Would this annoy you? (Angry at OH!)

[mandaa1220]

If your OH had been like "damn that girl is so fine... I'd want a piece of that" or said it in a vulgar or demeaning way to you, it'd be really out of order and the fight would be acceptable IMO.

Hahaha, that made me laugh out loud.

I am well aware that I sound like a crazy controlling girlfriend, and rest assured I am really not. He regularly says "... is very attractive" and I will usually agree, or sometimes I will point out a smokin' woman to him and he will agree, but this morning just really grinded my gears. I guess I just didn't understand why he would have to say that instead of just "She's a lovely person and didn't deserve that". I think it's because I am more considerate of his feelings and wouldn't ever say anything like that to him.

hahaha glad I could lighten the mood!

I don't think you sound crazy or controlling... I think most women get sensitive by that stuff. Just personally, I don't understand it. I was hoping to just rationalize my perspective to you. I think it also depends what you're talking about and perhaps you were more sensitive in the moment than you typically are.

Hope you're feeling better

 

[PrettyFlowers]

If your OH had been like "damn that girl is so fine... I'd want a piece of that" or said it in a vulgar or demeaning way to you, it'd be really out of order and the fight would be acceptable IMO.

Hahaha, that made me laugh out loud.

I am well aware that I sound like a crazy controlling girlfriend, and rest assured I am really not. He regularly says "... is very attractive" and I will usually agree, or sometimes I will point out a smokin' woman to him and he will agree, but this morning just really grinded my gears. I guess I just didn't understand why he would have to say that instead of just "She's a lovely person and didn't deserve that". I think it's because I am more considerate of his feelings and wouldn't ever say anything like that to him.

hahaha glad I could lighten the mood!

I don't think you sound crazy or controlling... I think most women get sensitive by that stuff. Just personally, I don't understand it. I was hoping to just rationalize my perspective to you. I think it also depends what you're talking about and perhaps you were more sensitive in the moment than you typically are.

Hope you're feeling better

Thank you

I'm putting it down to AF who I can feel looming..

 

[babyzoe]

i guess it depends on your relationship really. I encourage my DH to pick out women and say whether they are attractive or not. I think it's only natural so why not have fun with it, no? Like...one time...DH and I were walking down the street and a girl in a dress walked over a grate and her dress blew up to her head. I was like "DH, OMG did you see that?!!?" but stoopid DH was like...no I was looking at some tree across the street. LOL.

By the same token, I'll tell him if I find someone attractive or have a mini-crush on someone (that sounds worse than it is...by crush, I just mean attracted to). Just bc we're married doesn't mean we stop finding other people attractive. It's acting on the attraction that's the problem. So, I can't commiserate with you there, these things don't ever bother us. But again, it depends on the relationship so I don't want to say you were over reacting. Just wanted to add in my viewpoint.

 

[PrettyFlowers]

I think it grinds on me when he says stuff like that because I never do, out of respect. I think in a way I have been brought up like that. My parents have a very lovely marriage, and I have never heard either of them comment on someone else. That's not to say they don't find other people attractive (we all do!) however they just have the courtesy to not say it in front of one another.

To me, the fact that he says stuff like that to me has nothing to do with trust. I trust him 100% not to cheat on me, I just find it disrespectful - end of. He can say anything he wants to his mates for all I care and he can leer all he likes (Heck, he can even watch porn if he wants to). I guess that's just my views, and everyone has different opinions

 

[emicakess]

Flowers, i agree with you on the respect thing definitely.

 

[PrettyFlowers]

Flowers, i agree with you on the respect thing definitely.

Yay, I'm not crazy!

Haha!