Do you all have your partners/husbands/boyfriends as your birth partners? I was really hoping to have my boyfriend as my birth partner, he seemed like the natural choice. But I always wondered if he would agree to it in the end. He's got a pretty bad phobia of hospitals which is never a good start. But also he does tend to freak out sometimes when life gets too much for him (men pfft!), this pregnancy wasn't something we had planned, it's been a very hard time for him and, as much as I know he cares for me, I couldn't quite see him being my shining rock of encouragement in the labour room lol Anyway, he turned round last night and said he wasn't sure he could do it. I was really angry to start off with seeing as there isn't much time left to go changing minds about stuff like this now but now I've calmed down and had a proper think about it. I found out today that I can have 2 people with me in the labour room! So I was thinking of asking my mum to come too, then boyfriend has someone he can hide behind if it gets too much for him, my mum gets to be more involved (I swear she would deliver the baby if I let her, it's her first grandchild and she is very excited) and I don't get abandoned with no one to swear at if boyfriend passes out. Seems like the best solution all round I think. What did you do/are you planning to do? I was reading something earlier that said only about 5% of husbands were at the birth in the 1980s or something like that. I work for a local newspaper group too and we have a lot of stories last year about woman having their babies whilst hubby is in Iraq (hubby comes home and meets child for first time that sort of thing). Sorta got me thinking that maybe it is not such a bad thing if partner is not present at the actual event? It sounds like a weird thing to say but I can't help but worry that he won't bond with the baby if he doesn't witness the arrival. It's like one minute he says bye bye to his pregnant missus, then few hours later (dear god please let it be just a few) he comes to see me and I have a baby in my arms and it's his What do you think?