What to buy? And when?

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  1. Seraphim

    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    I've been having a little look at the baby things for sale online. To get an idea of costs, and what type of things will suit me/us.

    I feel clueless about what I'll need to buy, and I'm a planning kind of person... so I'd like to at least outline what we'll need. I'm also a big fan of eBay, and would like to save as many pennies as possible. And I'm going to be a mum - so I can't wait to celebrate by shopping!! :happydance:

    Firstly, I don't want to jump the gun I guess.
    Not so much for fear of anything sad happening, but more because I don't want to over spend or buy the wrong things.

    For me it makes more sense to focus on the things which are less variable, like cot and pram, car seat etc... where with clothes, even though I like neutral things for newborns, I'd like to know the sex first, and you never know if you're having a dainty wee thing or a hippo ;)

    There's always the point that a baby could come early, and I don't want to be in a rush at the end.

    I just don't want people thinking I'm crazy ;)

    eBay has some great bargains, and I guess for now I'm telling myself to wait - I just hope I won't kick myself later.

    My biggest question is 'What do I need?' - I could really do with a guide on this, just not a stupid one ;)

    I'm due in November, so newborn will need keeping warm.

    I thought we're all in the same boat, so might be able to help eachother get a bit organised??? ;)
     
  2. k2daho

    k2daho Pregnant with #1

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    It's everything I can do not to buy the stroller and infant car seat that I want right now as it's on massive sale online! So I might not be the right person to talk to. My plan in general though is to get basically the "necessities" (ie. car seat, stroller, bassinet, onesies and pajamas, towels, diapers, etc) that we'll need for the first month or so of that baby's life purchase by about 7 months along...and then wait after that to buy the other little things that we'll likely want...like a swing, crib, bouncer/rocker, etc. Or see if we get some as gifts!
     
  3. MissyMojo

    MissyMojo Army Wife, Mam & BFP

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    i put together a basic list using argos!!!

    cot 177
    wardrobe 137
    drawers 98
    changing unit 48
    mattress ..ohh no ladies u dnt get this with cos, 59
    buggy/travel system 200
    baby monitors 54
    moses basket 30
    whinnie the pooh bumper and quilt 38
    bedding bale 20
    avent bottle set 20
    breast pump 23
    bouncy chair 30
    sterilizer 40
    baby bath 20
    nursing pillow 20
    baby towel pack 15

    thats about 1200,
    you'll also need about 7 all in ones for bed, and 7 outfits, and 7 vests,
    lots of nappies, wipes etc
    probably wonnt need everythin on that list depends what furniture u already have etc or what ur familys get you

    my family knew i have that list so have put theyre names agianst things that they'd like to buy
     
  4. Seraphim

    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    LOL, I love this. The baby is the only thing that comes for free, right? ;)

    Excellent list!

    All seems very straight forward, but I just can't get my thinking together on this one.

    Like I said, I'm not so concerned about the clothes (bar the essentials) but these are the things you drift into buying if you don't get clear what you need. And it's the obvious choice for friends etc to want to buy the odd outfit.

    I hadn't thought of our parents buying anything. Now I'm wondering if they would like to. Maybe I'll just let it be known that I'm making a list.

    Daddy-to-be is not the same as me when it comes to planning, and will probably be a little bit freaked out whenever it is I start the ball rolling ;)
     
  5. Wombat

    Wombat Married mum of 2:)

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    I started buying well in my 3rd trimester. My first was born in the middle of september, so for the autumn baby

    basic things you will need (from my experience)

    1. Buggy
    2. Car seat (if you have a car)
    3. Cot with mattress and 2 fitted sheets (if you are going to get a travel system with detachable carrycot you won't need a cot till about 5 weeks).
    4. 7 long sleeved babygrows (newborn size) and 7 0-3 months
    5. 7 short sleeved vests (newborn size) and 7 0-3 months
    6. socks (3-4 pairs)
    7. 2 hats
    8. mittens (2)
    9. warm all in one
    10. 2 warm blankets
    11. 6 bottles (if you plan to bottle feed) and stereliser/breat pump if you are going to breastfeed and 2 bottles and stereliser
    12. bouncy chair (I know that this doesn't sound importaint, but believe me, IT IS!!!)
    13. And the obvious stuff: nappies (don't buy too many newborn size), wipes, nappy cream (The best I found is sudocream. And I tried A LOT).
    14. Changing bag (but if you subscribe to boots baby you get one for free)

