When will these post partum blues end?

[nicem815]

Hi all!
So yeah...my baby is almost 4 months old and I still battle with the depression from time to time. It resonates in different ways....from extreme anxiety and worry about her well being to just feeling so insecure and upset feeling like my husband and I let ourselves go to being lonely because we share a car and he works 10+ hour days so I feel isolated in my house. I don't know what to do. I feel like every time I start feeling better, I get another bout of the blues. It's so bad that my apartment being disorganized seriously makes me want to pull my hair out, that's how overwhelmed I am.

Please tell me I'm not alone!!

 

[LittleLala]

Big hugs you are not alone! There are so many women who battle with pp depression.
Have you seen a doctor, or a psychologist about it? Even being able to talk through all of your thoughts and feelings might help.

Maybe a daily walk with the pram might make you feel a little better? I'm not sure. I hope you are okay, and know that you can always talk to people on here about it.
X

 

[bundle4me]

Are you Breast feeding? I am and now and then I still get really emotional whether it's worry, sadness and i even cry when I am happy haha all hormones that can't be helped. My lo is also 4 months

 

[nicem815]

Are you Breast feeding? I am and now and then I still get really emotional whether it's worry, sadness and i even cry when I am happy haha all hormones that can't be helped. My lo is also 4 months

Yesss I am!! Do you think that affects it? I totally understand!!

 

[twobecome3]

the early days were so hard! if you can push yourself to get out, its really a game changer. mine was a winter baby I remember sitting on a snowy balcony us both bundled up and lo napping in her carseat and me drinking coffee and reading a magazine, just to be 'out'. lol !

 

[bundle4me]

Are you Breast feeding? I am and now and then I still get really emotional whether it's worry, sadness and i even cry when I am happy haha all hormones that can't be helped. My lo is also 4 months

Yesss I am!! Do you think that affects it? I totally understand!!

Yes definitely think it has an affect so I wouldn't worry to much, sometimes I think I'm crazy, up and down but I know it's just hormones so I don't fret about it too much.

 

[wildchic]

Hi,

I know this post is almost 2 weeks old, but thought I'd give my experience and thoughts.

My twins are 11months now and at about 5/6 months pp, I was diagnosed with ppd. I felt empty,alone and cried all the time.
I had my MIL helping me with house work, but I saw to my girls. I didn't really get out much and I counted the hours until my dd1 got home from school or till dh got home from work.
It was hell crying all the time day in and day out and not knowing the reason for the tears.
I took it upon myself to get to my doctor to get checked out. I suggested bloodwork to check my thyroid, which was clear. I breastfed(still do) and read that that can also contribute to ppd.
I was eventually put on a low dose of antidepressants and it didn't help. Meds were increased and I feel like great!!!
Yes, I'm on meds for a long period, but I'd take that any day than be miserable!

I was advised to sit in the sunlight(it helps with dorphins). Try to get out, even if its for a walk around the block. Talking about it also helps.

I hope you're feeling better. to you, I know how it feels.

 

[noon_child]

What you describe sounds much more like ppd than "baby blues". Baby blues is an effect of hormones that nearly all mothers will experience to some extent or another, but is usually brief. Ppd is longer lasting and can be made worse by contributing factors like isolation, lack of support, too many expectations/pressures etc. Difficulties breastfeeding can contribute to ppd BUT successfully breastfeeding actually lowers your likelihood of ppd - although that's statistics, so it doesn't affect your reality (you are still depressed) it is just not likely to be linked to breastfeeding. Hormones involved in breastfeeding are happy hormones. It is much more likely to be the reality of grieving for your old life, having limited freedom because you don't have the car, having no time to spend with your OH, sleep deprivation etc. Combined with the Mummy hormones which cause "baby blues" early on, these realities can lead to anxiety spirals and persistent low mood even once the hormones have levelled out. I would advise talking over your options with a doctor. I have always suffered with anxiety and sometimes depression ad I recognise that hair pulling feeling when looking around at your environment - what you need to realise is that this feeling is not there to tell you that you need to be better at tidying, it is there to tell you that something else is wrong inside and you need to tell someone.

 

[Perplexed]

if you still feel this way Hun do tell someone. I suffered w ppd with my first and didn't seek help. after my 2nd though I did and I feel really good now. wish I had help w my first I would have enjoyed those days more.