When did you share the news with friends & fam???

[persimmon331]

Hi lovely ladies,

This is DH and my first pregnancy and we were wondering how long you waited to tell your friends and family. I've heard most people wait till 12 weeks, but just wanted to check around.


Hope all is going well with you (and your bumps)

 

[mummy2lola]

Last month was my first pregnancy and we weren't gonna say anything until 12 weeks,but when I started to mc I told them all anyway as needed help getting to hospital.so this time as soon as I poas I told them coz I'm trying to do everything different lol xx

 

[Jess812]

we wanted to wait til 12 week mark but couldnt!!

i was about 5 weeks or a little more, told very close friends we see all the time, and family-parents, sisters, brothers. that was it.

 

[Deniz]

We went for a private scan yesterday, and saw everything was fine with the baby. Then told the families. I'm going to wait for 12 week to tell my work & others.

 

[RebeccaR19]

I told my family immediately. I also had to tell my neighbor because I had agreed to clean her cat's litter box out for her while she's on vacation, and now I can't do it. I also had to tell two of my coworkers who I am around all of the time because I'm constantly having to go to the bathroom at work.

I've been contemplating just going ahead and telling everyone. My mom thinks I should wait. Part of me thinks what will be will be and telling won't change anything. But I'm trying my hardest to wait until my first doctor appointment (on Wednesday) or maybe my first scan. It's hard to not just go ahead and tell everyone.

 

[MMonroe8]

We just found out a few days ago and immediately called my mom and dad (who I talk to everyday - I would have slipped anyway). The next day, after testing again, we called my in-laws, and told them. We are waiting until Christmas to tell everyone else in the family; I should be around 10 weeks then. I think we will wait until around that time to tell work as well just to be safe.

 

[Sooz]

I told my BF at 5 weeks due to going on holiday with her and my family after my 12 week scan. DH told his family at 8 weeks after our first scan.

 

[Essie]

We went for an early scan yesterday and were going to tell parents last night but the scan only showed the sac, no hearbeat yet so we're waiting till our repeat scan in two weeks and if everything is okay then we'll probably tell close family after that.

 

[SMFirst]

Hi all

This is the first post I have made in the 1st Tri section as I am a little scared to believe I am actually pregnant.. (had a chemical pregnancy last cycle).

So I am about 4 weeks right now, and my DH really wants to tell the parents at Christmas.

It will be nice timing, and by then I am sure I will be ready to tell but I would have like to wait until after our first scan to be more confident..

 

[ronnie1234]

I've told family, friends & work. A few people are linked & was just easier to get out in open. Plus if anything went wrong people would know. It was also easier as would have to tell fibs to so many people otherwise!

Why have you cut down on cups of tea?

Why aren't you having a alcoholic drink!

People would guess & whisper anyway, so just easier to get out in open!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

We told our parents at 9 and 10 weeks after sucessful scans.

I'll tell work and our best friends after Xmas at 17weeks.

The rest of our family and friends will find out at 20weeks, I'll just have to avoid people until then!xxx

 

[Delish]

We told everyone really early last time around, family straight away and I planned to wait with work but was so sick I had no choice.
This time around I'd like to wait 3 months, partly as they'll only be 18 months apart and I'm worried there might be some disapproval! But I don't see me making it very far without telling at least one person, I hate keeping secrets! Also I feel the sickness coming on already and I think it's going to be very, very hard to keep it to myself while looking after a baby already.

 

[momof2girlz]

Wait until 12 weeks. We just had to tell our family our twins didn't have any heartbeats at our 11.5 week appt. Very hard to talk about it now. Not to scare you, it's just easier to wait!

 

[Icey]

I agree with the above, I would always wait until 12 weeks, i had a scan for one of my pregnacies at 7 weeks and sawa lovely heartbeat only to go back for a scan a week later to check a cyst on my ovary and there was no heartbeat. Not meaning to be a downer, but i was so glad i didnt tell anyone as having got familes hopes up i would have felt even worse telling them it was over. I had a missed miscarriage too with no pain, no bleeding, no signs of problems and i would likely have got to 11-12 weeks and found out baby had gone at 7 weeks. I cant even imagine how much it would have hurt to have told people and talked and planned the baby to then have to break news that we had lost it. I know its not nice to think about and its the last think that many people think about who have bnever had a loss or are in their first pregnancy, but take it from someone who has experienced the pain of MC, please be cautious and wait until you have had a scan at 10weeks plus xx

 

[Palestrina]

Wait until 12 weeks. We just had to tell our family our twins didn't have any heartbeats at our 11.5 week appt. Very hard to talk about it now. Not to scare you, it's just easier to wait!

My heart goes out to you When I hear of something like this it strengthens my resolve to not share the news with anyone until 12wks. It is so difficult to contain the news though, I'm bursting at the seams.

 

[missjaime]

we told my parents at 4 weeks when we found out and partners parents a week later since they were away . planned on keeping quiet till about 10 11 weeks but his mum decided to go tell her family after we said shut up. then she started posting a baby in the womb growing on facebook so i had to call my family and let them no so they wouldnt find out any other way. a couple of people now know at work due to the fact i cant use some of the chemicals there and keep gettin others to lift stuff for me but they are all keeping quiet they dont want to jinx me
well probably just let it out in a week or so my partner wants to tell people

 

[leafygreenmum]

We are gonna try and hold out 'til Xmas, then tell the family together. It's hard to keep it secret from my mum though, she is like my best friend and I think that she might guess before then!

 

[natalie85]

we told my parents at 4 weeks when we found out and partners parents a week later since they were away . planned on keeping quiet till about 10 11 weeks but his mum decided to go tell her family after we said shut up. then she started posting a baby in the womb growing on facebook so i had to call my family and let them no so they wouldnt find out any other way. a couple of people now know at work due to the fact i cant use some of the chemicals there and keep gettin others to lift stuff for me but they are all keeping quiet they dont want to jinx me
well probably just let it out in a week or so my partner wants to tell people

we had same probs with family telling everyone soooooo annoying!!!

 

[fifi-folle]

We found out about SILs pregnancy through FB, a cousin in Australia heard from her mum (DH's aunt) who had been told by my FIL. Needless to say we've not told him yet!
My Mum figured it out before I had tested but didn't say anything. I told her when we saw them a few days after we got BFP. Trying not to tell people til 12 weeks.

 

[raisin]

Ideally we would have loved to wait until our first scan to tell family and friends but we had a mc in July at 10 weeks and decided to tell family today (at 4 weeks) because we feel we would need the support if we were in that situation again.

I think it's a very personal decision when to tell friends and family and you need to do what feels right for you and your other half.