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We where over at OH family last night as normal having dinner and I let MIL give LO his dinner
she gave him a little more then I would have done but I thought at least he seems to be enjoying it for a change and actualy eating it so I let her get on with it.
About hour and half later he was due his bottle so I said we had to hold off leaving untill he had it, OH started moaning about geting home but I put my foot down saying that I dont like messing about with his milk feeds because if he falls asleep in the car I either have to wake him back up at home for it and then risk another 4 hours of him being late for bed or just put him in his cot without it and then he will be 7oz short and wake up just as we are going to bed.
Anyway at that point his gran starts going into one that im forcing milk on him and hes just had his dinner and doesnt need a bottle feed, I tried calmly explaining that he isnt ment to drop any milk yet untill hes at least 9 months just for food.
She starts having a go at me saying I dont know what im talking about and to just let him take the little top ups he needs from his milk now hes eating,
I told her no milk is more important then food as it has somthing like 5x the amount of nutrition and vitamins that any normal food has and its the milk thats most important to him now.
She just wouldnt listen and started going on about the sma advert (the one with the massive bottle of cows milk and iron) saying "well why would there be an advert showing how cows milk and food give alot more iron" :dohh:
I just lost it at that point and said "try watching it better, the point of the advert is you have to give alot more to to fufill the same needs as a small amount of baby milk, the point is it give alot more nutrition without having to bloat them with too much otherstuff"
I ended up just saying no, I will feed him how I wish and he is not dropping ANY milk for the sake of food yet, thats why I dont like him having too much food at this stage.
She even said id get fat just because I finished the last 1 spoon of his dinner, even MIL piped up at that point and told her to not be so stupid its veg how can I get fat on a spoonfull of veg.
And his aunt stated on about if hes hungery give him more food, I tried saying why when I can give him more milk and id prefer that at this age but I was banging my head aginst a brick wall at that point because it suddenly became like I didnt know what I was doing and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family

Im just concerned now that if he is over with them as MIL takes him over sometime when shes out for a walk with him (I have no problem with MIL with this) that they will end up just giving him a yogurt or somthing and not bothering with his milk.
 
old people can be so annoying silly times.

If you cant trust them to respect your wishes around food/milk i wouldnt leave him unsupervised with them tbh
 
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Wow how rude! Don't they always say Mums know best? You know YOUR baby best she shouldn't be butting in and telling you you're wrong. Your LO is happy she should see that's all that matters and as for saying you'd get fat that's just bloody rude! :| You did the right thing with not giving in to them, make sure if you leave him with MIL and she's there, you insist to MIL he has his milk because if not you won't feel comfortable leaving him if they disrupt your routine.
 
thanks.
Its just annoying I think there under the impression that just because hes tried a few food things that thats it for milk and he doesnt need it anymore.
LO soon proved me right by polishing off his whole bottle as well :)
How can anyone think that pureed peas is a suitable subtitute for his milk at this age, it doesnt cover nowhere near the amount his milk does.
 
Dear god, how did you manage to stay so cool? I feel really sorry for you and mums that have to put up with this, i have the same things even with my own dad- i wouldnt mind too much if they kindly were tryin help but they force it on you and make you doubt yourself, it really isnt on- like you i simply say 'im her mum, im with her ALL the time- I really do know whats best for her', and thats it- after i say that sentance i will not discuss it anymore, I really dont want to waste my time justifying myself to people lol im there with you- really does make mw cross xxx
 
Oh and i just wanted to add- you are soooo right about the nutrition- some people dont think xx
 
I think Dad's knows everything
 
All i want to say...its your baby, your decision, you know whats best gor YOUR baby..well done for sticking up for yourself xx
 
and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family

-x-

mine do this as well - I haven't said anything to my OH about it... but like, in 8 months, never once have they taken a picture of me holding Bobby... but every time he's with my OH, or anyone else... they're picture crazy!!
 
and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family

-x-

mine do this as well - I haven't said anything to my OH about it... but like, in 8 months, never once have they taken a picture of me holding Bobby... but every time he's with my OH, or anyone else... they're picture crazy!!

MY INLAWS DO THIS TOO!!! AND THE PHOTO THING!!! I totally HATE it. My fil needed to put Oliver down once and said 'wheres daddy' and I said 'here pass him to me, Pauls just going to the loo' too which he said 'no its ok ill wait for his daddy' :growlmad::growlmad:
(sorry to hijack your thread smokey - BTW you handled your situation much better than I would have done well done :hugs:)
 
and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family

-x-

mine do this as well - I haven't said anything to my OH about it... but like, in 8 months, never once have they taken a picture of me holding Bobby... but every time he's with my OH, or anyone else... they're picture crazy!!

