Working when pregnant :(

[K12B]

Hey Everyone!
Hope you're all okay?

I'm feeling a little down today, and wondered if anyone else has had a similar problem?

I was off work yesterday with a urine infection, went back in today, not because I felt better really, but because I thought I should. When I got their half of my collegues ignored me, and the other half were making snide comments about how much mess it had caused by me not being there yesterday, and how they worked all the way through their pregnancys and right up till the end!

I have had 1 week off and 1 day yesterday as 'pregnancy related sick' and no other days off, and just feel really iscolated and alone at work I don't really have any friends there, and only a few people even managed to congratulate me on my pregnancy.

Sorry for this long old winge....Katie xxx

 

[starlight2801]

Aww that's not what you need hun

I've had 4 days off so far but luckily for me everyone's been quite sympathetic (too my face at least ;-) ).

I know it's tough but try and ignore them if you can. Either they were very lucky to have an easy time with their pregnancy's or more likely they just have very short memories!

At the end of the day your health and the health of your bubs is far more important than what a bunch of spiteful individuals think of you.

Take care xxx

 

[donna-c-86]

sorry i dont have anything to add just wanted to say rur having a hard to right now and role on maternity leave! x

 

[milamummy]

Poor you hun I dont have any problem with collegues as I work for myself from home but try to keep your chin up..I know its difficult when there is a bad atmosphere at work but its not exactly your fault if you have to be off sick now is it? Shame on those other women for making you feel bad as I very much doubt that the whole lot of them never had any probs or sick days throughout their entire pregnancy. Mean bitches!!

 

[princess-emma]

Well i had 3 months off due to severe sickness although im not full time so doesnt sound as bad as it is..lol so dont feel to bad on taking a week and a day off.. u cant help it and they should be greatfull ur in there today.....

hope u get well soon..and take as much time as u need to make sure u and ur baby are well.xxxx

 

[Sarah&Ady]

Hiya, I had quit4e severe problems at work nd am now signed off until Maternity leave can start, so will have been signed off for 9 weeks by the time 26 weeks comes round. Things got so bad that I have actually had my manager demoted and moved to another part of the business. He was and is a vile little man who felt it was ok to treat me and my pregnancy like a total inconvenience.
Don't let this get to the same point as I did, I got so depressed over this. Speak to a manager, HR or a higher manager. It is discrimination to treat a pregnant lady this way. Know your rights! I sound so womens lib ... but I'm not really! I just wouldnt want anyone to go through what I did at work xxxxxx

 

[K12B]

Thank you so much everyone

Gotta love b n' b for cheering you up when you're feeling down!

Sarah&Ady: That sounds awful...hope you're feeling much better now you're not there? xx

milamummy: I think you have the right idea, working from home and i love your attitude!! hehe they are defo mean bitches!!! xx

starlight2801: Thank you, and you're def right....keeping baby happy and healthy is far more important to me, than i job that i've never really enjoyed! lol xx

Thanks again ladies xx

 

[milamummy]

TBH I really admire all the ladies that work during their pregnancy cos if I didnt work at home and basically dictate my own schedule I really dont know if I would mange it..Some days I just dont have the energy or the pep to even get outta my jammies

 

[tink23]

I've just been signed off for the 3rd week in a row - not for any particular reason other than my work colleagues seem to have a habit of takin the mick out of me..! I'm quite sensitive to that kind of thing, as most of my close friends and family know and it's really been getting me down. Got signed off for 2 weeks, was due to go back this monday but hav been to see Doc again this mornin (he wanted to see me b4 I go back) and he's signed me off for another week. He wanted to sign me off for 2 but I said no (only cuz I was worried work would be funny with me not cuz I didn't want to stay off, believe me I do)

Just try and ignore them hun, I know it's hard and people can try and make your life damn difficult but you need to look after urself and bubs, not worry about what people in work think. Chin up

 

[K12B]

tink23: Thank you I do completely sympathise!....and I don't blame you for not wanting to go back. I was signed off for a week and found it really hard to go back! The nasty little comments and things really get to me to, and what I find worse is when the people who say those things, then try and pretend to be my best friend?!! :S lol
Do you have much longer before you can take your maternity leave? xxx

milamummy: Lol!! How brilliant...i'd love to be able to be at work with my pjs on!!! xx

 

[reiller]

Hey Everyone!
Hope you're all okay?

I'm feeling a little down today, and wondered if anyone else has had a similar problem?

I was off work yesterday with a urine infection, went back in today, not because I felt better really, but because I thought I should. When I got their half of my collegues ignored me, and the other half were making snide comments about how much mess it had caused by me not being there yesterday, and how they worked all the way through their pregnancys and right up till the end!

I have had 1 week off and 1 day yesterday as 'pregnancy related sick' and no other days off, and just feel really iscolated and alone at work I don't really have any friends there, and only a few people even managed to congratulate me on my pregnancy.

