Why haven't I felt her yet?

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  1. olivetree83

    olivetree83 Jon, Hollie, Olivia, & #2

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    Hey ladies,

    I'm just starting to feel left out. I read about all of your wonderful experiences with baby kicking and fluttering about and I haven't felt a thing.

    Maybe I've felt a few flicks or knocks but I don't know if that's baby or not so I'm not going to count it until I'm sure.

    I'm starting to wonder if something is wrong. I don't understand why I haven't felt my little girl yet, I'm plenty big and round right now and started out slim so I would think I wouldn't have any trouble.

    Anybody else going through the same thing?
     
  2. Sherileigh

    Sherileigh Well-Known Member

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    I didn't feel DS until I was over 19 weeks I think...took quite awhile. Lot quicker with the 2nd one! Don't worry, it's normal to not feel baby early on the first!
     
  3. Pixie2320

    Pixie2320 Well-Known Member

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    I didn't feel kicks or punches until 22 weeks, and even then it was " Is that the baby?? " until it started happening more and more :thumbup: I might be a pessimist but I'm one of those who says anything you feel 15 weeks or before is gas bubbles :shrug:
     
  4. Aidan's Mummy

    Aidan's Mummy Mummy to Aidan and Oliver

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    I felt my son at around 18 weeks. It may just take more time for you hun. But when you do feel it it will be amazing :hugs: xx
     
  5. Treelo

    Treelo Mum of 3

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    Dont be worrying about not feeling kicks yet, you are still very early also your placenta could be too the front which would cushion movements.
    Im on my 3rd and its only in last wk have been getting proper regular movements.
    I did feel baby doing what i can only describe as a 360 turn when i was about 14wks and now and then maybe once a wk or fortnight i would feel a nudge but no prope kicks and def not every day. Baby is still very small at 18wks.
    You would usually feel kicks earlier on 2nd, 3rd etc pregnancy. I cant rem when i felt kicks on my 1st or 2nd but it wasnt that early.
     
  6. olivetree83

    olivetree83 Jon, Hollie, Olivia, & #2

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    Thanks ladies, I'm just getting jealous because I read about all these other first timers who have babies kicking and dancing around already and I feel nothing.

    I will ask my doctor about this on Wednesday and maybe she can tell me if my placenta is frontal.
     
  7. Sherileigh

    Sherileigh Well-Known Member

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    Not true! :nope: Not sure if this is your first, but having your second for me was very different. I think you understand more what is baby what isn't. I thought for sure people that felt early were probably wrong too...even going into my second pregnancy thought I won't feel this one for ages. I was wrong. I definitely felt little flutters around 11 weeks. After carrying a child and of course knowing what gas feels like you can easily tell the difference!
     
  8. Treelo

    Treelo Mum of 3

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    Bbydreams Mummy to lovely baby boy

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    Hi, I am 21 weeks and can possibly feel some small flutters but only really in the evening. I also started off slim but have a big bump now! I had my 20 week scan last week and I have an anterior placenta (at the the front) so I think that explains why. Apparently it is cushioning the blows my little bot is giving me! He was very active at the scan!! It has reassured me. I am sure everything is fine, dont worry. x
     
  10. Dolphinz4

    Dolphinz4 Mommy to a Prince

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    Awwww dont worry-You'll start to feel her soon enough! I was 18w 2d when I felt my little one for the first time........I know some girls take until 20 week- It all depends :) Dont stress too much about it, when you dont think about it, it will happen :)
     
  11. wanna-b-mummy

    wanna-b-mummy Well-Known Member

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    Hello my due date buddy! :hugs:

    Don't worry, my midwife said 18 weeks is still early to noticeably feel the baby. The knocks sound very promising, but because we're first time mummies, apparently we "miss" them because we just don't know what we should be listening out for if that makes sense.

    It's still early hun. Don't worry, your LO is fine and you'll soon get that fluttery feeling

    xx
     
  12. jcg0506

    jcg0506 Well-Known Member

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    I just started feeling my baby move at 21 weeks and I have an anterior placenta. They should be able to tell you at your 20 week scan (or whenever you have yours) where your placenta is. My sister didn't feel her first baby until around 24 weeks b/c of an anterior placenta. I wouldn't let it worry you, but I understand that its hard to be patient.
     
  13. Treelo

    Treelo Mum of 3

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    When i told my nurse at my 16wk checkup that i felt baby moved she laughed said it was impossible to feel baby already that it was in my head or just gas:growlmad: As i said to her i know what it feels like as this is my 3rd baby. I was 14wks when i 1st felt baby move for definite although didnt feel her/him all the time just every now and again, but then again having a house and 2 older kiddies to look after i wouldnt really be paying too much attention not like on my1st when i would spend ages lying down waiting on baby to move:haha:
     
  14. lisanicole

    lisanicole Well-Known Member

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    I have not felt my baby boy yet either. I also may have felt some tiny flutterings or bubbles but nothing I can definately say "that was my baby".

    I just want to feel him already!
     
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    lisanicole Well-Known Member

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    I also have an anterior placenta. I was told by my doctor that because of the position of my placenta I may not feel him until I am between 24-26 weeks!
     
  16. ahcigar1

    ahcigar1 Happy Mother of 1

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    I wouldn't worry too much. I'm sure soon enough you will start to feel something. And it could be that you have an anterior placenta. Try not to think about it too much. That seems to be when I feel baby the most.
     
  17. Pixie2320

    Pixie2320 Well-Known Member

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    I think I have a lot of doubt especially when women in first tri are posting about feeling their baby move/flutters up near their belly button when their uterus is still well behind their pubic bone LOL I'm sure you can feel it sooner with your second and third baby as you know what to feel for, but I'm still pretty sure there are plenty of women ( especially first time moms) who go on thinking their dinner is baby moving for a good long while :shrug:
     
  18. firsttimer87

    firsttimer87 First-timer expecting

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    tbh hun, i've just started feeling LO over the last 2 days. More so today and tummy has been all 'tingly' all day lol. I thought i was late, but your only just over a week before me...should hapen any week now hun x
     
  19. sun

    sun Mum of 3

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    It took a very long time with my first - 24 weeks! And even then it was off and on until I started feeling proper movement. For me it was a combo of having an anterior placenta and not really knowing what it was supposed to feel like. I might have noticed on week 22 or 23 if I knew what to watch out for! Also when you first feel movement it is very light, so you often won't even notice unless you are in the right position and not distracted. And baby has to be kicking/moving in the right spot too!
    I'm sure it won't be long now! xxx
     
  20. olivetree83

    olivetree83 Jon, Hollie, Olivia, & #2

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    I have an ultrasound at every visit so I'll ask her to look. Thank you.
     

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