Ashla
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Well after 4 years and two miscarriages before being blessed with DS1, DH and I are about to begin TTC #2.
Although I had severe GD with DS, I now see that he was the perfect child for me. He has taught me so much and I really do delight in (almost) every day with him!
Having a son when I only wanted daughters, has made me realise that I would really enjoy giving DS a brother. And I can certainly relish the idea of having two boys. But I can't help wondering if a part of me won't be forever disappointed that I didn't get my girl. I come from a family of four girls and have always been surrounded by strong women. I think part of me will always feel wistful if I don't have a girl. And DH has always wanted a girl as well.
But I am also worried that if DH and I try to sway for a girl and we get a boy, we will both be more disappointed than if we just left it to chance. But if we leave it to chance and we get a boy, will I always wonder...?
If we have a boy next I have promised myself we will stop at two, so this is the last roll of the dice.
Does anyone have any advice or experience they could share? Did you sway and still not get the gender you wanted? Did you leave things to chance and wish you had swayed?
Although I had severe GD with DS, I now see that he was the perfect child for me. He has taught me so much and I really do delight in (almost) every day with him!
Having a son when I only wanted daughters, has made me realise that I would really enjoy giving DS a brother. And I can certainly relish the idea of having two boys. But I can't help wondering if a part of me won't be forever disappointed that I didn't get my girl. I come from a family of four girls and have always been surrounded by strong women. I think part of me will always feel wistful if I don't have a girl. And DH has always wanted a girl as well.
But I am also worried that if DH and I try to sway for a girl and we get a boy, we will both be more disappointed than if we just left it to chance. But if we leave it to chance and we get a boy, will I always wonder...?
If we have a boy next I have promised myself we will stop at two, so this is the last roll of the dice.
Does anyone have any advice or experience they could share? Did you sway and still not get the gender you wanted? Did you leave things to chance and wish you had swayed?