What do you ladies think?

[Erinsmummy]

So i am about 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd, everything going well so far Once a month i go out for food, and to the cinema with my friend, its a thing we have always done, she is disabled, she can walk but uses a wheelchair if she has to walk more than a few meters, so pretty much always uses it. There is a big hill going up to the cinema, and usually i just push her up, and pull her back when going down the hill so she doesnt go flying! Its hard hard work as she is a big girl, like 14 stone, but i do it anyway as a bit of hard work isnt really an issue fr me! But, we are just arranging to go again soon, (didnt go last month as she was away) And my OH said its all fine me going ect, but im not to go pushing her up that hill! I realise that when your pregnant you shouldnt strain yourself so im thinking he is probably right that i shouldnt do it. But i dont know, maybe its being a bit daft? I didnt think about it till he said! Dont do this dont do that all the bleddy time lol, is he just being protective or should i really not do that?

And also how do i tell my friend i cant do that without sounding rude or upsetting her, OH says she shouldnt expect me to do it anyway, but theres no other way of her getting up that hill so im assuming she still thinks i will! Thanks in advance for any replys.

 

[Anikan]

I'm sure your friend won't be offended if you tell her you can't push her. Why don't you just drop her off at the door, park, and then walk alone to meet her.

 

[Anikan]

Also, if it's just the ramp you are talking about the theater staff would be happy to help you.

 

[Amarna]

I can't imagine why she'd be offended. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to risk anything. I agree with the above poster. Is there a way you can drop her off at the door? If not there must be some other place that's easier to access that you guys can go to hang out.

 

[yikesitsmindy]

I'm sure your friend won't be offended if you tell her you can't push her. Why don't you just drop her off at the door, park, and then walk alone to meet her.

This is a great option! Whatever you do, don't push that chair! She will understand. Is there any other cinema close to you?

 

[SabrinaKat]

I don't think it would do any 'harm', just some sore muscles/aches and pains, but I think the other suggestions, e.g. drop her off at the cinema and then park the car, is a great idea....

best wishes

 

[Erinsmummy]

I dont have a car, i can drive but she has a big car that has been made so she can drive it without using her legs, its also automatic so i wouldnt want to even attempt driving it! The parking is a long way from the door, and its not a ramp, its a full on hill. Maybe i can ask a nice man walking past to help lol, we will figure something out!

 

[Erinsmummy]

There is another cinema but we went there before and it wasnt exactly disabled friendly inside so my friend didnt like it.

 

[hardworknmama]

I don't think it would do any 'harm', just some sore muscles/aches and pains, but I think the other suggestions, e.g. drop her off at the cinema and then park the car, is a great idea....

best wishes

I have to agree with this, especially if you are already fit to begin with. When PG with my first I was working in a restaurant and putting away 50 pound boxes every 3 days. If you are super concerned you can always call your doctor to ask thier advice but I don't think pushing your friend up a hill will cause problems with your pregnancy.

 

[Charlie_x]

im with your husband on this one mine wouldnt let me do it either and tbh i wouldnt want to take the chance either and risk it!

 

[animalcracker]

You really shouldn't be straining yourself. It can be very dangerous and you don't want to risk anything.

Your friend will understand - I'm sure she already knows that pregnant women need to take it easy. Perhaps you can find something else to do together that doesn't involve such strenuous exercise on your part

 

[sweetpeaxo]

I'm sure your friend would understand your reasons for not being able to push her anymore. But, when you would wheel her around was it already physically strenuous for you or was your body already used to it? If it is something that was no big deal for you and you were able to do comfortably before, then I honestly think you are okay to keep doing it. Just don't strain yourself too much. But if you'd rather be safe and not do it, then let her know - I'm sure she'd be very understanding.

 

[xarlenex]

Your not going to be pushing her for a long time period, and your body is already used to it so it shouldn't cause any harm. A midwife will tell you to continue with your regular exercise regime etc. As long as your heart rate isn't raised too high, and your core body temperature isn't raised all should be fine. Obviously everyone has different 'comfort' zones though.