When's it supposed to get easier?

[moomin momma]

ever?

We're just coming up on 6 months and I'm despairing. I've spent the past few days just crying because I'm so fed up. LO's sleeping has gone from OK to terrible over the past couple of months - at night we're lucky if we get a few hours solid from her, naps just don't happen unless she falls asleep in the car or on me while she's feeding. I'm stressing because I'm going back to work in just over a month and my DH will then look after her 4 days a week. How's she supposed to nap on him, he won't be BFing her!

She's vomiting LOADS which means I have a choice of walking round stinking of sick all day or constantly washing. I don't have time for the latter so I stink. I can't remember the last time I had more than ten minutes when I wasn't with her, trying to sleep, trying to feed myself or catching up on cleaning and washing. Me time doesn't exist. My DH bought me a Lush bathbomb the other day as a treat and I just cried at him. When do I get time to have a bath? A shower every other day or so if I'm lucky.

Seriously, I thought it was meant to start getting easier at some point. I'd actually say the past two months has been the hardest. The only thing that's keeping me going right now is thinking she's at 26 weeks 2 days so MAYBE after she comes out of WW26 things might get easier. Have only been able to write this as she's in her jumperoo, which entertains her for all of 10minutes at a time. I absolutely love her to bits, she's my world, and I'm trying my best to hide from her how unhappy I am, but I just don't know what to do any more. Don't know what I'm expecting by posting this, just need to get it off my chest and it's this or throw some crockery at the wall just for the release.

 

[EllaAndLyla]

I have no advice but didn't want to read and run xxxx

 

[fidget]

i'm right with you! i know i'm right in the middle of WW26 but i feel like im going backwards! nighttimes are horrible, naptimes have gone to sh*t, i just have not enjoyed the past week at all. everybody told me it would get easier but it's not, it's harder. he's clingy and whingey, i've had to go back to baby wearing last night as i had to cook dinner and he sobbed every time i put him down. the only time he's quite is if he's sleeping, feeding or in the bath.

i hate moaning as i love him so much but i'm finding it really hard. i'm sure it was easier with a newborn, as he slept all day and he was much easier to carry around when he wasn't 17lbs lol

 

[bimbojo]

i'm so glad its not just me. I feel like ww26 has lasted forever and poor dh i keep bursting into tears. Stan is my world and i wouldn't change anything but that doesn't mean it isn't isolating or hard. dh works long hours and we have no family near by so its just us. i don't think anything prepares you for the lack of sleep, loads of laundry or not having time to even brush your teeth sometimes. when Stan is eventually asleep (i have to hold him for this to happen and he is 18lbs) i tell dh a story about something great that has happened so that i dont feel i'm always moaning about being tired.

one day we will look back and say do you remember those crazy weeks!

 

[Natsku]

It got easier for me when Maria started to crawl. Even though the sleep is still so difficult (though starting to improve) I'm able to get 'me time' now as she entertains herself crawling around but for the month or so before she could crawl she was a horrid whingebag most of the time she was awake with WW26 and all that jazz.

So hopefully things will get better for you ladies once your babies are on the move

 

[moomin momma]

Thanks everyone, feel a bit better now. Definitely helps to know I'm not alone and that this is a normal stage. she's asleep on me again - have tried twice today to transfer her to the cot and failed, so have given in just so she can get some sleep!

 

[Kitten-B]

I felt like that up to when Sam was about 8 months. Once he started crawling it did help a lot as he was sort of able to entertain himself for a bit on the floor. I still have days like that though, not sure if ever gets easier.

Has she reflux? Is that why she vomits so much? Sam had reflux and was sick all the time but once we got going on weaning at about 6-7 months it suddenly almost 100% cleared up. So hopefully not too far away for you too! Does she have anything for it? Sam had a feed thickener called Carobel up until 7 months (prescribed by GP but can buy over counter) and it made a big difference.

I find the thing that helps most with Sam is going to baby classes (we went to yoga, massage, go to sign language, baby sensory, gymbabes) and parent and toddler groups. He was the same with the Jumperoo - 10 mins entertainment max but so if your LO is also easily bored lots of baby activities may help? And it helps him sleep during the day (which he isn't great at)!

 

[moomin momma]

I thought she might have reflux so I took her to the GP but she said it was just normal. I'm not convinced as when she does it when we're out other mums look at us like she's a freak.

We do go to baby groups but they tend to be later in the day by which point she's not napped and so is grumpy. Took her to one on Tuesday and she grizzled all the way through.

I keep thinking she can't be far off crawling - she no longer flails her arms during tummy time, but does prop herself up and try to push off with her legs, so hopefully that might come soon!