Hi
First of all I want to say sorry for all your losses
My story
I am 46yrs old, hubby is now 55yrs and we have a 10yr old daughter (luckily conceived first time).
8yrs ago I miscarried at 15weeks (conceived on 2nd attempt).
Following my m/c 8yrs ago my hubby and I tried everything, I put my life on hold e.g. wouldn't book long haul flight to visit family incase I fell pregnant. Alas nothing happened and after a few yrs decided we had to start living again, also I wasn't getting any younger. By the time I reached about 44yrs we gave up trying, but never used contraception. I had missed a couple of periods here and there and put it down to starting the change. Nothing had happened in the last 6yrs it wasn't going to happen now. Imaging my surprise when I found out begining of May I was 5 weeks pregnant.
At 6wks 2days had ectopic scare, fortunately pain was due to a cyst, heart beat was detected and everything was ok. I went off on holiday long haul flight to Florida took extra care and didn't go on rides in parks. I spent alot of time worrying as high risk of most things including m/c.
At 9weeks 4days booked in with midwife, later in the day started spotting (this was the begining of the end last time) work colleagues bullied me into going (and went with me) to A&E I was reluctant to go as didn't want to have confirmed what I knew. Anyway scan showed no heart beat and measured 7weeks 4days. I opted to return to hospital today for op but Monday night nature very kindly and painfully took its course and nearly everything passed by Tuesday morning so consultant said no need for op.
My initial thoughts Tuesday were sterilisation, I could not put myself through this again. We had come to terms with the fact our daughter would be an only child, although after the shock of becoming pregnant at my age loved the idea of a little brother or sister for her.
What to do?
I know the chances of me falling pregnant again at 46yrs are slim and the chances of carrying a baby to term are slim. My head says sterilisation or mirena coils as could go through another m/c. However after reading on social network a friend is due the week before I was I am now wondering if I should give it another try as I would have loved more than one child. I know I am in emotional turmoil at the moment and deep down don't think hubby wants to try agian. But I just don't know what to do?
First of all I want to say sorry for all your losses
My story
I am 46yrs old, hubby is now 55yrs and we have a 10yr old daughter (luckily conceived first time).
8yrs ago I miscarried at 15weeks (conceived on 2nd attempt).
Following my m/c 8yrs ago my hubby and I tried everything, I put my life on hold e.g. wouldn't book long haul flight to visit family incase I fell pregnant. Alas nothing happened and after a few yrs decided we had to start living again, also I wasn't getting any younger. By the time I reached about 44yrs we gave up trying, but never used contraception. I had missed a couple of periods here and there and put it down to starting the change. Nothing had happened in the last 6yrs it wasn't going to happen now. Imaging my surprise when I found out begining of May I was 5 weeks pregnant.
At 6wks 2days had ectopic scare, fortunately pain was due to a cyst, heart beat was detected and everything was ok. I went off on holiday long haul flight to Florida took extra care and didn't go on rides in parks. I spent alot of time worrying as high risk of most things including m/c.
At 9weeks 4days booked in with midwife, later in the day started spotting (this was the begining of the end last time) work colleagues bullied me into going (and went with me) to A&E I was reluctant to go as didn't want to have confirmed what I knew. Anyway scan showed no heart beat and measured 7weeks 4days. I opted to return to hospital today for op but Monday night nature very kindly and painfully took its course and nearly everything passed by Tuesday morning so consultant said no need for op.
My initial thoughts Tuesday were sterilisation, I could not put myself through this again. We had come to terms with the fact our daughter would be an only child, although after the shock of becoming pregnant at my age loved the idea of a little brother or sister for her.
What to do?
I know the chances of me falling pregnant again at 46yrs are slim and the chances of carrying a baby to term are slim. My head says sterilisation or mirena coils as could go through another m/c. However after reading on social network a friend is due the week before I was I am now wondering if I should give it another try as I would have loved more than one child. I know I am in emotional turmoil at the moment and deep down don't think hubby wants to try agian. But I just don't know what to do?
I'm still waiting for the chromosomal to come back the miscarriage before this one the baby had chromosomal problems and I miscarried. I'm still in shock it happened again but I'm trying not to cry in front of my hubby as I don't want him to not want to try again if he sees how much it impacts me.
