Why can't people think about what they are about to say before they talk?

[jkburns]

I just found out I'm expecting #3, on the 3rd I will be 26 and I have a wonderful DH that takes care of our girls and me. So I'm a little irritated, to say the least, that several people I am close to found out that DH and I want another baby and said that we shouldn't be having anymore because our dd2 is such a handful. She's two, what do they expect. Now I feel like people look at me like I'm a lost mother who has no idea what I'm doing. These same people are ecstatic that my cousin is having twins and they are living in a basement with their 1 year old son because they were evicted from their apartment. Sorry I just needed to vent. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

 

[NewMama2012]

So sorry that you're going through that. I can relate in a different kind of way.

Hubby and I have been having some issues in our marriage and so when I told my mom that I was pregnant, she asked me if it was a good thing and if it was his! UGH! SERIOUSLY! Even IF there was reason to believe, why would you ask me that? Keep your mouth zipped!

I wish you a H&H 9 months and you/DH the best little family ever!!!

 

[jkburns]

Thank you so much. It is so nice to know that I'm not the only person that feels like this. If I wasn't so hormonal it probably wouldn't have bothered me so bad though. I hope you have a H&H 9 months too.

 

[babygirlhall]

Hi hun,
First of all congrats on your bfp!
I have a friend who will relate to what your saying. She now has 3 kids but when she wanted number 3 her dh family were less than supportive. They did nothing but put them down and try to put them off, her dh's mum even cried when they told her she was pregnant again and they were not tears of joy!! I would understant a bit more if the grandparents were involved with the kids and called on for babysitting etc but they only ever see them once in a blue moon! On the other hand they are more than happy for their daughter to have one baby after another!
My friend is a brilliant mother and it should be down to her and dh to decide on how many children they have no one else.
Its not fair they should make you feel like that, try not to take any notice of them and do what you feel is right.
Take care xx

 

[jo14]

my mum found out today and looked so horrified, held her head in her hands and almost cried, yes its my fourth baby but my partners first and we are happy, wish she was i know she worries about me but noone ever says anything positive these days

 

[Sunnidlite]

I ran into this while ttc...ppl think nothing of giving you advice or telling you that you must be doing something wrong. Then go down a list of things, or bring somebody else into the conversation to ask if they have something to add. How embarrassing! I feel for you. Stay positive and know that you are doing what is right for you and for your family. Some ppl just don't have enough things to keep them busy...

 

[sjwebb]

Why do other women feel to put their 2 cents in where it does not belong, you and your husband are 2 grown adults and if you want more children then so be it! Its no one elses business or place to tell you that you shouldn't have more kids. Dont let them get to you, do what makes you and hubby happy!