Would you consider it now 'safe' ... ?

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  1. 20102001

    20102001 Yellow IVF Rainbow Baby

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    After a perfect scan at 10weeks 6days ... ?

    Would you consider it safe enough to spill the beans and buy stuff ... ?

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  2. needprayers

    needprayers Well-Known Member

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    hey girl again.. i would say your are safe!! my doc told me i have only a 1% chance of something going wrong!! And the over all risk goes down to 2-3 % after HB is detected... thats just my docs opinion so dont hold me to that :) way to go though for keeping it a secret, my fam new right when i saw them.. haha i denied a glass of wine, witch i never do!
     
  3. Sushai

    Sushai Mum of 5, soon to be 6

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    Yes! I considered myself safe at my 11wk scan and have bought baby something too...just a pair of booties, its a start I guess...

    Go buy something, celebrate this little life inside of you!


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  4. sequeena

    sequeena Winging it.

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    Hi hun I had my scan at 10+6 and had already announced and bought things BEFORE that. It's up to you when you feel comfortable x
     
  5. andella95

    andella95 Well-Known Member

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    It's totally a personal comfort thing. I won't feel "safe" until after I feel the baby move...because then I can have reassurance every day that things are okay.
     
  6. girlygirl:)

    girlygirl:) Well-Known Member

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    I announced on fb today after scan at 11w+1, I feel assured enough that 6 days wouldn't make that much difference, xx
     
  7. 20102001

    20102001 Yellow IVF Rainbow Baby

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    Thanks ladies! :flower:

    Just a bit worried after a mmc in June but I was only 7weeks then (big difference!) so maybe I should just RELAX :icecream:
     
  8. girlygirl:)

    girlygirl:) Well-Known Member

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    The chance of a MC is low at this point and even lower is a risk of MMC, but only announce when you feel comfortable because it might make you worry after wards, maybe wait until your 12 weeks and get a doppler to feel reassured? xxx
     
  9. 20102001

    20102001 Yellow IVF Rainbow Baby

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    We did actually buy a doppler, well what we thought was a doppler (I say we Oh bought it) a Summers one?

    But it's crap, and I've only ever heard people say bad things about it.

    I would of gone for an Angel doppler, and half wondering whether to still get one now we've gone and got this Summer one (we can't return it cos we opened it all up lol)

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  10. famof6

    famof6 Well-Known Member

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    I know some ladies say you are never safe and I understand we all still worry some,but I think after you see the HB your mc rate is very low.I am going to wait until after the gender scan to but anything just because I haven't seen alot of neutral things and I am afraid I will run out of things to buy and the last few months will drag by with everything done.lol I say tell everyone when you feel comfortable if that is 4weeks or 20 weeks so be it!Congrats!!
     
  11. lsh2010

    lsh2010 Well-Known Member

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    I was wondering the same thing! I had a scan at what I thought was 9 weeks but they put me at 10 weeks, and all was fine! I have told a few more people but was waiting till my 12 week one before going completely public! It's next week so not too long to wait. :happydance:
     
  12. chele

    chele Mummy to Max & Hayden

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    I will be. My 12 week scan will prob be when I am 10 weeks based on my LMP so we're intending on telling everyone after the scan (when the bloody NHS pull their finger out)x
     
  13. ttcnewbie123

    ttcnewbie123 Well-Known Member

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    I would start telling ppl if I was in your boat. Me & DH have said we will tell ppl after our 12 week scan, but our scan could actually be anytime from 11weeks so if it is we will still tell ppl after that x
     
  14. mrs_lukey

    mrs_lukey Each day is progress xx

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    My hubby announced on facebook after a scan when I was 9 weeks. We had scans at 5, 7 and 9 weeks which showed perfect growth and a lovey heartbeat so were told our chance of miscarriage are now less than 1% :) xx
     
  15. 20102001

    20102001 Yellow IVF Rainbow Baby

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    That's exactly what I was thinking about, some people will have theirs at 11 weeks and that's the only one they have til 20 weeks ...

    I'm still debating, thining it's only a week (pretty much) til the next one :flower:
     
  16. girlygirl:)

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    I wont have another scan until i'm 20 weeks (bloody NHS!!) either so that's anther reason why we announced. xx
     
  17. LoraLoo

    LoraLoo Pregnant with a Rainbow

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    Of course the risk of miscarriage is much less, but you can lose a baby any time in pregnancy, there is no such thing as a 'safe' time. Of course, you should get excited and let people know and enjoy being pregnant, but really annoys me that some people are so naive that they think after 12 weeks everything will be fine.
     
  18. tweedy

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    i am the same, i have my scan at 10 1/2 weeks and will not get another till 20 weeks, so will not know any different, we will tell after the scan, but i won't be announcing on facebook or anything, but thats just my preference.
     
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    20102001 Yellow IVF Rainbow Baby

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    I am not so naive that I think once I hit 12 weeks everything will be fine, hence why I put the word safe in hypons (sp).
    My mum and my auntie have both lost after 12 weeks - 16w and 6months so I am certainly aware it can happen.

    After a mmc at only 7 weeks I feel that getting to this point is a big step towards actually getting a healthy baby, the nurses in my IVF clinic have told me to stop worrying as I have hit some good milestones.

    Im not going to spend the rest of my pregnancy worrying about miscarriage when that is all I have done so far, it has done me and my OH no favours :flower:


    I'm in two minds about facebook, but I probably will eventually ...
    I know everyone on my fb, no srtangers or weirdos on there lol

    I wanted to on April 1st cos I knew noone would believe me, then I wanted to on Mother's day but I'm holding out for the scan.
    Might not even do it straight after that anyway x x x
     
  20. LoraLoo

    LoraLoo Pregnant with a Rainbow

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    It wasn't directed towards you individually, it was a general statement and one i stand by. I wouldnt ever tell anyone to worry through out their pregnancy and make themselves ill. But some people really do believe that once they hit 12 weeks, baby loss is impossible :shrug:
     

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