Who is overdue?

[Eternal]

Any tips on how to keep sane?

I know its still classed as "normal" to have a baby between 40 - 42 weeks but its really killing me now! Physically i am exhursted, mentally and emotionally i am drained!

I really cant see if this goes on much longer that i could actually give birth.

I also cant see baby coming any time soon, i am still very high and having chronic acid reflux, last check i was only 2/5 engaged :S, i havent lost any plug or show or anything of the sorts.

I have pains, lower back pain, period type pains, BH for almost 5 weeks now, to the point where walking is now horredous as the pains get so bad, but then NOTHING happens.

Anyway ... anyone else want to moan? Or have any tips on how to cope?

 

[daisydoo]

I'm with you hun. I'm only due today but feel like this baby is in it for the long haul. Much the same, no show, no cramps, no 'feelings' and baby is still so high up it hurts sitting anyway other than bolt upright cos it's bum is so firmly up in my ribs. I was lucky to get a sweep yesterday, but have had nothing from it at all not even cramps so feel like I'm not getting anywhere. I don't have SPD like you do though I'm sorry for you over that must be awful I find getting around hard enough even without it. Are you trying the usual - pineapple, birthing ball, RLT? I've decided to spend much of today on my ball in the hope it starts moving things down.
anyway, big you're not alone!

 

[Eternal]

Thanks hun, so u got a sweep even though baby is still high? thats good to know, thought they wouldnt if baby was too high! i am supposed to have one tomorrow so fingers crossed that may start something!

I have tried;
RTL
Evening primrose oil (orally and internaly :S)
bouncying on the ball
Sex
Spicy foods
walking
every armoatherapy oil i can find in the UK that is supposed to induce labour, including clary sage which i used a whole bottle in under 2 weeks :S
think thats about it
tried pinapple juice but aparentely u need to eat like 8 whole pinapples to have any affect! not sure if i could do that lol!

Oh well, poor us! apparently most 1st babies come at 40+5 so i am now looking to that date for some hope lol!

I just dont know what to do with myself and all this waiting :S

Good luck!

 

[daisydoo]

Well the midwife I saw last week said I wouldnt get a sweep on my next appointment as I would only be 39+6 - she agreed this was ridiculous but they aren't really allowed to do one until 40weeks so I would have to wait til the tues after when I would be 40+5. Luckily the one I saw yeterday wasn't such a jobsworth and happily gave me one - this gives me the opportunity to have another one next week before Im induced that weekend (our area you go 10 days over). I doubt they'd send you away without doing one as they want you to deliver naturally and avoid induction too.
Its hard waiting I know - I'm going to go and get some posh cakes from bakery and then pop and see my mum later this afternoon. Tomorrow I'm going to deep clean house from top to bottom. Just little plans like this keep me going. I know you're maybe too sore to blast the house but could you perhaps plan a little drive to a local garden centre to look at christmas stuff and maybe get a coffee?

 

[Eternal]

my MW said she wouldnt do a sweep until i was 41 weeks but when i burst into tears last time the other MW said she would do one at my next appointment!

The other MW also said that she wouldnt send me for an induction til i was 42 weeks (which falls on the 20th, a sunday so would be the 21st) and as its christmas that week they might make me wait!

All my family are from wales and my parents are coming up christmas week, at this rate i wont have had the baby and wont even be home with baby before they have to leave :'( so annoying, i wish they would induce me at 10 days over!

if MW is still being a bitch tomorrow will call up hospital (was previously under consultant care) and see what they say, and if no will call another hospital in another country and see their policy as i live on the boarders of two conuties i can choose where to go!

hopefully someone will take sympathy on me lol!

 

[daisydoo]

ah no surely they wouldn't make you wait until after xmas that would be just cruel
let us know how you get on tomorrow. and i know its easier said than done but don't be stressing about timing with your family - thats just another worry you don't need to be taking on and will be making you feel so much worse

 

[kelly2903]

im not in the 3rd tri and over due..... but just wanted to say i have been there with my 1st bump..... and it is an awful time.... you think that you will never go in to labour by your self........ but regardless you will have your baby lol some way or another lol...... ive got my fingers x'd for you all

ps my labour started at 5 days over due after a long walk a bounce on the trampoline a hot curry and a long bath lol 2 hours later wat do you no all the best girlies xxxxx

also you should have a sweep betwwn 5 and 7 days over and induction is usally at 10 days xxx

 

[ChuggaBump]

I'm also overdue and feeling exactly the same as you girls - I've had no 'signs' and have tried everything I can think of so I just don't see how this baby is gonna come anytime soon. I have been having strong (but not painful) BHs for the last few weeks but other than that, nothing.

