so, i am having a HUGE first birthday party for Adelaide. something like 60 people kinda huge. obviously, i have to invite sam and his family.. his family has not been allowed to see her lately as a few months ago they were threatening me and calling me horrible names and saying i was a bad mother and wishing bad things on both me and adelaide, and my parent caught wind of this and blocked every last one of them and forbid me from going down there. (i can't drive anyway) so anyway, they have not been allowed to see her. however, his family is stirring up a lot of shit because i won't let them have a seperate birthday party for Adelaide. personally, i'm completely against it because their reasoning is "we don't want to be in the same room as your family, it will make us uncomfortable" which, sorry, but i think it's utter fucking bullshit. i mean, tough luck, it's my kid's birthday party and it isn't about you. i couldn't care less if they are comfortable. secondly, i don't want to raise adelaide in a "seperated" family. i think it is stupid. she is not going to grow up think oh, this family loves me more becaus of this. or, this family loves me more because that. so i told them no. sam says that i'm restricting his right as a father, which i also think is utter bullshit. MY family isn't having a seperate party for her! his family was invited to her party, even though i honestly don't want them there, they ruin everything. but i do not think i should have to allow them a seperate party?