What do i say to him?

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  1. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    My OH had slept with some girl he knows after a party and she is pregnant. He is made up he is going to be a dad and all that and wants to be there and get involved with everything but last night he told me he was scared that she is going to stop him seeing the baby or end up saying its not his baby because he said that she isn't the nicest of people and he got really upset and just kept asking me what do i think he should do about it and he is scared incase he isn't a good daddy.

    i told him he will be a great daddy and to keep on being involved and that if worst comes to the worst then i will be there for him and he doesn't have to do it alone either way.

    He is so upset and worried, i don't know how else to comfort him xx
     
  2. Dragonfly

    Dragonfly Mother of 4

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    Your Oh got a girl pregnant after a party and your ok with this? I think thats comfort enough for him. All you can do is wait and see how it palms out as its to early to say what will happen if she is still pregnant. Fair play for him getting involved though.
     
  3. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    I wasn't with him at the time that it happened. He has accepted me with a baby, i think it would be unfair for me to say no to him because he is going to be a daddy. xx
     
  4. coccyx

    coccyx Well-Known Member

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    wear a condom! Why sleep with a girl who is not very nice and no protection? You sound supportive and will be there for him
     
  5. Laura--x

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    Just let him know your there and you will support him. It's hard in this situation, especially with men because once they have something in their heads its hard to get out!!

    x
     
  6. Dragonfly

    Dragonfly Mother of 4

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    Ah I get it now. Dont know what you can say to him other than support him which I think is great that you are being supportive about it and he wants to take something to do.
    I just hope he sont make a habbit of that for your sake as you seem really nice.
     
  7. PixieKitty

    PixieKitty Guest

    Haha wow are you sure you're not with Irish Conor? Funnily enough the girl he's with now is called Raych and we're all from Liverpool :p small world...
     
  8. nikky0907

    nikky0907 Well-Known Member

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    Tell him that he's gonna be a great dad and that Jayden adores him.

    And there's no way she can take the child away from him,he can take her to court and ask for a DNA test.
    And that you'll support him and help him with whatever he needs no matter what...:hug:
     
  9. princess_bump

    princess_bump Happy Wife & Mumma!

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    aww sweetie :hugs: just being there for him and talking will be enough :hugs:
     
  10. sam's mum

    sam's mum mum of two gorgeous boys

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    Totally agree...sounds like you're doing everything you can to support him. He's very lucky to have you :hugs: x
     
  11. Blob

    Blob Sarah :)

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    Wow hun everything seems to happen to you doesnt it!! I agree with Amy... :hugs:
     
  12. bambikate

    bambikate Mummy of 2 gorgeous girls

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    wow sounds like your being incredibly supportive already hun x x
     
  13. Dream.A.Dream

    Dream.A.Dream Mum to 6yo and WTT #2!

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    I agree. Just make sure he knows you're there for him xx
     
  14. Just let him know you are there for him
     
  15. BurtonBaby

    BurtonBaby Well-Known Member

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    It sounds like you are being supportive for him. Just assure him hes great, and like Amy said, she cant just take away his kid. He can take her to court. Its great that you can see it like - he accepted you with Jayden, you will accept him with his child. Things will be alright, just be there for him. :hugs:
     
  16. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    thanks girls, he coming down today so going to mention a few of these things to him. just feel mean because i know how much he is excited and looking forward to being a daddy and shes acting like a cow. ian has even offered her to go to his and talk about things likes scans, the birth and after xxx
     
  17. amyblackstone

    amyblackstone Hubby, son n me

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    Aww hun you seem to be so very supportive of him all through this. I hope the child support is affordable to you? If she is not very nice as you say, then it might be a good idea to get a DNA test done in any case, so that he won't end up paying child support and having a bond with a baby who isn't even his. If the girl is reluctant to get him involved, I seriously doubt that she is even sure it is his. You don't want to get in the middle of any melodrama hun, so better to sort things out at the bud. Ask him to at least talk to the girl and make sure it is his, at least for legal purposes.

    :hug: You are so much more warm and kind than I think I could have been if I were in your situation, so cheers to you!
     
  18. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    In bold - Not sure what that means lol

    But thanks, ye it's hard watching all this go on especially knowing he as got his hopes so high up and then she could just crush him so i know i have to(and want to be) supportive to Ian as he is being so supportive with me over me + Adam as things aren't going to well at the minute xxx
     
  19. xXhayleyXx

    xXhayleyXx Happy mummy of 6 :)

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    She just means that if u both end up living together and he has a child with someone else u will have to financially support the child out of your joint income xx
     
  20. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    Thanks Hayley :D
    He wouldn't be moving in for a while yet and i wouldn't mind helping support Ian with the baby emotionally and financially as i would never let Jayden go without so therefore if me and Ian would be getting a joint income the baby would not go without xx
     

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