Why it is okay that I'm not pregnant yet (Feel free to add yours!!)

[Wtbam]

I am trying to think positive, and think of reasons why my life isn't over (sorry melodramatic moment!! ) because we haven't managed to conceive yet! Hopefully looking at this list will help me cope with this waiting

1) I can take this extra time to get as healthy as I can for a pregnancy through diets, supplements, exercise and trying to remove toxins

2) I can get in a better financial position for when I go on maternity leave, by saving any spare money I have now and keeping in a separate account to supplement income if I need to

3) I can take this time to get the house sorted, as it would be stressful going through an extension build process when newly pregnant (we are just starting an extension to add 2 bedrooms to our house!)

4) The TTC process we are going through is strengthening my relationship with my OH

5) The longer this takes, the more I am learning about my own body and how it works

6) I am making lots of supportive friends on BnB!

Feel free to add yours!

 

[Curligurl]

Great reasons!!

1. I can focus on giving my son my undivided attention.
2. I can enjoy taking long hot baths in the afternoons
3. I can flaunt my sexy shape (finally at my ideal weight)
4. Practicing for a baby is fun!
5. We have a good stress-free daily route.

 

[JJKCB]

Non at this point their is absolutely NO good, okay or even acceptable reason to why i'm not, its just unfair

my mam keeps saying 'good, you can finish your degree' but that wont be for another 5 years and then with specialism another 1-3 years which would put me damn close to 35 (last thing I want is to have infertility and reduced fertile age) and my DS in his teens which is everything we dont want... so nope not seeing any okay reason

 

[Wtbam]

Another one is that I don't want to body to try to chuck out a bad quality egg then me have a miscarriage.... at least if I am not ovulating it might be for a good reason?

 

[BeachyFeelin]

I kind of love this idea!

1) I can work on eating healthier and losing some of this extra weight
2) We are going through a long process of buying a relatives house, but won't be able to officially move until early next year. The longer we wait to have a baby, the less chance we are MOVING with a baby.
3) The OH has recently lost his job but is staying on freelance for another month, would be nice for him to already have a new gig before we get a BFP.
4) Financially we are ok, but we could always be better
5) I would love to find a new job closer to home before having a baby (my commute would mean I miss out on a few things)
6) It's nice to not have to worry about a baby sometimes when planning vacations/weekend activities/etc...we can pretty much do whatever we want right now.

Okay - so those all sound like good reasons to postpone having a baby....but....there is no doubt in my mind we'll figure everything out if we do get a BFP soon.

 

[mrshan]

Reasons it's okay for me:

-DH and I just got married in June 2013, so we're still enjoying our honeymoon phase without me puking with morning sickness.

-We're enjoying being able to drive home to see family or spend the weekend camping with friends at the drop of a hat. Our cat is just fine alone for a day. A baby would definitely cramp our style.

-We're trying to move to another state, so we're getting 2 new jobs, buying a new house or finding an apartment, moving, selling or finding a tenant for our current home, and possibly renovating whatever new house we get. I can do all that while pregnant, and happily, but it would be easier without a baby on the way.

-If I'm pregnant right away, my new job won't be assured if I want to come back to work after maternity leave in the US. I'm hoping to be a SAMH for at least the first couple years, but that may not be possible if I'm carrying the benefits for my family if DH is working contract jobs.

-Being healthy and getting in shape. I swear, I'm going to be able to do a pull-up someday.

-Lots of sex!

-It's actually fun to plan and fantasize about starting our family. If it had happened right away, we'd be in a different place as a couple.

-As stressful as TTC is, it's gotta be less stressful than a new baby. So less stress is a good thing!

-I'll never forget this struggle to have a baby. It'll make me appreciate it when it does happen for us.

 

[mrsclt]

I like the idea of listing positives for it not happening straight away. I work in childcare, so every day I go to work, all i can think is I want one!

However, trying to list positives may help me stress less about why it hasn't happened yet.
1. Able to save more money before it finally happens
2. Every month I get a BFN is a month closer to hubby finishing his apprenticeship and becoming a tradie with decent wages
3. More time to try and quit smoking-even though it would be easier when pregnant cause hubby will stop me instead of inviting me out for a smoke, but I would like to quit before it happens for babys sake
4. I am finally learning all these new things about my body, even though all the questions I have may make me stress about my fertility, but its still better than being completely clueless
5. I am off contraception! Saving myself $400 a year! And maybe my libido can bounce back, nuvaring was very detrimental in that department...
6. No longer drinking every weekend, so I feel healthier in that aspect
7. Eating healthier-while I haven't been able to lose any weight (would like to lose 5kgs) I do feel alot more energetic and healthier, as long as I can stay away from work on fat fridays...
8. Will try to find more positives and stress less

 

[mrsclt]

One more positive-working in childcare is allowing me to gain much needed knowledge in raising a child!