Work collegue jealous of me ... (slightly long)

[Jojo-Mummy]

So me and another girl at work are both expecting. Shes due in oct and im not due until feb. However she has suffered with alot of sickness throughout her pregnancy and lost alot of weight, and I only had a little sickness in the beginning.

Everyone keeps telling me how big my bump already is and keeps telling her how small hers is (she doesnt seem to like this. Shes been doing silly things like going on the sunbed and drinking alocohol on our early finishes from work (Everyone was totally disgusted with her).

She doesnt seem to want to talk to me about pregnancy, and when we were all out after work last friday people were asking me questions about bubs and she just shouted in front of everyone "right thats enough baby talk I want to enjoy my night"!!! Im sorry but Im quite happy with people asking me about bubs, but she seems so jealous as if shes not getting all the attention. It makes me sad that she can be like this when its meant to be the happiest time of her life.

Rant over

 

[justthestart]

Silly lady- I would just ignore her hun. They are obviously asking you because you are being responsible in your pregnancy and she doesn't seem to be! Don't let her take away the attention on you, you deserve it! x

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

aw I know, I feel I have to pussy foot around her in work. I would love to be as far along as she is, means I would get to meet bubs sooner, and I love people asking me about bubs. Nm she be on maternity soon hehe

 

[justthestart]

exactly just ignore her and she will be gone soon! I am the same, I wish I was further ahead than I am, there are lots of pregnant girls in my office and I get jealous of them meeting their bubs sooner hahahaha!

 

[Staceysparkle]

Dont let her get to you hun no wonder your colleagues would rather talk to you she sounds horrible and selfish. At least you will be able to relax and talk about bubs as much as you want when she goes on maternity leave

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

Dont let her get to you hun no wonder your colleagues would rather talk to you she sounds horrible and selfish. At least you will be able to relax and talk about bubs as much as you want when she goes on maternity leave

so true! I dont understand her. You would expect her to be happy with people asking her questions. Silly woman lol

 

[Hannaaisha]

Why r women so jealous of each other sometimes when we all need each other for support etc. She might want to ask your advice in a few months so shouldn't burn her bridges. You should talk to her about her baby and make her feel like she has a bit more attention in her direction.

 

[mayb_baby]

Maybe if she was more like you and would also talk and act responsibly she too would have people commenting and wanting to talk and ask her about her LO.

I would tell people that you love talking about your LO and if she doesn’t well tough xxx

 

[filibear]

Why r women so jealous of each other sometimes when we all need each other for support etc. She might want to ask your advice in a few months so shouldn't burn her bridges. You should talk to her about her baby and make her feel like she has a bit more attention in her direction.

I totally agree with this, during the first three/almost four months of my pregnancy I had hyperemesis (still do but controlled with medication) and I lost almost two stone in weight (why didnt I get pregnant after xmas when I would have needed that weight loss lol), anyway, for that whole period felt depressed and alone and totally worthless I was so angry that I couldnt enjoy being pregnant after I had longed for it for so long. Maybe your colleague is also feeling this (and apparently things like this can trigger prenatal depression) and so her irresponsible behaviour is a way of acting this out. You never know, by talking to her one to one about how excited you both are and how lucky you both are she might start to feel better about herself and that in turn will hopefully make her behave better.

 

[Hannaaisha]

She can't be that sick going on sunbeds and having a drink up! I didn't move from my bed for the first 3 months.

 

[filibear]

She can't be that sick going on sunbeds and having a drink up! I didn't move from my bed for the first 3 months.

Sorry I was typing away a bit too quickly and left a bit out (hazard of pregnancy sausage fingers lol) I read it to say that she had had a really rough time but now that is passed, but maybe the "depression" (I never know what word to use) is still there and so she is regaining some control of her life by acting in such a strange manner.

Or maybe I am wrong and she is just a douche that you are best avoiding??

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

She can't be that sick going on sunbeds and having a drink up! I didn't move from my bed for the first 3 months.

Sorry I was typing away a bit too quickly and left a bit out (hazard of pregnancy sausage fingers lol) I read it to say that she had had a really rough time but now that is passed, but maybe the "depression" (I never know what word to use) is still there and so she is regaining some control of her life by acting in such a strange manner.

Or maybe I am wrong and she is just a douche that you are best avoiding??

I try my hardest every day asking her about her baby, but she doesnt seem interested! She just gives me short answers and funny looks I dont know what to do. It must be hard for her to go through the sickness but it doesnt excuse her actions (going on sunbeds and drinking) when people tell her its wrong her reply is (well my babys fully grown now anyway)!!

 

[filibear]

She can't be that sick going on sunbeds and having a drink up! I didn't move from my bed for the first 3 months.

Sorry I was typing away a bit too quickly and left a bit out (hazard of pregnancy sausage fingers lol) I read it to say that she had had a really rough time but now that is passed, but maybe the "depression" (I never know what word to use) is still there and so she is regaining some control of her life by acting in such a strange manner.

Or maybe I am wrong and she is just a douche that you are best avoiding??

I try my hardest every day asking her about her baby, but she doesnt seem interested! She just gives me short answers and funny looks I dont know what to do. It must be hard for her to go through the sickness but it doesnt excuse her actions (going on sunbeds and drinking) when people tell her its wrong her reply is (well my babys fully grown now anyway)!!

Well, it sounds like you/others have done all you can and if she wants to continue with this self destructive behaviour then there really isnt much more you can do, but I feel sad thinking how bad she will feel if anything did happen to her baby (of course i hope it doesnt, no one deserves that) because she will feel that pain forever. Maybe she will come around on her own at some point.

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

I hope she does before its too late.

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

Wow thats a lot of jealousy. I'm sure its cause she isn't the only preggo one and she has to share the spotlight. So sorry hun try to ignore her, though you shouldn't have to tiptoe around her cause your baby is a joyous thing, don't let her put a damper on your happinesss

 

[filibear]

I hope she does before its too late.

I'm sure she will, I had a friend who drank like a fish for most of her 2nd Tri, as I had had 2 MC's and had been TTC for ages, this really upset me and we argued about it constantly it wasnt until she was amost at her third tri when she could see baby from the outside when she started to calm down as it seemed more real to her then I guess, luckily everything was fine with her DC.