    And extras:
    1. Nappy bin! (Was a godsend)
    2. Changing mat ( I never used a changing station)
    3. Baby bath (i used mine till about 5 weeks, then just took LO to the big bath with me)
    4. Nursing pillow
    5. Nursing chair
    6. Baby monitor
    7. Dummies (if you plan to give it)
    8. Sling/baby carrier (in early days I actually found baby carrier more comfortable
    9. 3-4 fleecy babygrows (0-3 months)

    Can't thing of anything else at the moment.

    What I found totally useless were:
    1. Any propal clothes (my son spend his first 3 months in babygrows. Believe me you will be so knackered that his/her clothes will be the last thing on your mind).
    2. Activity gym. We had this one https://www.mothercare.com/Bright-S...ing=UTF8&m=A2LBKNDJ2KZUGQ&n=44389031&mcb=core and it was totally useless. Except for the ladybird attachment with music. We used it on a buggy. Right in the beginning Daniel just would want to be left alone, then he started to get too bored with it and finally when he started moving around he just wouldn't stay there. But it might be just us.
    3. Cotton wool..... Always used baby wipes.
    4. Top and Tail bowl..... Never used

    I will add up if I think of anything else
    :hug:
     
  6. Seraphim

    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    You don't know what a relief just that little bit of direction is ;D
     
  7. MissyMojo

    MissyMojo Army Wife, Mam & BFP

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    i just sat down with laptop and argos.co.uk and worked it out, so far my oh's parents are buying us the buggy, theyve said they want to spend more so might see if thwey fancy getting us the drawers, and my daddy is getting me the monitors and bedding bits n pieces and moses basket
     
  8. charlottesma

    charlottesma Mum to 2!

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    I found a baby bath pretty useless, they are blooming heavy once full and a real pain to move about with water splashing around. I think after a couple of nightmare attempts Charlotte went in the sink for a couple of days then in with me.

    I did find one of those medical sets with the snot grabber a godsend, she was a September baby and had a really nasty snotty cold at a couple of months the snot thing let me keep her nose clear so she could still breastfeed comfortably.
     
  9. Seraphim

    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    A snot grabber!? Wow. I didn't know such things existed hehe.
    Could you post a link to one?

    x
     
  10. Mynx

    Mynx Mum of 2 Gorgeous Girls!!

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    :rofl: Made me chuckle too! :rofl:
     
  11. charlottesma

    charlottesma Mum to 2!

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    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    I think that's magic!

    Some people can relax about their babies being snotty... but I've often thought 'oh no I'm going to annoy my poor bub trying to get its nostrils clear' (seriously)

    I prefer the look of the first one... but you wouldnt want anyone to SEE you sucking snot out of your baby would you ;)
     
  13. Marleysgirl

    Marleysgirl Mum to a SCBU Warrior!

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    Thanks to the others for the list and advice, I have to say that my mind is also whirring with thoughts of what I will have to buy - and I'm not buying anything until the scan (next week) confirms that there's definitely life inside me!
     
  14. aimee-lou

    aimee-lou Totally Outnumbered!!

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    I've been putting together lists and comparing prices for a couple of weeks now....I'm a spreadsheet addict so I have table of the prices for all the big things from all the major high street suppliers, ebay and have also done a list accordign to what I would like to buy no matter what the cost! lol

    I think we're going to leave the vast majority until after the 20 weeks scan. I have my dating scan next week and if all is well then we will probably buy a couple of things. But money being as it is at the moment my hands are tied so I'm concentrating on finding the bargains (like the baby bath set - bath, toiletries, towels etc for £28 on ebay!!!! :happydance:) which may have to come home a little before the 20 weeks mark.

