Why do people insist...

[Darlin65]

On constantly warning you about how likely mc's are in pregnancy and telling you to be careful about naming the baby too early just in case you lose them. I have even had people at work make comments about how I shared the news too early because if anything happens it is unfair for everyone else to have to grieve with me...wtf?! This is MY child no matter how long they are with us. I will still love them and remember them. I am not going to act as if they never existed. This is my life and just because it doesn't go as I may have planned doesn't mean I will love my baby any less. I am really getting mad at this. It's like they think since they are not truly here yet I have no right to love them yet. How can people be so cold hearted?

 

[TinySunshine]

It's annoying. Their reason for not saying too early just sounds stupid.

Some people choose not to say early because if anything happened, it's awful going around having to tell people, actually no, I'm not pregnant. A good reason to wait. But that's something for the parents to consider, not all these random commentators.

The risk of miscarriage is significantly reduced in the second trimester where we are now, so I think there's less need for worry now.

You should be able to tell whenever you want without the dampening comments. And nobody should imply an early fetus isn't a 'real' baby.

 

[mommy12]

i feel the same as you, I told my family the day after i did the hpt, and i was 4 weeks, we waited to tell the oh family till i was 3 months, my family and i are very close so i wanted to share with them right away, and although something could go wrong i would rather them there for support, then go through it alone. some people just dont get it, and as for work i told them asap i work at a furniture store, and would have to explaing why i cant lift anything anyways... ooops lol now i am ranting some ppl

 

[Hels_Bells]

I got the opposite advice. There was a few people we told early on, like my family As soon as we found out, around 4 weeks, they knew. But we wanted to wait until later to tell everyone in case of MC, but they convinced me that if we did lose the baby, I would want/need everyone's support and it would be easier to give if they knew ahead of time...

 

[Darlin65]

I'm still getting crazy comments to this day. I yelled at one lady and told her well it can happen ANY time. I can go to full term and still deliver a stillborn baby sooo.... Let's just say she kept her mouth shut after that lol I was nice before but I've started being rude right back honestly. My gender scan is tomorrow and I was told tonight not to name them too early in case something happens because you get more attached and it makes it harder.

 

[babymama86]

I was thinking about this the other day, there are so many things that could go wrong and not just before 12 wks and if we worried about all of them we would stress ourselves out and i for one would end up going mental!

 

[Darlin65]

I was thinking about this the other day, there are so many things that could go wrong and not just before 12 wks and if we worried about all of them we would stress ourselves out and i for one would end up going mental!

Awww! Your little bump is so cute! I wish I had one. My whole tummy just looks bigger like I gained weight

 

[petitpas]

I have lost five babies in first tri and nicknamed every one of them. When babies are miscarried late or born too early, parents are actually encouraged to name them as it helps to grieve for them properly.

The people you are dealing with are clearly ignorant and even a bit nasty, I would say. Hopefully, you can ignore them as much as possible

 

[Darlin65]

Actually one was a mom who has lost 2 babies. She was the one who told me tonight not to name them too soon.

 

[Annubrius]

Because some people are careless and inconsiderate; sometimes they just don't think before they speak. :/

It's kind of ridiculous.

 

[petitpas]

Darlin, that's really sad for her but not the way she should be talking to you.
Right now, you should be encouraged to enjoy second tri and people should be annoying you with stupid advice on what names you should choose for baby
Ignore ignore ignore!

 

[babymama86]

I agree, it can be a bit of jealousy too! People are so spitefull
Darlin65 i was the same as you until about 15 or so weeks but my bump didnt "pop" until about 20ish wks

 

[Darlin65]

I know.... On a happier note tho ladies I can't wait to find out tomorrow! I hope Bean cooperates for us!

 

[babymama86]

Hahaha i love the ignore emoticons!!

 

[Darlin65]

I agree, it can be a bit of jealousy too! People are so spitefull
Darlin65 i was the same as you until about 15 or so weeks but my bump didnt "pop" until about 20ish wks

Oh no! I don't think I could wait that long!

 

[babymama86]

I thought that too but 20wks comes up faster than u expect! Its now starting to feel like its dragging though :/

 

[Darlin65]

Yeah We won't see DF's family again until Easter so I am hoping I am nice and plump by then I'll be 26wks then!

 

[Arisa]

your risk of MC at 14 weeks has significantly dropped down to something like 2% and stays that way through until your V day when baby is viable once you hit twenty weeks and see the baby I think you will feel calmer, that is what I'm looking forward to the most xoxoxoxo

 

[Darlin65]

your risk of MC at 14 weeks has significantly dropped down to something like 2% and stays that way through until your V day when baby is viable once you hit twenty weeks and see the baby I think you will feel calmer, that is what I'm looking forward to the most xoxoxoxo

We get to see the baby tomorrow!

 

[greenpear]

Hope you find out who you're having! I heard that eating/drinking something sweet or with caffeine or cold will get the baby moving around and easier to see who it is

As for the post - I'm with you on this one. My family is the worst - mom actually told me that until I deliver a healthy baby she will not talk about my pregnancy or be excited because "something" may go wrong geez....at least my MIL is excited, and so are my friends...