Sorry for this long old winge....Katie xxx

If nayone of these women have had children then they should understand .Everyone battles it a different way we can't all be superwomen... tell them to PO if the say anything to you. You are doing your best i really hate to hear this because when IM out too im made to feel like im the worst person in the world... How will they cope without you when you go on Maternity leave?

 

[K12B]

reiller: I work in a school, and the majority of the people I work with have children....so I totally agree, I really feel they ought to be a little more sympathetic?
I'm sorry to hear you have the same problem....it's so unecessary for people to make you feel like that, especially when you have so much bigger things going on your live
.....and that's a very good point, if they get in such a mess when i'm off for one day, how will they cope with my maternity leave...hahaha xx

 

[Minnie_me]

I've been signed off for 6 weeks now with hyperemesis. Tried to go back after 4 but it was a disaster - my mother drove me in whilst I clutched a bucket and my boss (who thankfully I have an amazing relationship with) sent me home immediately where I crawled back into bed and was violently sick all day. I was getting all stressed out thinking I was being a wimp as people keep telling me that they just carried on despite morning sickness but having sobbed to my GP I was told that I was too ill and had to rest.

Thankfully I have great colleagues, am sure there may be the odd comment about the amount of time I am off but they all saw the state I was in that day so to be honest I think it may help them realise.

For all of you who are not so fortunate to have understanding colleagues - ((((((big hugs))))))

 

[K12B]

Minnie_me: That sounds dreadful....I got off very lightly with only a little morning sickness, and I felt super sorry for myself...so I think you have every right to give yourself time to feel better
At least you have an understanding boss- i'm sure that helps Are you starting to feel any better now? xx

 

[babyboy201220]

hi, i can totaly relate to you all. iv been having a bit of a hard time at work. it really feels like no one cares your pregnant and just expect me to do everything i would of 6 months ago. my manager is a complete arse and all i ever get from him is " your not the 1st person to be pregnant and wont be the last just get on with it2 ! went to my midwife appointment yest and told her how much im strugglein at work and that i feel so so tired and feed up. she took my blood presure and pulse and both was high, she said that i need to slow down or she wanted to put me on the sick. i no its the best thing to do is have a rest, but i worrie so much what people will be sayin about me at work. (i rang in sick today) really dont no if to go back on just get on with it or get the sick note ??

 

[K12B]

I have the same dilemma babyboy201220, doctor wanted to sign me off yesterday but I was too worried about the consequences!...seems I was right to be!! lol

If they are stressing you out and making you miserable, maybe it would be best for you and baby, to have a bit of a break? Do you have much longer before you start your maternity leave? xx

 

[Minnie_me]

It's weird now as it comes in waves, the past 2 days I have felt 100 times better so have eaten and drunk as much as I possibly can to try and put some weight on and rehydrate myself. I have now identified that it seems to tie in with surges of hormone which I guess means LO is having a growth spurt as my BBs get extra sore and I get even more bloomin spots and bang, bedridden again and unable to hold anything down.

Had an occ health consultation yesterday - mandatory thing as I work for the public sector so 20 days sick triggers one and I was a bit stunned really. I always assumed that they tried to get you back to work somehow or other (and don't get me wrong, I want to work, I love my job) but he simply told me to forget it and focus on me and the baby. He wants me signed off for at least another 2 weeks and thereafter to take it day by day and only if I feel well enough then I should consider an hour or so's work from home.

As for those colleagues who are trying to make you feel guilty - forget em. Ignorance is bliss in their case as they have clearly not experienced the troubles you are facing. Whatever you do, do not even for one moment consider struggling on and putting yourself or your little one at risk just to placate self centred, ignorant people. xxxx

 

[K12B]

Oh that doesn't sound like much fun at all! I have gone in the other direction I think and the majority of the time, seem to want to eat everything in the house lol! Well that's until the heartburn kicks in!!!

Sounds like they were very supportive at your meeting yesterday...and if they are happy for you to take the time, then it's probably a good idea for you too It's also nice that they have suggested the option of working from home, so that you still feel you're doing something, but there's not the added pressure of the workplace and the people in it.

Thank you for your advice....I think that you are right, and really I should be putting less importance of their opinions of me, and more on keeping baby happy and healthy! Do you have much longer to go?! xxx

 

[alocin22]

Just try to ignore them, everyones pregnancys are totally different. Some people suffer, some dont... thats life.. try not ot let them gt you down.
Start a count down until maternity leave.. xxxx

 

[babyboy201220]

hi k12b, iv got another 7 week to go till my mat leave. i no it doesnt sound long but trust me where i work its a life time! i just want to be at home now i feel ready to leave work and enjoy my pregnancy not stress out about work all the time. when i got back to work yest i went to see my under manager to tell him what my midwife had said, and e was so understanding, on the other hand my manager is the total opposite. xx