What Is The Point...

[RJsMum]

...of a lie-in when you're asked to go change LO's nappy first?

DH gets his lie-in on Saturday and I get mine (sometimes) on Sunday. DS woke once at 6 so I nursed him and he fell back asleep. He woke again, this time for the day, at half-nine and I nudged DH to say he was awake. He only mumbled back so I decided to nurse him again so he wouldn't be hungry for a milk feed when DH took him down. I told DH I was nursing him first and that he may want to go get his teeth brushed and whatnot while I did that. He chose to wait 10 min while I fed and when DS pulled off I nudged him again. I was tempted to just take him down myself since I felt awake anyway, but my lie-ins are my best chance for a decent shower.

When DH got up he asked, "Well, do you want to get his nappy changed while I do this?" I'm sure I pulled a face before saying, "Sure, I'll go DOWNSTAIRS and change his nappy first." Immediately DH says, "Nevermind, forget I asked...it was just a simple request."

But I'm thinking in my head...I'm up with DS all week long, no breaks, no lie-ins. When I do get the odd one on Sunday it kind of defeats the point for me to do the things I normally would on a morning and then go back to bed.

DH then continues on to tell me that the point of a lie-in is to stay in bed and I had already been up to nurse him when he would have given him porridge anyway. I explained he was due for a feed anyway and it was better that I satisfy that before he took him down or he would have ended up fussy. He asked why I didn't wait until he cried in his room to get him and I also explained how his nappy could be smelled from the door (he had done a stinky poo) and it wasn't good to just leave him in a 12 + hour old nappy.

Basically I then am told I need to do a "better"job of waking DH as he would have just taken care of it anyway.

Now I lie here WIDE AWAKE and NOT really enjoying my lie-in.

I just can't win.

 

[polo_princess]

You never can with the dreaded lie ins im afraid, you may aswell just resign yourself to the fact that your not going to get a "proper" one for the next 10 years

Men!!

 

[twinklestar]

bloomin men i found the only way to get what i want or need is to spell it out verrryyy slowly

 

[lea28]

I get one once in a blue moon whilst oh has afternoon naps at the weekend!

 

[louandivy]

Haha this exact thing happened to me this morning! I just looked him straight in the eye and didn't even have to say anything before he went to go change it himself, my evil glare said it all!

 

[mrsthomas623]

...of a lie-in when you're asked to go change LO's nappy first?

DH gets his lie-in on Saturday and I get mine (sometimes) on Sunday. DS woke once at 6 so I nursed him and he fell back asleep. He woke again, this time for the day, at half-nine and I nudged DH to say he was awake. He only mumbled back so I decided to nurse him again so he wouldn't be hungry for a milk feed when DH took him down. I told DH I was nursing him first and that he may want to go get his teeth brushed and whatnot while I did that. He chose to wait 10 min while I fed and when DS pulled off I nudged him again. I was tempted to just take him down myself since I felt awake anyway, but my lie-ins are my best chance for a decent shower.

When DH got up he asked, "Well, do you want to get his nappy changed while I do this?" I'm sure I pulled a face before saying, "Sure, I'll go DOWNSTAIRS and change his nappy first." Immediately DH says, "Nevermind, forget I asked...it was just a simple request."

But I'm thinking in my head...I'm up with DS all week long, no breaks, no lie-ins. When I do get the odd one on Sunday it kind of defeats the point for me to do the things I normally would on a morning and then go back to bed.

DH then continues on to tell me that the point of a lie-in is to stay in bed and I had already been up to nurse him when he would have given him porridge anyway. I explained he was due for a feed anyway and it was better that I satisfy that before he took him down or he would have ended up fussy. He asked why I didn't wait until he cried in his room to get him and I also explained how his nappy could be smelled from the door (he had done a stinky poo) and it wasn't good to just leave him in a 12 + hour old nappy.

Basically I then am told I need to do a "better"job of waking DH as he would have just taken care of it anyway.

Now I lie here WIDE AWAKE and NOT really enjoying my lie-in.

I just can't win.

Sounds just like my DH! I just tell him I am only a mother to one boy in our household.. and it is not him!! He is a grown man, he can wake himself up.

 

[RJsMum]

...of a lie-in when you're asked to go change LO's nappy first?

