When do you start feeling relaxed?

[jrowenj]

I just found out 10 days ago that I am pregnant after 1 mmc and a chemical...

It's such a rollercoaster of emotions. One minute I am so excited and relaxed and the next minute I am doubtful.... Just wondering when I am going to feel excited!

 

[SabrinaKat]

As you can see my ticker, I had a mc and my rainbow is 3 months today -- I still haven't relaxed yet (just kidding!). Just try to take it one day/one milestone at a time. For me, it was when I had passed the mc date, I got a little excited, but really, it was when I could finally feel LO moving and that reassured me. Then, it was past 24 wks, etc.

Best wishes (and congrats!)

 

[jrowenj]

Thanks!!!! My first sono is in 3 weeks so i suppose i need to relax til then at least

 

[Dahlia2007]

I relaxed the day of my first sono at 6+3 weeks. Then went back to worrying right after that only because it's hard not to! I never had any bleeding, but after a loss it's just stressful. Then I had another scan at 9+3 and felt really good that day since baby was bouncing around in there. Still worried after that, but not as much. Heard the heartbeat on the doppler at 11+2 and after that I think I felt more confident. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow and continuing to be happy about it all

 

[Natsby]

I agree the doppler helps a lot. I relaxed after 12 weeks and now I´m starting to show I even believe it too.

 

[jaggers]

I LOVE YOU GUYS for letting us know how it is when you get your BFP after a loss. I'm scared I wont enjoy it but I also don't want to spoil it. Good luck to you all and STICKY BEANS!!! (Why don't we have a sticky Bean smiley? )

 

[jrowenj]

It's so bittersweet! I want to be excited and enjoy every minute, but I also want to be prepared in case something happens... but i KNOW this is my sticky bean and I need to relax and enjoy the ride! I get to see the little bean in 2 weeks and I can't wait!

 

[Dahlia2007]

Oh yeah I forgot to mention that compared to my previous pregnancies, I felt guilty for not being able to enjoy it. It's only natural to worry after a loss. I think it just takes some time and positive doctor appointments and you'll be smiling in no time

Lol as for that sticky bean icon.... It should be a "bean" jumping onto one of those Velcro walls

 

[Pink Sunshine]

I'm 21+1 and still haven't completely relaxed. I have to say that I have gotten tons better though. In 1st tri I paniced all the time about everything. I went to the doc every other week in tears because I was convinced it had died. I checked my temp about 20 times a day. Every time I peed I closely inspected my panties, TP, inside the toilet. I was nuts! But at about 14 weeks I started to relax and just be happy. This week I even ordered a crib and bedding. I even had her name put on her quilt. It's a girl and her name is Sophia Marina. I am so proud her every time I go to the doc. Her growth/weight/develepment is on the mark every time! (now I'm crying) So don't you worry. Your LO is going to be just fine. So sit back, relax, and enjoy being a mom.

BTW, happy mother's day to all of us!

 

[duckytwins]

I don't think I'll be able to fully relax until baby is here. We had a 2nd tri loss, so for me, the first tri will just be worry afer worry. Baby was fine at every early scan. I think as soon as I get past the date we found out there was a problem, I might be able to breathe a little easier. But I know deep down, if something happens, there's nothing I can do to make it better or make it stop.

I am, however, being less frantic than last time. With Tess, I flew to the ER every time I saw blood. This time, I'm drinking more water (and it's helping) and just going one day at a time.

to you, sweetie. I wish there was some way to know everything is going to be perfect, but faith, hope pma and lots of prayers do help make it easier!

 

[jrowenj]

I feel pretty calm, surprisingly!

 

[duckytwins]

that's great! (I sent you a pm)

 

[Stinkerbell]

I haven't started to relax yet wish I could but I'm still doing 'the knicker check' every time I go to the toilet x

 

[duckytwins]

Yes, I check my paper after every pee. I just can't help it...

 

[Natsby]

I imagine I´ll tp check for the whole pregnancy, but generally I feel relaxed now and I have a quick listen to my bump when I don´t and the hb soothes me.

 

[duckytwins]

I'm having a slight freak out today. This afternoon, I started getting these sharp pains in my tummy. No blood, though... what could that be?

 

[jrowenj]

Uterus stretching????

 

[duckytwins]

I hope so!

 

[jrowenj]

Im sure! I read a few posts a while back about pains making women double over and bein normal! Im sure ur bug is gettin cozy

 

[crancherry]

I was completely worried until we saw/heard a heartbeat at 7+4. I still "check" every time I go to the bathroom though, I have a feeling that will continue the whole time. It still hasn't really sunk in that this is real yet, and I am now 10+3. But I think I finally accepted that all I can do is take care of myself the best I can and the rest will be what it will be. Coming to that realization helped me relax. I was at a point where I was squishing my boobs all the time to make sure they still hurt I just realized yesterday that they don't hurt anymore and I must have quit being so worried since I don't know when they stopped hurting