what do i do??

[MummyinJune]

Basicly me and my oh has had a small fall out. My lo is 12 weeks old, and 4 my bday my oh was getting me a tatoo (small name on wrist - take about 1/2hour) and i was getting him one also (large one on arm - few sit ins) We are currently still staying at my parents. I have left my lo twice - once for a few hours while i was literly across the road getting my hair done, and the other was for a few hours & only bcoz my oh really pressured me into going out just the 2 of us 4 a few hours in town shopping. I hated it, my mum looked after him and i was always txting to make sure hes ok and wondering what he was doing. 2morro is when we are suppose 2 be getting my tattoo, i sugested me going 2moro and him and lo coming also but ovb lil 1 and oh will not come into tattoo shop but look around shops 4 half an hour - that means lo is away from me 4 half an hour and not far away (then oh can get his tattoo another day) oh thinks this is a stupid idea and his sis said she would take him. I said no. For a start i do not want to leave oh as it is, she lives half an hour away so would prob have 2 leave about 6.30am & means our journey is 1hour and a half 2 get 2 tatoo place. She also has a baby of 6 months - what if he crys 4 a bottle at same time? my lo is ALWAYS wanting cuddles. His sis does not no lo well enough and lo doesnt no her yet, also lo will be out of his 'safe place' But my oh said 'so ur family can look after him but mine is not good enough!?' i said no my mum knows lo, lo knows her also he does not leave his own home - and even then i cant stand it!
He has fallen out with me and said 2 his sis 'you cant look after him coz ur not good enough' Oh and also her baby is unwell so germs could be passed onto my lo! I am not ready 4 leavein him espesh with ppl he does not yet no. Am i right ? I know it would annoy me if it was vise versa, but if i did live with his parents, it would have been them that had him 4 that few hours not my mum. What do i do? help asap plz

 

[MummyinJune]

Anyone?? his mums on his way here now and i want to be geared up 4 her comebacks. i no one will be 'ul have 2 leave him some time' but not yet!!

 

[DarlingMe]

You can't take him with you? Why does anyone have to watch him? You can take turns getting the tattoos and watch him. Most of the tattoo shops in our area are very clean and have comfy sitting areas. I think they would love to have a little one for a few hours in the shop!

 

[MummyinJune]

My oh doesnt think they will let him in But i also think hes fussy coz he doesnt like takin him places (in cas he crys etc)

 

[Lawhra]

I would just take him. If you don't feel comfortable leaving him it is unfair to be pushed into it. Either that or reschedule the tattoo for when you are more comfortable leaving him.

 

[DarlingMe]

Call the shop. He isn't mobile so he can't get into trouble. If he cries, you comfort him just like at home! Or go outside! You will be taking him places the rest of your like. Your OH better get used to it. It just seems like a silly spat even though I know you are frustrated right now because he is not listening. If you are uncomfortable with someone else watching him then that's all there is to it! It is your child, you don't have to leave him.