Hi, Probably awful of me to admit, my OH has a 14year old daughter, I genuinely like the girl and we get on, she is a really nice good girl lots of fun and typical teen now. Probably not as close as I could be, I wouldn't say I love her yet but she is special, but I am sure in time this will happen, my OH and me been together 2 years. Was a new thing for me to get used to a teenager and sometimes I think she gets a bit jealous of the OH spending time with others, but its natural, she loves her dad so much and misses him - as he does her. I love that about him.
I know sometimes I should make an effort when she comes round, but then sometimes of late I get a bit jealous of her (not nice to admit) but I hope me and OH have a child soon of our own, we have had 2 losses and I did for a while think I hope I get my healthy bub for us both, would be great to have a lil brother/sister for Jenna who I am sure will be an excellent role model to them growing up.
Hope I don't sound like a witch for admissions of the above. But I think its perfectly fine to have strong/weak connections with OH's kids sometimes these bonds can take longer and change when you don't realise.