DH gets his lie-in on Saturday and I get mine (sometimes) on Sunday. DS woke once at 6 so I nursed him and he fell back asleep. He woke again, this time for the day, at half-nine and I nudged DH to say he was awake. He only mumbled back so I decided to nurse him again so he wouldn't be hungry for a milk feed when DH took him down. I told DH I was nursing him first and that he may want to go get his teeth brushed and whatnot while I did that. He chose to wait 10 min while I fed and when DS pulled off I nudged him again. I was tempted to just take him down myself since I felt awake anyway, but my lie-ins are my best chance for a decent shower.

When DH got up he asked, "Well, do you want to get his nappy changed while I do this?" I'm sure I pulled a face before saying, "Sure, I'll go DOWNSTAIRS and change his nappy first." Immediately DH says, "Nevermind, forget I asked...it was just a simple request."

But I'm thinking in my head...I'm up with DS all week long, no breaks, no lie-ins. When I do get the odd one on Sunday it kind of defeats the point for me to do the things I normally would on a morning and then go back to bed.

DH then continues on to tell me that the point of a lie-in is to stay in bed and I had already been up to nurse him when he would have given him porridge anyway. I explained he was due for a feed anyway and it was better that I satisfy that before he took him down or he would have ended up fussy. He asked why I didn't wait until he cried in his room to get him and I also explained how his nappy could be smelled from the door (he had done a stinky poo) and it wasn't good to just leave him in a 12 + hour old nappy.

Basically I then am told I need to do a "better"job of waking DH as he would have just taken care of it anyway.

Now I lie here WIDE AWAKE and NOT really enjoying my lie-in.

I just can't win.

Sounds just like my DH! I just tell him I am only a mother to one boy in our household.. and it is not him!! He is a grown man, he can wake himself up.

PRECISELY! Thank you!

I don't recall in our marriage vows...to love, to cherish, to wake up on weekends...

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

This is the same when OH say's I can have a lay in.. I don't mind though really because LO normally wakes up at 6ish so I don't mind getting up to feed/change her if I know I can go back to bed.

He does the same for me though if I let him have a lay in..Just means one of us gets and extra 10/15 minutes to wake up before actually getting up. Works for us.

 

[m_t_rose]

I would tell him that since he is the one to say that whats the point of a lie-in if you have to get up to nurse him that you would like him to bring LO to you when its time to nurse. On my lie-in day DH will bring me LO and then take him back to bed if he isn't ready to get up for the day. He also knows that if he isn't done getting ready by the time I am done nursing then he doesn't get to do it until I get up or until LO goes back down for a nap. The way I got him to do that was one morning I nursed and then I told DH hold him while I shower and I took extra long showering and brushing my teeth so he basically had to get up because LO wanted to play so it was him to make the rule

 

[MrsGlitz]

I never get a lie in either.

I am meant to have one a week and DH has the other one but I always end up getting up. That said, I then have DH up by 9.30ish and I can go back to bed but I realise I am one of few people who can sleep well during the day.

 

[AP]

OH is kind enough to let me have lie ins....its just Alex, she often comes through and shouts at me happily or plays with her extra loud toys. I swear she does it on purpose...

...or OH....actually, im onto something there.....

 

[curlykate]

I never get lie ins. (I'm assuming that means sleeping in, instead of getting up early with LO? I'm from Canada...)
I'm always the one who is up with LO. And if I do hand over LO and try to go back to sleep, I can't. OH usually takes him in bed with him (while I go to the spare room to get a better sleep), and ends up falling asleep! However, LO is still awake, and rolling around on the bed! I'm so paranoid about LO falling off the bed (or being smothered), that I can't sleep, and end up going and getting him.
Or, if LO is fussy, OH tries for a few seconds to get him to sleep, then says "He's not tired, he's hungry", and won't accept "no he's not!" for an answer. As I'm nursing, it's my job to feed LO. Again, I just usually end up going and getting him. No point lying in bed if I can't sleep!

 

[suzanne108]

9.30am isn't a lie in??!!

 

[_Vicky_]

9.30am isn't a lie in??!!

haha thats what I thought - 7am is my lie in lol or I get an 8.30am on a saturday but then we do have two little munchkins and oh is FAB but they are difficult to 'fence in' now days lol.

I LOVE the morning with them - all mussy hair squeely faces and toothy smiles - 6am is my favourite time of day with the boys.