Would you say something?

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  1. Cat

    Cat Well-Known Member

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    Right please be honest with me if you think were being over sensitive here.
    Yesterday I spoke to OHs mum on the phone, and she was saying how she bumped into OHs dad and partner in Tesco and they told her how they were going on holiday for a week staying in a B&B in the lake district . . . thing is they are going this monday, and the baby is due wednesday, so they have booked themselves a holiday for the week their grandchild is due to be born! Now is it just us or does that seem a bit funny? Idound think my mum would dream of doing that, or OHs mum. Last time round Iended up in hospital for 3 days with complications, while OH ran round like a mad fool, and was very emotional, woried and not sleeping, he relied on his dad heavily to help him out and cook him dinners each night (or he wouldnt have eaten) while he was back and fourth to the hospital to see me. And its only today that he popped aver to see us that he told us himself that he was going away. OH made a comment like, oh right you know Cats due on ednesday, to which he just said well she could have it anytime, today next week or the following week. Which okay is true, but it still just seems funny to book a holiday for that week, when especially this time its going to be even harder trying to juggle things with Noah, if I end up in hospital for longer than a day.

    So do you think its a bit offish, or were just taking it to personally. And what if anything would you say to them?
     
  2. Suz

    Suz ~ I are a Nerd ~

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    :hugs: Awe Cat, Personally I would be a bit upset about that. I think that You OH should say something and maybe tell his dad that he really needs him....:hugs:
     
  3. bexxie

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    I have to be honest and say it wouldnt bother me but then again we havent and dont have to rely on rellies also i think they prob did think babe would be late or anytime other than then which if course is daft as babe could come on your due date or that week.

    If was your mum then I could understand more but then again my mum was working away the week Amelia was born and TBH no one so much made me a cuppa tea lol.

    OOh I dont know if i am helping hun but wish you the best.....I aint that far I can send some dinners lol or help out.

    Take care sweetie

    Bex.x
     
  4. Caroline

    Caroline Proud Mum of 4

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    :hugs::hugs::hugs: I don't think you're being over sensitive, I think its really odd they're going away. The way i see it and sorry if i'm putting my foot in it or barking up the wrong tree is that they resent helping out. Could it be his partner that doesn't want OH dad spending so much time with you when lo arrives, maybe jealous?

    Whatever i think it sucks. All our family are 350 miles away ,but mil took time off to come and look after kids when induced, and dad and stepmum came just b4 and when i had a scare stayed until mil arrived so that if i went into labour overnight i didn't have to worry about getting lo to arranged baby sitter.

    I'm with Suz could your OH have word with Dad?
     
  5. beanie

    beanie Well-Known Member

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    I think its a bit off. If nothing else their grandchild is going to be born. I would have taken that very personally if OH's parents did that.
     
  6. Helen

    Helen ICSI Twins + miracle BFP

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    I wouldn't take it that personally TBH. At the end of the day they're only in the Lakes in a B & B and they could easily get to you if they needed to, it's not like they're jetting off the to the Caribbean for a fortnight. Plus it's true the baby could come any time.

    Maybe they wanted to get a weeks hols in before the baby arrives so that they are refreshed and able to help when he's here.
     
  7. Imi

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    My mum is going to greece for 2 wks that ellie is due!

    was booked and paid for before i found out i was PG but TBH i'd rather they went and left me to it lol!!

    Mind you if im induced then she will be here before they go, i wasn't impressed at first, now im not arsed lol!

    xxx
     
  8. Cat

    Cat Well-Known Member

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    See Im not bothered about it cause Idont need them around and Im not a fan of his really, he tends to like to do spitefull mind games and stuff, like last year for several months he refused to come round and visit beacuse OH asked if he could try to visit at evenings and weekends, cause he kept coming round during the day for hours expecting me to entertain, when I worked 3 daays a week and the other two were the only days Ihad to do my course work and housework and I was beginging to fall behind with my studies. He however interpreted this as meaning that he wasnt allowed to see his grandson at all! So started a whole big game of silly buggers.

    Thing is OH and his dad always used to be very close. He is an only child, and doesnt even see aunts and uncles or cousins so the only family he has is his mum and dad, they are his whole support network. His dad never looks after Noah anyway as we tried in the past but they were hopeless and never stuck to his routine and ended up just doing dangerous things without thinking so we couldnt rely on them to take care of him. They always had a great interest in the birth of Noah, as OHbeing an only child, who left it till he was 34 to become a dad, they always assumed prior that they would never have grandchildren, where as with this one it just seems like they dont give a damn.

    I just feel sorry for OH, as if anything happens to me and I end up in hospital again, he is going to have to look after himself and Noah with 1 hour drives to and from hospital, his mum another hour away (and she doesnt drive) and very little help both emotionally and actual physical help. It just seems a very selfish thing to have done, when he knows how much he was needed last time, and how much of a wreck OH was.
     
  9. Wobbles

    Wobbles BnB Co-Founder ~ Retired

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    I'd be well pissed regardless of how much I got on with them ...
     

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