Why do i let it upset me :(

[chanelle92]

So it's kind of a long story but i'll try keep it short and sweet!

Basically i found my dad last year after he left my mum before i was born. Everything was good at first, we were getting along and i was meeting his family and his wife! Who was absolutely great at first until all of a sudden she started getting depressed and was finding it hard to deal with the fact that my dad had another child.Anyway everything kicked off and now we don't talk coz he's too much of a pussy to stick up to his first class bitch of a wife grrr

So i got over that and got on with my life and after announcing my pregnancy to everyone he hasnt even been in contact! It gets me so mad coz this is his second chance with me and he's lucky that i even want to know him after he left me and my mum I don't know what to do because i kinda want him to be in my childs life i dunno if it's because he wasn't in my life and he said he regrets that so much! Him being a grandad won't make up for him not being a dad to me but it would help. Grrrrr It gets me so angry! Sometimes i think i should ring him so he'll man up and have to make a decision whether to obey his wife and not talk to me or whether he'll tell her where to go and keep in contact with me.

On the plus side my OH just got back from uni and bought me back my favouritest sweets

 

[syntaxerror]

That's rough I know I'd be really upset to find out FOB had another kid, though...could you maybe talk to his wife and let her know how you're feeling? Once she gets that you're not a threat to her family and that she's hurting you by keeping you from your dad, she might chill a bit. Then again, she might not...girls are weird creatures sometimes. But if she's the one causing the problem, talking to her directly might be your best bet.

 

[Leopard]

Agh difficult situation sweety, maybe the wife is just confused because she never kew about you? Maybe you just have to reassure her that you're not there to ruin their home, if you know what I mean? Start with the wife then your dad is the way I would go.

 

[chanelle92]

That's rough I know I'd be really upset to find out FOB had another kid, though...could you maybe talk to his wife and let her know how you're feeling? Once she gets that you're not a threat to her family and that she's hurting you by keeping you from your dad, she might chill a bit. Then again, she might not...girls are weird creatures sometimes. But if she's the one causing the problem, talking to her directly might be your best bet.

She knows how i'm feeling coz all this happened like at the end of last year and after it turned into a massive argument i don't know if theres any going back :/ I feel sorry for my dad in a way because she put him the position where it was his family or me! I don't blame him for choosing his family but i thought he would at least congratulate me :/ owell i'm gonna try talk to him and his wife coz i really want him in my babies life Thankyou for the advice!

 

[chanelle92]

Agh difficult situation sweety, maybe the wife is just confused because she never kew about you? Maybe you just have to reassure her that you're not there to ruin their home, if you know what I mean? Start with the wife then your dad is the way I would go.

She's always known about me thats why i found it so hard to understand how all of a sudden she became depressed and tried blaming me for her marriage breaking down :S i might try make amends even though it's always me making the effort but owell i shall be the bigger person

 

[trinaestella]

I'm sorry about that babe, some men just don't deserve to have children :growl: my brother would do anything to be in his daughter's life and he just doesn't understand why some men would push their children away like that. I hope that things work out in the future for you, and even if not you have OH and your family and LO there with you chin up darling xxx