on my own, usually i wouldnt mind but im pregnant and would walk them home if it was them... its not me i was worried about it was my baby but oh well nothing happened just makes me realise they arent worth bothering with. and i would have more fun with her then i would with them when shopping she would help me pick things not just pick things and poo poo any thing i liked like they would

 

[Hannaaisha]

That is really bad, I duno what to say really. Except things like this make you rethink who ur friends really are.

 

[milamummy]

yup when you get pregnant and settle down you soon find out who your real friends are..I've parted ways with a few since I'm no longer a party girl but I think that its a good thing as all the bad eggs get weeded out and the good one are left Its a really sweet and thoughtful suggestion taking her shopping with you..sounds like she will have a nice time..hope you both enjoy yourself and dont lose a moment thinking about the so called mates who let you down