When did you let the cat out of the bag??

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  1. sun

    sun Mum of 3

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    Hi all - I just joined!
    I am 6w1d pregnant :happydance:, and you are the first to find out other than my doc. Sooooo my question for you all is how long did you wait to tell everyone??? I want to tell my extended family by 10-12 weeks, but I am hoping that I can hold out for 4-5 months at work??? I want to make sure I am safely out of 1st trimester before letting the cat out of the bag, but I really want to delay it at work.
    Does this sound possible or am I losing my mind>???
    I just hope I will be able to manage the symptoms without attracting attention - I have a mid to high stress job with long hours.
    So how did you all manage???
     
  2. mrso

    mrso Lovin my Family

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    I am not telling anybody except my mom, Dh grandmother, and brother-in-law. The only reason that grandma and BIL know are because I babysit his daughter and am trying to form a plan for after I have baby.

    There are 2 other girls in our family that are pregnant with their 1st and one of them has been TTC for 7 years (she now is using a surragot). Plus one of my other family members is getting married mid May and she really wants a baby. I dont want to rain on anybodys parade so we are keeping it to ourselves until week 14. Hopefully I am not showing to much by then.

    It is so hard to keep it a secret. I just want to shout it from the mountain tops. Patience.
     
  3. KJunkie

    KJunkie Guest

    I finally told my mom on Easter at 9wks+3days, so everyone in my family knows now I am sure. I finally announced it on my myspace yesterday. So, I didn't wait quite as long as I should have!
     
  4. clarabella

    clarabella DH, DD & 2 cats!

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    So far i've told the grandparents, and two close friends, but we did use assisted conception to get pregnant, and so i wanted to let these people know as they knew what we were going through.

    As for everyone else, i have a scan booked on Monday and if everything is ok, i may tell a couple of other friends, but then i'll wait until the end of the first Trimester to tell the world!! I wear a uniform for work, and my work trousers are already getting too tight, so i will need to tell them at the end of the first tri in order to get some maternity work wear ordered. There's no way i'd be able to hide it until 4-5 months, i'm SURE i'll have a sizeable bump by then, but then if you'd prefer not to tell, and your not showing, then keep it to yourself, although you must let your employer know by the 15th week before your baby is due (if you live in the UK).

    Congrats on your pregnancy!
     
  5. littlestar

    littlestar Proud Mum to a Little Boy

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    We told immediate family as soon as we'd had our bloods confirmed (as my :bfp: was really feint) they knew we were trying as i was heading to a Fertility specialist (turned up PG!) so they were gonna ask about my appointment anyway.

    I told work at 7w+2 after my early scan (didn't know how far i was as :bfp: on 3/3 LMP was 30/12) I do alot of driving (600-1000miles p/w) with my job so i told them to be safe really.

    We Let the cat out of the bag to the public domain yesterday, after my dating scan - at 9w+5 as i won't get another scan till 20weeks now and having seen the heartbeat twice now and a little wiggler yesterday we'd claimed it safe for telling the world. So i told my work colleagues, extended family and will let everyone know at my slimming world group know today (i can't wait for the fuss!)
     
  6. ahava

    ahava me & hubby

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    ive been so ill lately, that unfortuntely i was supposed to go to my cousins barmitzvah today, but, i couldnt. My husband has gone for me, and will have to tell close relatives why im not there even though we didnt want to....not even my mom in law knows....
     
  7. Mumof42009

    Mumof42009 Mum Of 4 Preemie's

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    I havent told my family yet as im scared of there reaction so keep putting it off, i will be 13 weeks monday and got a sizable bump already its just i dont want to fall out with them over this and knowing my parents they will fall out with me xx
     
  8. catty_smith

    catty_smith Well-Known Member

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    With my first I told everyone at 5 weeks....I was so excited and naive to it all (being unplanned) that I couldn't hold it in!

    Second time I had to tell everyone at about 8 weeks because my best friend was getting married and I was a bridesmaid. We had the whole hen thing and wedding to go through and me not touching a drop of alchohol wouldn't have been acceptable for any other reason!

    This time we're trying to wait until 12 weeks. My SIL recently, very sadly, had a M/C at about 8ish weeks. She was absolutely devestated and it affected the whole family. Although I'm feeling like total bobbins now and won't be far from the toilet for months now so some people are probably going to work things out for theirselves!
     
  9. Kirstin

    Kirstin Well-Known Member

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    Most of OHs family know, I dont want to tell mine to around 12 weeks.
     