I think only my MIL has ever refered to me as mummy to LO, the rest have never refered to me as such or even said the word.
MIL says it in a "oh that silly mummy" and "whats that mummy doing to you" if im struggling to do somthing but its a very mutual banter with us, I give just as much "oh that silly grandma given you a thong" when she puts the nappy on wrong same as with my mum
 
We where over at OH family last night as normal having dinner and I let MIL give LO his dinner
she gave him a little more then I would have done but I thought at least he seems to be enjoying it for a change and actualy eating it so I let her get on with it.
About hour and half later he was due his bottle so I said we had to hold off leaving untill he had it, OH started moaning about geting home but I put my foot down saying that I dont like messing about with his milk feeds because if he falls asleep in the car I either have to wake him back up at home for it and then risk another 4 hours of him being late for bed or just put him in his cot without it and then he will be 7oz short and wake up just as we are going to bed.
Anyway at that point his gran starts going into one that im forcing milk on him and hes just had his dinner and doesnt need a bottle feed, I tried calmly explaining that he isnt ment to drop any milk yet untill hes at least 9 months just for food.
She starts having a go at me saying I dont know what im talking about and to just let him take the little top ups he needs from his milk now hes eating,
I told her no milk is more important then food as it has somthing like 5x the amount of nutrition and vitamins that any normal food has and its the milk thats most important to him now.
She just wouldnt listen and started going on about the sma advert (the one with the massive bottle of cows milk and iron) saying "well why would there be an advert showing how cows milk and food give alot more iron" :dohh:
I just lost it at that point and said "try watching it better, the point of the advert is you have to give alot more to to fufill the same needs as a small amount of baby milk, the point is it give alot more nutrition without having to bloat them with too much otherstuff"
I ended up just saying no, I will feed him how I wish and he is not dropping ANY milk for the sake of food yet, thats why I dont like him having too much food at this stage.
She even said id get fat just because I finished the last 1 spoon of his dinner, even MIL piped up at that point and told her to not be so stupid its veg how can I get fat on a spoonfull of veg.
And his aunt stated on about if hes hungery give him more food, I tried saying why when I can give him more milk and id prefer that at this age but I was banging my head aginst a brick wall at that point because it suddenly became like I didnt know what I was doing and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family

Im just concerned now that if he is over with them as MIL takes him over sometime when shes out for a walk with him (I have no problem with MIL with this) that they will end up just giving him a yogurt or somthing and not bothering with his milk.

OMG!! Tell me about it! I agree completely. Old people think they know it all because they had babies like 50 years ago.. OH's nan 'theres no such thing as SPD don't be so ridiculous of course you can squat' etc etc..
They can keep saying things to upset you but you can't say anything back because 'she's nanna' and everyone would fall out with you if you stuck up for yourself. The constant 'don't bang his head' 'don't drop him' 'don't hold him like that' drives me up the wall as much as 'you need to soap his bottom because he's constipated' 'you need to put sugar in his water otherwise he won't drink it'
It's like I'm a 15 year old!! I sympathise completely. Sounds like you stick up for yourself more than me though. Good for you =)
 
my dh's gran told me not to let the baby comfort suck because she would get obese and then in the same night told me to give her oatmeal for fiber because i said LO was having a hard time pooing. i don't mind my mil suggesting things as she works in the nicu so she knows what she's talking about but i hate it when other people who dont know what they are doing tell me what to do. my mom does it--she keeps telling me to put LO to sleep on her side or belly not back so she wont choke.
 
and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family

-x-

mine do this as well - I haven't said anything to my OH about it... but like, in 8 months, never once have they taken a picture of me holding Bobby... but every time he's with my OH, or anyone else... they're picture crazy!!

MY INLAWS DO THIS TOO!!! AND THE PHOTO THING!!! I totally HATE it. My fil needed to put Oliver down once and said 'wheres daddy' and I said 'here pass him to me, Pauls just going to the loo' too which he said 'no its ok ill wait for his daddy' :growlmad::growlmad:
(sorry to hijack your thread smokey - BTW you handled your situation much better than I would have done well done :hugs:)

Wow I just read that too.. I'm so glad other people have the same problem.. Is it just an in-law rule??!!
 
old people can be so annoying silly times.

If you cant trust them to respect your wishes around food/milk i wouldnt leave him unsupervised with them tbh

I agree with Kala. You're his mum, you decide how much milk etc he should be getting not anyone else.

And you are absolutely correct. Milk should be the number one source of nutrition until baby is one year old I believe.
 

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