Also, I know people mean well, but the constant 'how are you' texts are starting to get to me. What they really mean is 'have you had your baby yet' and then when you say you're still waiting, they make 'helpful' suggestions like 'oh, you should go for a long walk / you should start eating spicey food' etc etc. Don't they think I've tried all those things and would quite like to meet my baby?!?! Makes me feel as if they think it's MY fault my baby hasn't arrived yet!!

Hope it happens really soon for you ladies!

 

[daisydoo]

chuggabump I'm with ya - i keep getting text that just say 'ANYTHING?' and they are driving me crackers. FIL calls every night and says 'ANYTHING?' and then says 'oh come on love' DRIVING.ME.IN.SANE. Last night i said you'll know when the baby is here cos we will ring you.

 

[ChuggaBump]

I'm glad it's not just me! I feel a bit ungrateful, as I know they're only texting cos they care, but then when it's someone you haven't heard from in months, or someone who never ever texts to ask how you are, you kinda think, you don't care how I am - you just want the baby gossip!

And then I reply with a long message and ask how they are etc and don't get any reply... but then 2 days later get another text from them saying 'how are you?' grr!!

 

[Eternal]

yeah, i havent heard from many people really (family are in wales and mum calls every hour but thats normal lol) now Hubbys family are texting/calling asking if baby is here yet. I mean flip we would tell u if we had the baby, its not like we would have it and come home and not say anything :S

I dont get the how are u though just whens this baby coming. like how the heck would i know, i thought i would be early and yet here i am over due and grotchy as hell lol!

I am so not patient, hubby had interview for job on monday (promotion) and i am totally stressed waiting for news if he got it, i mean in reality it would be better if he didnt cos wouldnt be able to take his paternity and would have to go away 2.5 hours for training several days a week next week but even so i just am waiting for the phone to ring with news. i think i have just put all my energy into worrying about that and trying not to think about being pregnant but in reality its just the same stress lol!

 

[Boomerslady]

Ladies I admire you all. I feel like I'm losing my mind, and I'm still days away from my due date.

I think everytime I get angry or annoyed I just need to read this thread!

I really hope things get moving for you soon.

 

[nicolascott13]

feel the same as everyone else here glad to know am not the only one tho .

i too have tried everything sweep last week failed got consultant tommorow to arrange induction on monday .

thought id try the orally method of evening primrose oil took two yesterday and was up all night very restless and uncomfortable then this morning lost (tmi) green snooty blob , no pains or anthing unusall today but am hoping its a good sign

hopefully all us ladies overdue will be with our babys very soon

 

[Eternal]

I was like you, i was determined i wasnt going to get to my due date and that it should of been here by now, but to be honest once my due date came i felt more relaxed that i did before it!

Its just that now i am panicing about being induced or not being induced, and that i am too high, and what if somethings wrong etc! i have nightmares of my placenta dying and my baby trying to get out but my pelvis isnt big enough lol!

I keep reading about everyone having their babies early, or water breaking or even just losing their plugs and i am sooooo jelous! lol!

 

[Eternal]

ive taken evening primrose for weeks lol! oh well! nought works for me lol

 

[SarTheBear]

We are now 8days overdue and I thought that by now, we'd be at home settling in not still waiting to be introduced!!! Grrrrrrrr!! I just don't know what to try any more!! Going for the worlds longest walk today to try and get my LO out!! I have just found it really disheartening, waiting and feeling like we aren't getting anywhere and the stupid thing is that I'm usually ridiculously patient!! Apparently not at the minute!!
Sorry for the moan, hope everyone is coping ok!!
Sar xx

 

[daisydoo]

I don't know anything about evening primrose oil. do you take 2 a day? am i too late to start?

 

[Eternal]

never too late to start lol! you can insert them too, its quite messy though so would put down a towel if u do try but at this point i would try anything!

SarTheBear - wow - 8 days! u poor thing, i was expecting to be home with baby now too (i really expected to be early) and now i cant get out of my head that at this rate i will not be home with baby by christmas!

 

[FlowerFairy]

I will be overdue tomorrow! I will hopefully get a sweep next Tuesday at 40+6 if nothing. I went into labour naturally with DS at 40+6 so hoping it might be similar with this one.
I am just going to keep active and see if that helps. I was under the false illusion that 2nd babies often come earlier. Walked lots today and going to have a nice hot bath to relax.

Hope everyone who is overdue gets things going soon.

 

[henny]

i was 16 days late with my 1st, on day 14 mil booked me in to have acupuncture which i felt worked. im due xmas day and mum and dad are coming over from france for a week so am hoping my second one will be here by then or they will miss out, they almost missed my 1st. the midwife has said they will induce me on 10 days over.
i was booked to be induced on the day i gave birth to my 1st and they said had i not gone into labour naturally they would have been too busy inducing other ladies so i would have had to wait longer and i was already on day 16 which really worried me.