Wow Never thought I would have to deal with this...

[luckybreak]

So I am hispanic, my fiance' is white his mama and father are divorced and married to different people. His mama loves me just fine but his father hates my race, he does not like hispanics or blacks. So we are now expecting everybody is happy for us but we had to go thru his current wife to break the news because she doesnt want my fiance' to hear all the nasty racial stuff he might say about me and our child he doesnt bother me because I dont ever have to deal with him but I am sad for my fiance' because the family name ends with him unless he has a child and he wishes he could share this with his father but his father probably won't ever talk to him again. I can't believe in this day an age this whole racial stuff still happens.

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

That's terrible. If this causes his father to fall out with him, his loss and I'm sure your fiance will see that too.

 

[Mally01]

Aw hun that is really sad I feel for you hugs To be honest the only person who really and truly loses out here is your fiance's father. He is denying himself the joy of becoming a Grandfather to your child and he is gonna end up trying to make his son choose and inevitably his son will choose you and his baby over his Father. It is quite absurd that he hasn't bothered to get to know you and judges you on your heritage / colour of skin, what an idiot. You just carry on sweetie and enjoy your pregnancy and being with your man and let his father do what he wants. If you are just open to anything (i.e one day his Dad comes around and wants to see his Grandchild) then be nice and sweet and accommodating, that proves you are a way better person than him and obviously you are anyway.

 

[mrsthomas623]

I am so sorry you have to go through this :sad: Pure ignorance.

 

[luckybreak]

Thanks everybody, I have always try to be nice to his dad. He calls him I pick up the call and say oh hello Mr. So and so I will get James for you have a good night. He doesnt say one word to me but that's ok Kill them with kindness I say

 

[animalcracker]

So I am hispanic, my fiance' is white his mama and father are divorced and married to different people. His mama loves me just fine but his father hates my race, he does not like hispanics or blacks. So we are now expecting everybody is happy for us but we had to go thru his current wife to break the news because she doesnt want my fiance' to hear all the nasty racial stuff he might say about me and our child he doesnt bother me because I dont ever have to deal with him but I am sad for my fiance' because the family name ends with him unless he has a child and he wishes he could share this with his father but his father probably won't ever talk to him again. I can't believe in this day an age this whole racial stuff still happens.

Ugh, what a racist pig. (Sorry, but racism really irks me). I know this must be hard for you. I wish i had some words of wisdom (hugs!)

 

[AmberDW]

racism blows! sorry

 

[Unbridled]

That's horrible! I'm so sorry you have to deal with that kind of ignorance in your own family.

 

[Mon_n_john]

Your father-in-law sounds like a really nasty person and ignorant at that. I'm not sure what country you are from but I am Hispanic too. I was born in the US but my family is from Cuba. However, before they moved to Cuba in the late 1800's most of my family was from either Spain, Belgium, or Italy. We are all mostly European when you go back into our lineage.

My husband is also anglo and his family is mostly of English descent. Oddly enough, while looking up my heritage I found that one of my ancestors had lived in the same town in England that his family was from. Go figure lol!

So he needs to get over it, he might be surprised to know where your family is really from way back.

 

[luckybreak]

I am from the dominican republic our ancestors came from Europe also...but his father descendants are from Ireland, he lives in South carolina..he is really old school you know I dont really blame him he was raised that way and he never really got out of the same town he grew up surrounded by same minded people, the man does not even owns a computer or cell phones...I just feel bad for him and I hope he at least dont turn his own son away.

 

[Mon_n_john]

I feel sorry for your child. In the end that is who will suffer. But if that is how he is then maybe he's doing your child a favor by staying out of its life. I hope he changes his mind when the baby is born. Good luck!

 

[libbylou]

How awful, his ignorance is truly shameful and in the end he is causing more harm to himself than he is to anyone else.
I hope the birth of his grandchild takes off his blinders

 

[luckybreak]

yeah we are far away from each other different state so our child won't have to deal with anything he has to say or how he feels...between my father and his step father our child will have enough grandfathers to go around