Would you let a relative who is babysitting your LO offer her breast for comfort?

Discussion in 'Breastfeeding' started by asacia, Aug 24, 2009.

  1. asacia

    asacia Guest

    Seen on another forum, a discussion about whether it is okay to for a relative to comfort a baby with thier breast, if they are inconsolable.

    Say you nip to the hairdressers and leave your baby with your Mum. Baby gets very upset and won't be comforted. Baby won't take EBM in a bottle and is distraught.

    Are you okay with Mum offering her breast, or is that a no-no?

    What about a sister who is also breastfeeding her baby?
     
  2. Mervs Mum

    Mervs Mum Doula & Mum of 3!

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    If my sister were BFing or a close friend I wouldnt mind so long as we'd discussed it first. :)
     
  3. mommyof3co

    mommyof3co Mommy of 4 amazing boys!

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    I don't think I could let anyone actually nurse them, I would use donated milk in a bottle but with nursing to me it's such a bonding thing I couldn't let someone else do that with them. But that's also why I never left them while I was nursing haha
     
  4. thelilbump

    thelilbump ♥ mummy to a princess ♥

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    I don't know tbh i don't think i could if i'm truely honest
     
  5. Mervs Mum

    Mervs Mum Doula & Mum of 3!

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    I think if I did and they soothed her I'd probably think I'd lost my magical powers!
     
  6. thelilbump

    thelilbump ♥ mummy to a princess ♥

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    i think it's a tough one because obviously you want your child to be happy so in saying that you'd have to agree to let someone else sooth them in that way but at the same time breastfeedings my thing and, as selfish as it sounds, i just don't think i could bring myself to share our special thing. Ohh i sound awful :blush: just trying to be honest though!
     
  7. cupcake

    cupcake Mommy of a gorgeous boy!

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    oh nooo waay ..
     
  8. Mervs Mum

    Mervs Mum Doula & Mum of 3!

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    I get ya....it's a tricky one isnt it....if she were screaming blue murder and I rang to check on her and my sister offered, I'd say just do it I think....
     
  9. Kitten

    Kitten Mummy to Theakston & Nyah

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    Oooh no, but then I have my own views on bf'ing anyway.
     
  10. asacia

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    Can I ask what they are?
     
  11. amazed

    amazed Mummy of 4 <3

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    No i wouldnt... i would find it a lil strange.
     
  12. marley2580

    marley2580 Well-Known Member

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    I would if they were BFing their own baby, but not if they had no milk.
     
  13. redberry3

    redberry3 Love My Little Peek <3

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    Never. I even have a tough time joking about it when I haven't packed enough bottles for my LO and my husband saying well can't (insert friends name here) just give him some from her boob, I am sure she has enough...ha...ha...ha. Ya...no.
     
  14. Mervs Mum

    Mervs Mum Doula & Mum of 3!

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    Yeah I think the same too. I couldnt work out exactly why though......
     
  15. mama2b

    mama2b Mummy & TTC

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    Errrrrrrrrrrrm no way !

    I feel a bit weird even thinking about it........
     
  16. Kirstin

    Kirstin Well-Known Member

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    No, never
     
  17. Hollys_Twinny

    Hollys_Twinny Well-Known Member

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    Ewe! No just no!!!!
     
  18. JayleighAnn

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    No. I couldn't stand the thought of anyone else putting their breast in my babies mouth. It's mine and Halens special time and theres no way anyone else is having that.

    I find it hard as it is for OH to give him a bottle after his bath let alone someone elses boob
     
  19. Kitten

    Kitten Mummy to Theakston & Nyah

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    Just that I don't get this love for it like everyone talks about. I mean, I don't dislike it, but I can't say I "enjoy" it either. Like when people talk about missing it and letting their babies self-wean at 1-2years old and stuff, I can't imagine choosing to do it for that long. I plan on doing it until at least 6months but after that I plan to wean off and I doubt I'd go to a year. I just don't seem to get the magic everyone else gets but who knows? Maybe it'll hit me when he starts weaning.
     
  20. wishingonastar

    wishingonastar Well-Known Member

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    i had to go to work for a job interview today and left LO with OH for about 5 hours...he had a terrible time with her screaming and refusing more than one bit of EBM (which his mum had to give her cos she refused from him!) and i can honestly say despite knowing how distraught she must have been i couldn't have let his mum or someone else offer their breast for comfort...we bought dummies as an emergency back up instead!
     

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