When are you telling your employer?

[mummy_vic]

Just curious really? I was toying with the idea of telling them this week as I work in quite a stressful environment but feel anxious at the idea so I'm going to try and wait until as close to 12 weeks as possible if not a little later. What is everyone else doing?

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

i previously told them at about 9 weeks and that was good. this time im waiting until at least after the 12 week scan and probably a couple of weeks more. not too long though otherwise you might get rumbled early which would be embarrassing plus it will help them plan for your absence.

 

[GeralynB]

I'll prob tell around 14 or 15 weeks

 

[babe2ooo]

I'll tell my work soon cause I will have to take time off for mid-wife app so I will have to tell them cause I still get paid for medical absents. TThere not aloud to tell anyone to which is good.

 

[ladders]

I have to tell them as soon as unfortunately as I work as a veterinary nurse loads of things I can't do like mask anaesthetics and chemotherapy and certain drugs I can't handle. Am hoping I can just tell people that I have to but it will be pretty obvious to everyone which sucks because I'd rather wait until the first scan but for me its too dangerous

 

[Nina83]

I'm toying around with the idea of telling her now.
With my losses, she obviously knew, and I know she's had a few herself.
She already caught me crying from stress (spotting) a few days ago, and I just feel that if she knows now it will be better.
I don't have much interaction with her, I work under other people, so it would be good if she knew and just told them I'm sick or whatever, instead of me explaining to them.

 

[MissyLissy]

I'm toying with the idea of telling work after my scan tomorrow. I'll be 8+1. May not tell my actual boss yet, but I might at the very least tell one if my co-workers whom I'm a bit more close to to get her advise as to when to tell. I work in a demanding job... I feel like they need to know, plus it will be quite the ordeal to cover my absence (if I end up staying at all-still undecided). I just feel like the sooner they know the better...but it's a fine line.

 

[laurag15]

Im not as far gone as any of you but am thinking maybe I should tell work asap because I work in a shop and alot of the time Im behind the till. Just worried that it will be too obvioius if I get morning sickness and Im needing to throw up all the time?

 

[DocMcStuffins]

I told my boss at 7 weeks as I was going for an early scan and needed time off. Plus I was starting to show way earlier this time with it being my third.

I'm now 11 weeks and look like I did when I was 20 weeks with my previous pregnancies so no way on earth I would have been able to keep it quiet much longer.

Plus they did a risk assessment for me at work which was good because I know they won't be expecting me to do anything that could cause harm to me or the baby.

Tell them when you feel comfortable doing so though. You do t have any legal obligation to tell them yet.

X

 

[newbie1992]

I told my boss straight away, she was so good about everything, eventhough i was clearly very nervous. So i was probably about 7 weeks and at 19 weeks ive just passed my probation its taught me tell straight away as it builds trust i think.

 

[pinkcatgirl]

I'm dreading telling my employer as a couple of days after I got my BFP, the other woman who works there announces she's 12 weeks pregnant! It's a GP practice with 4 Drs, 2 female and we are both pregnant. They are soooo not going to be impressed, especially as prev said "take turns to have babies!" . But I didn't know she was trying, and I wouldn't want to wait another year anyway, took me a few months to get my BFP!!

 

[laurag15]

I told my boss today. Had to go in the office anyway to sort my wages out so i thought i would just tell him. He was surprisingly very supportive

 

[RcdM]

I was reading all kinds of threads like this recently to try to get some advice. I was at my previous company for over 5 years and wasn't necessarily looking to change companies. Me and my SO wanted to try for our second after my birthday in January, so we literally tried just that weekend. But then that week I became interested in applying for this job at a new company. So we decided that it would be better to wait and see how this goes, and if I got it, we'd wait another 6 months to a year to TTC again.

I interviewed and everything went great and I got the job! But then of course... I found out I was pregnant right before I started. It took us almost 9 months of TTC to have my dd, so I was so sure it would take a while to get pregnant again. Nope - apparently all it takes is once! LOL! So I started the job pregnant and was so so nervous to tell my boss.

I told her last Friday - I had only been here for 6 full weeks - I seriously had butterflies in my stomach. She is a mom of 2 younger boys so I was glad to have that in my favor. Her reaction was so much better than I hoped. In the back of my mind I knew she'd be okay with it, but I was just picturing her being upset that her new hire is going to be gone for 3 months. But she was happy for me, she said congratulations, and then we ended up talking about babies and pregnancy for over an hour! It turned out we actually had A LOT in common. It was great and I felt so much better. She said the timing is perfect too because I'll be out from October - December and the end of the year is much slower.

It felt so good to get that weight off of my shoulders. I didn't want to wait until I was like 20 weeks because I felt so bad already hiding this from them. I wanted to give her as much notice as possible (after the first tri) so it wasn't a surprise and then them having to scramble with figuring out what projects to take me off of and have to give to others. This way she knows now and she can give me projects that won't overlap with that timeframe. She was also super nice and said she's really flexible with me leaving for appointments and if I'm ever feeling sick I can work from home. I'm so relieved.

Sorry I know that was a lot more than the original question, haha, but wanted to share my story.

 

[mwel8819]

I told mine right after my 6 week appointment. My company is SUPER good about family and such. It's in our core values. Great place to work! I wasn't nervous at all about telling them. They were very happy for me.

 

[littlelegs91]

I told my boss the day after my 12 week scan so I was 12 + 5 x

 

[Lucyjo81]

I told my boss yesterday at 4+5 due to the nature of my job. I'm a residential care worker for people with challenging behaviour. She was really happy for me and sorted out risk assessments straight away xx

 

[mummy_vic]

Really interesting to read what you are all doing. An incident at work today means I'm having to tell this week, the safety of my baby will have to come before my silly anxiety about jinxing things!

 

[Gingerspice]

Because dd starts school in sept I am planning on starting maternity at 29 weeks and then 3 weeks annual leave so I can be there from the start of dd going to school. I can do the drop off and collection and focus on her (giving me time during day to sort stuff pre-baby). My hope is there will be no association to her being 'booted out' to school and a new baby coming as we'll have had maybe 10 weeks of just us and school run.

Anyway, because I'm leaving so early, if I waited until I legally had to tell work at week 25 then I'd tell them and 'oh by the way I'm off next week'

So I'm planning on telling them early (after 8 week scan and after we've told family) so they know come August I'm off. (All being well)

 

[nerdybird]

I'm only 6 weeks and am trying to wait til after 12 weeks to tell anyone, but I may have to tell the boss sooner. I have to handle pesticides, herbicides, and other bad-for-baby chemicals at my job. I've avoided having to do so up til now, but that won't last for long and sooner or later I'll have to explain why I can no longer do certain things.