  10. Seraphim

    Seraphim Amazing Baby Girl

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    We charged in there ;)

    It was hard enough keeping it a secret from family as long as we did, but mothers day was coming up - and we wanted to give them a special present :D

    We got them cards which said Grandma :happydance:

    After my first GP appointment I got The Pack, and once I threw all the advertising away, I found a leaflet on work, and it highlighted that you're only legally covered by discrimination laws (in the UK this is) AFTER you tell your boss.

    I told the MD and told him I didn't want the rest of staff to know yet. He still swears he didn't even tell the CEO/Owner of the company, which surprised me ;)

    We told work and then our friends after the 2nd 8w scan.
     
  11. janie0

    janie0 Well-Known Member

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    First time I was well into the 2nd Tri before we shared. This time, we've shared the news with my best friend & hubby, since we spend so much time together. Also my 2 sisters & a friend who is also expecting. Other than than....it's hush-hush for now.
     
  12. charlottesma

    charlottesma Mum to 2!

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    I told work first as I work in a high risk job and needed to know if there were going to be able to extend my contract as it's temporary, my boss was very supportive and hopes t be able to extend it till Christmas at least which means I will qualify for maternity leave with 90% pay for 6 weeks then SMP.

    other than that only the OH and DD know we want to wait on telling family as my brother has an interview on the 9th May for his dream job, which would mean him being in America from September for a year, I don;' want him knowing before he has the interview and hopefully makes the choice, as were pretty close and I don't want to affect his choice. So I think I will be about 16 weeks by then.

    I don't expect my parents to be especially supportive of our timing though as I'm on a temporary contract and the OH is just going back to uni. still after not talking to me for the whole of Charlotte's pregnancy they came round pretty quick once she arrived and I expect the same this time.

    I'm more worried about telling them about the rare genetic blood disorder, I expect it will cause them a lot of heartache and if my brother decides to get tested and is found to be a carrier, given his good health it is pretty unlikely he has it, it will make it harder for him to get travel insurance.

    Friends will have to wait until after family know.

    I was worried my parents would guess but having seen them a few days ago when my mum commented she though I was losing weight, LOL, I don;t think I need to worry.
     
  13. aimee-lou

    aimee-lou Totally Outnumbered!!

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    We did the same - told family on Mothers day as we were at 9weeks by then and thought that if anything happened after that they would be able to support us, and they would be mad if they didn't know.MIL was disappointed that her card didn't have a scan pic in but then again you cn't please everyone!!! :rofl:

    Told my boss at 5 weeks as I was late a couple of times and I felt I owed him an explanation. I've noticed my otivation for work coming back recently so I'm hoping I haven't tested his patience too much.

    Hubby and I both told a couple of people at work/friends so that we could just let some of the excitement out....It just got a little too much. Everyone else, will be told on tuesday after out scan.....and I really really really cannot wait!!!!!
     
  14. Lazy Leo

    Lazy Leo Well-Known Member

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    I told my mum and dad more at about 5 and a half weeks ght away, but that was mainly because she was giving me a hug and making sure I was ok as my EDD from my previous m/c was the week before. I was able to tell her I was 'really' ok. I told my best friend and her hubby at 8 weeks, my granparents at 10 weeks and then another friend & hubby at 11 weeks (like one of the other posters because i had a Hen Night to go on and had run out of excuses by 11 weeks!)

    We told hubby's parents yesterday bang on 12 weeks as it was his mum's 70th birthday. We are now trying to organise to see other friends who stay a bit further away so we can tell them in person.

    I don't intend to post on facebook though as my little brother is 11 and will be hugely excited. I want to wait till at least 4 months and possibly 5 if my bump will allow it before telling him. The way I see it the 6 week summer holiday is a lifetime for kids, 6 months is like light years away for them lol and my mum will never get a minutes piece - never mind 'are we nearly there yet' it will be 'is it nearly October yet?!'
     
  15. sun

    sun Mum of 3

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    Wow - thanks for all the great replies!
    I had to switch over to the "terms and abbreviations" section a few times though :)- I will get used to the lingo.
    Though I want to hold off telling everyone - It is SOOOOO hard! The days are crawling by - I feel like I have been keeping the secret for months, not just weeks. Also, I don't want to tempt fate by telling everyone early - I know that sounds crazy, but I felt that way even signing up for an account here or calling for a midwife app't! Oh well - time will pass - I just need to keep myself distracted. We were ttc for a long time that I really want this one to stick!!!
     
  16. embo216

    embo216 Mummy to 3 <3

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    i've told close family and friends but i'll wait till my 12 week scan till I tell more people :D
     

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