    I think if you can you should spread it out. In an ideal world we will probably go shopping for the big stuff while I'm on maternity as that will give us something to look forward to and me something to do while I'm off (I know me....I'll be bored very quickly! :rofl:)
     
  15. Seraphim

    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    Lol I must be loosing the plot.
    But I've been really bouncing inside the last couple of days since I allowed myself to start looking at all this stuff ;)
    When you said spreadsheet, I thought 'omg I need to see her spreadsheet, what has she found' ;)

    I've been looking at ebay, and there seem to be a lot of good deals from people locally. I'm trying to wait until I've been to a shop and looked at some of these things though. I don't want a £10 bargain turning into a £10 large lump of clutter which I end up buying a better version of because I didnt realise XYZ...

    Seeing good condition 2nd hand stuff at 20% of the original price really gets you thinking. But the big concern for me is the pram/car seat/system. £500 in the shops would make me feel so guilty - but I've got a problem with one of my legs, and getting around... and I just know the easier I make it to get out of the house and in and out of the car, the happier all our lives will be.

    For the same reasons I've always done 99.9% of my shopping online. But I think I'm going to have to get into the shops and try and fold and lift some of these damn things... are the people in mothercare trained and helpful do you think??
     
  16. aimee-lou

    aimee-lou Totally Outnumbered!!

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    He he...the megalith!, as hubby calls it, keeps growing and growing. I just made my list of furniture (can't remember where I found it) and got the prices of the ones I would like from Mothercare, Mamas and Papas and Babies R Us. Need to add a column for Argos too I think udging by a previous post.

    With ebay, I tend to only buy small, Brand new in Packaging stuff. Even when I buy clothes I prefer them to be new rather than second hand. I know it makes me sound like a snob but I don't like the thought of what people have done to my things! I'm going to buy smaller postable things too, everything else will most likely come from the high street. I've also been told what a gold mine the charity shops are.....Unlike with ebay you can actually see the condition of the item, and most now have a specialist large item/furniture section or shop. So i'll be paying them a visit soon!
     
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    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    I know what you mean, you don't know how other people keep their things. Or if their child has been an absolute germ monster.
    However my starting point is that if someone has paid £500 for something they might endevour to keep it nice ;) Plus I've only looked within 50 miles (which I mostly cover getting to work etc) so I can go and see anything if needs be.
    From alot of these it seems like there are a lot of people with more money than sense... they replace the damn things every few months :shock:
     
  18. mordino

    mordino Mum of 2 girls & an angel

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    When I was pregnant with my first child, I started shopping after 20 weeks. I was glad I waited because I got quite a lot of stuff from the Baby Show - cot-bed, Graco travel system, and a lot of small stuff. I would have spent more if I had known the gender of the baby. We had so much fun there - browsing and trying out some stuff. Alot of discounts there!

    This time, I will check out the sale bargains! I think I will wait till the summer sale. I know I will find it hard to resist a few cute things along the way!
     
  19. aimee-lou

    aimee-lou Totally Outnumbered!!

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    I know what you mean.....I look and some of them still have the tags attached!!

    I want to get my nursery rocking chair through ebay. Even with postage the ones on there are £100 cheaper new than the high street.

    I think just buying one thing at a time and letting people be 'generous' when they want to be, will get us a long way (my Dad is buying the pram which is really good of him, we just need to convince him to buy the one we want him to buy!! :rofl:)
     
  20. Lazy Leo

    Lazy Leo Well-Known Member

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    Hi Seraphim! I love your avatar but it made me double check I really was in the first tri section and hadn't clicked into third by mistake lol!
    I am really lucky as my mum has kept everything from when she had my brother and because he spent so much ime at my gran's she has two of everything except the pram lol! All I really need to get is a car seat and matresses for the cot and maybe the pram too. My brother is 11 now but I know my mum has kept everything in really good condition. Everything is neutral too, as she didn't find out if it was a boy or girl till he was born. It's annoying though because I can't really justify going and looking at lots of new things - I'll only find things I'll want lol!

    Toys r us have a 'registry' though which is kind of like a wedding list thing where you can list all the things you want, so I guess its a good way of knowing what the cost new would be? I think ebay is great because you can wash most things, heck if you want to use a weak dettol solution before doing a standard wash I'm sure that would be fine even for the baby.

    My one piece of advice is make sure your car seat has removable covers which can be washed. My friend only realised her's couldn't be removed when it was too late! They had to be hand sponged while still attached to the seat! Not handy at all!
     

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