Why are we waiting????

We are waiting for various reasons.

1. My son has various disabilities and we don't know if his issues are genetic or not. We want to make sure he is settled and receiving all the help he needs before we have another baby. We're also unsure if we'll have another if it turns out my son's disabilities are genetic and will be passed onto another child.

2. My weight. I need to lose quite a bit before having another.

3. OH just got a promotion in his job so we want to sort everything out and be sure we can afford another child.

How old is thomas now? When will you find out if his disabilities are genetic?

Jenson has a genetic medical condition but I'm no longer with his dad so the chances of me and new OH having a baby with the same condition would be like a drop in the ocean (very unlikely). I completely understand why u would want to wait to find out if it is genetic though. Good luck to u all x
 
We're waiting until our little boy is a little bit older - he'll be turning 3 just as we're ttc. Also I want to shed a couple of stones and be a little bit healthier!
 
I'm trying to finish my hnd (june 2016)
Go back full time to work (only part time right now)
OH wants a better paying job
Want a family car
Finish decorating our house
Lose some weight
Go on some holidays and enjoy being just us
Get married (either dec 2016, june 2017 or july 2016) depending on money etc
June 2017 is our date for trying!

Our list seems so big compared to you guys, good to know some are waiting a while like us!
 
We are waiting as I'd like a 2 and a half maybe 3 year age gap before trying for another, and we have a big move planned from uk to usa and really want that all sorted and settled first!
 
We are waiting for various reasons.

1. My son has various disabilities and we don't know if his issues are genetic or not. We want to make sure he is settled and receiving all the help he needs before we have another baby. We're also unsure if we'll have another if it turns out my son's disabilities are genetic and will be passed onto another child.

2. My weight. I need to lose quite a bit before having another.

3. OH just got a promotion in his job so we want to sort everything out and be sure we can afford another child.

How old is thomas now? When will you find out if his disabilities are genetic?

Jenson has a genetic medical condition but I'm no longer with his dad so the chances of me and new OH having a baby with the same condition would be like a drop in the ocean (very unlikely). I completely understand why u would want to wait to find out if it is genetic though. Good luck to u all x

Thomas is 3 now. They referred Thomas to genetics in September so we won't see them until some time in 2015. Thanks it's quite nerve wracking x
 
Hi! Everyone! :hi: I'm new.

I'm waiting because we're in a sort of...transitional phase in our lives. DH just finished his degree, and an internship in Germany. He's working for his dad sort of on the side to make money, but he's applying for permanent, salaried positions that fit his job and current experience. We have 3 kids already, so we need to be a heck of a lot more stable before we consider a 4th.

And we're not even totally sure we do want a 4th. We're waffling.
 
I am waiting so my son is a year before we start trying. I also need to lose weight and we are hoping to buy a house in the next 6 months.
 
I'm in the minority here - it's me causing the wait rather than DH!

Same here, I am the one that has decided to not try until DS was a year (and I might even amend that to 2 years depending on how demanding he gets). My DH would be fine with ntnp right now but I cannot imagine another baby so soon. Plus we are currently in a 2 bedroom and while we could do it I would rather just buy a house that had enough space.
 
We're waiting for a few reasons. Most of them I think they can be worked through but, men....

1. Finish my degree next year.
2. My OH is getting out of the military in May and hasn't had a solid job offer. That's definitely his number one.
3. When he does get a job, we'll have to move, buy a house, settle in, etc.
4. (This ones not as important) but we'd like to get married.
5. We'd like to vacation a little more first.

Hope we can get all these things done by June 2016!
 
There's only really two reasons why I'm waiting!

1. DH! He doesn't feel like he's ready to be a dad yet. He told me a opulent of weeks ago that he just feels like a big kid himself and doesn't thing he'd be any good as a dad yet.
2. Finances! Whilst a baby wouldn't mean that we were struggling badly it would make things very tight in the money department. DH is hopeful of negotiating a bigger pay rise in the new year as he has taken on a lot more responsibilities at work this year but not seen any real pay off for it. Hopefully if he gets a decent pay rise we'll be one step closer

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3. Our home! This isn't a necessity but it's something that DH mentioned. We currently live in a large two bedroom flat on the second floor of our building and DH says it'll be a nightmare if I want to go out anywhere without him with a pram, baby and dog to get down two flights of stairs! He makes a good point but I don't want to wait purely because of this. We aren't sure when we'll be able to afford our next house and I don't fancy waiting 5 years to start TTC!
 
I still live at home, I'm for sure not ready for children yet, I don't have a job right now and I want to go back to school next September so it would be very hard to go to school with a baby or young child. I also want to live on my own before having children.
 
Like most others here, we're waiting for a number of reasons. But following a conversation with my OH2, we finally have an overall timescale with achievable target goals:

1. Now to summer 2015 - all 3 of us save up as much money via overtime as possible
2. Spring 2015 - OH2 start looking for a job transfer/new job in my city.
3. July 2015 - OH2' sister gets married, my lodgers' tenancy ends so we can redecorate upstairs.
4. Late summer 2015 - hopefully latest point OH2 moves in
5. Enjoy my polyamory family being together and finish house repairs
6. Summer 2016 - our commitment ceremony
7. Autumn 2016 - ttc!

OH1 already lives with me and is pretty ready for children now, but we're happy (if annoyingly broody) with the plan in place, but if I happen to fall pregnant early, then we aren't worried :)
 
I'm not ready yet. I have very rough pregnancies. I have a 3 year old that I'm schooling and a 10 month old who is very high needs. I don't think I could handle a rough pregnancy at the moment...no matter how much baby fever keeps me going nuts!
 
i am waiting because my body needs a break from being pregnant and nursing :))
also i need to lose some more weight.

when my little guy goes to daycare next fall i will have a bit of time to rest so i think would be a good time to possibly try again. 10 months to go!
 
We are waiting because I had a uterine anomaly which was a complete septate uterus which also caused a vaginal sepate..I also found out I have two cervices as well! It's been a year since my diagnosis and Ive had to undergo 3 surgeries to remove and 1 emergency surgery because I was bleeding to much..

My last surgery fixed my uterine septum and vaginal septum so now I'm waiting for to go ahead to ttc from the RE.

so basically we are being forced to wait until the doctor says its okay lol
 
Till I hopefully gain a new job, currently on look out, just so I am earning slightly more to save!

And until we move to our new house in April 2015, so we have the ideal setting!

Shouldn't be too long!
 
I'm waiting because I've had two miscarriages and hubby is now deployed. We've decided to wait until late next year so that my eldest will be close to starting school before another baby arrived.

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I am waiting because I'm not sure I'm even allowed to have another baby medically. When we had our son on 7/28 my OB said do not get pregnant again. But we lost him, at 19 days old, and we just really want to consider trying again, once I am completely healed from C-section and if a specialist gives us the OK.
 
I am waiting because i dont want two october babies lol and we are bombared by birthdays in october lol
we already have my hubby oct 5, my niece oct 12, my son oct15 (yes my niece and son are three days apart In the same year..that was fun! :) )
my sister oct 25, my other niece oct 26 then halloween lol!!
My hubby also already got his boy so he isnt rushing another lol he is terrified to have a girl :) lol
 

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