What?!- he's "bored of pregnant sex"?

[charxxx]

I can't believe my boyfriend is actually open in the fact that he's bored of having sex with me whilst im pregnant.

We were reminiscing some of our past sex memories earlier when he turned round and said he's bored of pregnancy sex and that it's been great but he wants to be able to go back to the way it was

I cant help feeling a little deflated.. Especially as we haven't had sex recently because I had a bleed and was admitted to hospital and tonight I was going to make the move as everything's ok now- I mean, I have needs too!! Lol but then he says that and ends up falling asleep on the sofa after a few beers so maybe that's a no? Lol

Although I'm not overly surprised or upset by his comment (as I do understand where he's coming from) it's made things a tad awkward.. I feel like I just want to give birth now so that he doesn't loose interest in me all together.. :-/

 

[Lisa1981]

Don't even know what to say about that. I'd def be a bit peeved at that comment but then again at least he's being honest. Should be grateful he's getting any though since loads of woman loose their libido completely during pregnancy.

 

[aley28]

My husband said that too towards the end of my last pregnancy. It was because there were basically two positions we could do... me on top and him from behind, and 99% of the time it was him from behind because it hurt my hips too bad to be on top.

I've been working on being more creative this time. We don't have nearly as much sex as we did last time, but I try not to let any of the few positions we can do become too routine.

 

[charxxx]

Exactly! Lol how charming men can be hey! msl:

Xx

 

[charxxx]

My husband said that too towards the end of my last pregnancy. It was because there were basically two positions we could do... me on top and him from behind, and 99% of the time it was him from behind because it hurt my hips too bad to be on top.

I've been working on being more creative this time. We don't have nearly as much sex as we did last time, but I try not to let any of the few positions we can do become too routine.

I know what you mean, I don't think positions have been that much of an issue with us fortunately we've still managed to go through most positions.

I think for him it's because In the back of your minds you know there's three people in the situation, and also you can't go to hard or be really close without worrying your squashing the baby or harming them in any way?

I dunno! Haha xx

 

[knitbit]

Being open is good as long as it's a two way street. I'd make sure that he knows that it will take some time to get back into the swing of things, especially if you have a tear to heal up.

 

[hot tea]

Yeah I would be offended, mostly because I work damn hard in the sack to please my OH.

But I must admit, I am bored of pregnancy sex too...

 

[HappiestMom]

its been over a month since we've done it...hubby is afraid he'll hurt me or the baby lol..I had a scare at 10 weeks after sex..tons of bleeding..but it was just my cervix and I was Dr cleared for sex just a week or so after..but still hes afraid..which makes him not into it..him just worrying..and of course I know hes just worrying so then I cant get into it knowing thats all hes thinking about...blah!!.. lol.. I mean I still want it but at the same time it just seems like so much trouble now lol..cant get comfy..hes not into it...and now hes worried it'll make me go into labor lol..its nice that hes worried and thinking about me & LO but I cant wait till those 6 postpartum weeks are over lol...

 

[aley28]

I didn't get too offended last time, because he was providing an honest answer for why he always wanted a BJ over actual sex. He's starting on that again, and I think I'm going to tell him to enjoy the sex, because when the baby gets here, there's a solid six weeks where he isn't getting any. Very likely means no New Years sex this year...

 

[Frecks]

Lol my oh wouldn't say it to me but I know he is! It is gutting and it still hurts even though we understand but not long now Hun xxx

 

[Serendipity40]

My Oh doesnt really want to have sex with me anymore & i am so relieved as am not interested either..dont get me wrong thou this is definately not good as u do lose some degree of intimacy & my OH seems to assoiciate cuddles/strokin etc with sex..so dont get none of that either..but after a long break things can be great again, once healed after baby's arrival things can hot up again..so trying to keep focused on that...i love my pregnant body but i know OH doesnt!! think its normal enough for men to go off sex during late pregnancy especially...as they do tend to worry bout baby being inside...

 

[BeckyBoo]

My OH said he want's 'Becky' back aswell so he can cuddle me better at night in bed. I said 'more like because you want sex' And he didn't say anything to that.

Wouldn't think much of it hun. Men don't think before they engage brain and mouth.

 

[tanni78]

haha bless, men can be so tactless at times but at least he's being honest. Tbh i think it's me more than my oh that's getting a bit bored of pregnant sex cos with my bump and my spd, the positions are getting a bit limited. I've taken to doing it on the stairs or in the kitchen just to liven things up. My oh announced last night that he was gonna miss my bump during sex when it was gone lol. Guess you can never please everyone all of the time eh? xx

 

[SmartieMeUp]

You do really have to give him the benefit of the doubt that it's all limited movements and he'd no doubt have to take control all of the time. But on the other hand, he's treating it as nothing but "sex" so it means nothing to him. Tell him to please himself if he's acting spiteful.

Men don't understand how uncomfortable it can be for us.

 

[lindc]

Ha--I would tell him that it could be worse. I have placenta previa and was put on pelvic rest 2 months ago. So, my hubby hasn't gotten any in 8 weeks and I have 7 more to go before I have my c-section. I feel bad for him but he is being a trooper about it.

 

[Gemmylou86]

Jesus i'd tell him he's lucky to get any as there are a lot of women who cant (or dont want to) have sex during later pregnancy.
If my OH said he was looking forward to having the 'old me' back for those reasons I would simply remind him that I didnt get pregnant alone and I cartainly have more to worry about than not having athletic sex lol!
X

 

[new_mum]

I say slap a sex ban on him post pregnancy for that