What should I do?

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  1. imaginary8x

    imaginary8x Mummy

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    Well, he should have seen his daughter Friday but didn't... came out with an excuse, now tells me he is moving to live with his new gf who lives far away...*
    Just when I talk to him feel like he has no time for our daughter. :cry: as I keep trying to sort out a time for him to see Amy, he always has a excuse. :/
    Also only seen Amy once. :/
    I feel bad for saying this but...
    what I'm trying to say is should I cut him off? :/ as I'm sort of thinking Amy would be better off, as he won't be round much now. :s
     
  2. laura1991

    laura1991 Mummy to Lily

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    Just give him an ultimatum, he has to start coming on a regular basis or cut him, its not fair on your LO. Or maybe suggest you go through solicitors then he will have to keep arangements. Its not right for her to be messed around,
     
  3. chels24uk

    chels24uk Well-Known Member

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    Im in a similar situation. My ex moved over 400 miles away so he could live nearer a girl he had only met once! He was a VERY good hands on dad before that. But now im chaseing him constantly to at least contact his son. He wont pay anything to his son or to help towards his un-born baby and it breaks my heart.
    Ive recently told him that he has until the end of March to visit his son and get his act together as a father, or hes out for good as its just not fair on Joshua who still doesnt understand why daddy left.
    My advice is, give him a final chance, tell him the ultimatum and STICK to it. Good luck huni *hugs*
     
  4. 2245db01

    2245db01 Megan and Kaydons mummy

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    id tell him he has one more chance cause your not having your daughter being one of those kids that sit waiting for daddy to turn up then is heartbroken when he dosnt, you could go to CAB and sort out taking him to court and he will get a court order and if he breaks it and dosnt turn up he will lose all rights over your daughter, also go to csa and they will get money off him for you x
     
  5. imaginary8x

    imaginary8x Mummy

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    Well, I think I'll tell him if he doesn't see Amy on her birthday that's it! Cause I've already asked him about that and he comes back with I don't know... :/
    His name isn't on the bc so he doesn't have much say anyways and would never go to court to see Amy... so really he couldn't careless..
    I've already got the CSA on him.
     
  6. N1kki

    N1kki Guest

    don't cut him off just yet,give him one more chance say look you need to come see your daughter or you will have to go through a solicitor,court and a contact centre if you carry on.If he doesnt care with that attitude leave him and say i've given you more then one opportunity now and its not just hurting your daughter its affecting me too as i'm the parent that has to explain why your not coming.
     
  7. littlekitten8

    littlekitten8 Mummy of 1

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    I went through the whole difficulty getting FOB to see LO. He had a new gf but hadn't moved away to be with her as she lived where we used to live. After months of it I just gave up chasing him. Its been over a year since he saw his son and months since I've heard from him. I would say give him the ultimatum. I wouldn't even give him til her birthday. I would give him a month to get his sorry backside down to see his daughter or give up all rights to her. Good luck with it all hun.
     
  8. imaginary8x

    imaginary8x Mummy

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    Well, now I give up. lol
    If he contacts me, he contacts me, if he doesn't, he doesn't.
    Thanks for the help. :]
     

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