What do you say when??

[sunny days]

***This is part rant part question***
I know bump sizes have been discussed on here a lot so sorry for another post. My bump isn't huge, I was fairly petite when I got pregnant and have have been gaining weight slowly. I still wear pre-pregnancy jeans but my have started adding maternity tops. I am showing but for some reason people keep saying I am not big enough. I know baby is healthy but it makes me feel like I am less pregnant than other women if that makes sense. Like last night at a coffee shop I was chatting with a friend about being pregnant and this older man came up and said I couldn't even tell your pregnant how far along? I said 6 mos and he said no your maybe 3-4 months at the most. Obviously I know how pregnant I am!! I get this all the time, I don't know if its hormones or what but it makes me want to cry. I am just as pregnant as someone with a large bump but I can't help that I am not as big as others would expect. What can I stay to people who make these comments?

 

[NuKe]

personally I'd jsut tell them to mind their own damn business!! or say something like "that's not very nice" to make them feel bad i get the other side of it, im massive!! ppl keep telling me im huge and i just say "thanks for that"

 

[Noelle610]

Wow, what a jerk! I personally don't appreciate unsolicited opinions from strangers on a regular basis, much less when they have to do with my body and/or pregnancy. Totally innapropriate.

I think you had every right to be upset. When someone says something so outrageous, I think it's fine to say something equally outrageous. I've found I don't have to talk much to get a big effect. If it happens again, I suggest just staring blankly at him, saying "Wow" or "You're very rude" and then turning back to your friend. Too many people get away behaving this way because no one calls them out on it.

Every woman carries differently and there's no "right" way to gain weight if you and your baby are healthy. I'm sorry that there are so many uneducated people out there. It's a shame.

 

[Charlie_x]

Id properly say something back about the person who has said it to me own belly lol!!

 

[Geegees]

If it helps.. I'm not big either and am constantly hearing 'oh i thought you'd have a bump by now'!! Had my midwife appointment yesterday and fudual height is 25cm... So sod them!

 

[Robynx]

Its so annoying but I just ignore them, before I popped everyone was like 'your tiny!' And now iv popped all I get it 'look at your belly!' 'Your huge!'
I can't win either way, don't think anyone likes to compliment your bump and tell you it looks cute or nice :l

 

[Abii]

usually when you show later its because the baby is more toward your back and not all in front like some others.
Hes an idiot for saying that and not knowing you at all.
Just brush it off hun.