WTT baby #2

[Simonie]

Hey everyone!

First time posting but been lurking since October 2010, a little after I found out I was pregnant with #1.

I have a little girl named Olivia who's almost 9 months now. I feel the urge more and more to get pregnant again. My first pregnancy was so great, no symptoms but a lot of back pain. Olivia is a very easy baby, has been doing her night since she was born. At 3 months she was seelping already 10 hours at night. She's a very happy baby, rarely cries. I mean, I could not asked for a better baby! I am so in love.

I have been thinking about having #2 when Olivia was around 6 months. Just thinking, not actually talk about it to my boyfriend (been together for 12 years). But right now, I feel the need to make another one very strongly. Haven't talked about it yet because I know my boyfriend is not convinced. When family ask if we want more, he's the first to answer: we'll see how it goes with this one with a face saying I'm not sure about it!

Anyway, even if we wanted to try, right now it's impossible to get pregnant, I haven't got my period back again so I must wait for that. But I also don't want to wait too much. I am 30 years old and even though it took 3 months to get pregnant and we we're trying, just doing the pull out method and wait for my period to be regular, it could take much longer for the second one.

I just need to take a deep breath and have the courage to ask my boyfriend.

Well, that's it. I'm very happy to join this forum and be a part of it. I hope to find some people that are on the same boat as me.

 

[Vonnie18]

Hi and welcome to the board! I am WTT #3 and it took hubby a bit of convincing, mainly about money worries though.
I say sit down and have a proper chat with him, explain how you feel and let him explain how he feels. X

 

[Delamere19]

Hi there hun,

welcome to BnB!! Everyone is lovely here.

I have a 16 month old son and I would love a brother or sister for him but I think it will be next year at the earliest that we TTC. I'm 32 this year so like you I don't want to wait too much longer and I get sooo broody seeing new babies!!

Cath x

 

[LaughOutLoud]

I had my DD when I was 30 and will be 33 later this yr. I so badly wanted baby No.2 but until npw DH wasnt ready as DD hasnt been an easy baby. Having said that she is so much full of love and life and in many ways ahead of her peers so gets attention from everyone that meets/sees her, god bless. Anyway, back to you...if I were you id sit down and talk to your OH as you dont know how he feels, he might say yes or need some time to think. LO is now 2yrs and I didnt want to wait too long due to my age but now my brothers wedding coming up later this yr and disrupting my plans!!! For me not giving LO a sibling was just not an option and the more time that passed, the stronger I felt.

 

[x__amour]

Welcome! I am WTT #2 as well!

 

[Simonie]

Thank you for the warm welcome!

First I will wait to get my period back. Then I'll talk to my boyfriend about it. It might not be that hard to convince him since he loves his daughter so much and he's playing with her much more then before. It's just that we will need to buy a new house since this one has only 3 rooms which one is occupied by our two dogs. Olivia's room is too small to put two babies in it. That will be the hard part.

 

[Babeonthego]

Hey Simonie ,

Im in the exact same position as you. We have to move house in order to have another baby. This is defo the hard part as we have little equity in our current house therefore need to save up a deposit. We are hoping to try later this year and move later next year. Fingers crossed everything works out for u

 

[Simonie]

I wish you good luck too Babeonthego!

What is good for us is that our current house all paid. That's a huge relief right there. Also, at the time we bought the house, I wasn't working but now I am so that will be a big advantage to search for something bigger and nicer. It's just that my boyfriend is hard to convince on thing that cost money! He's careful which is nice but it takes so much time to make a decision!!

 

[sarah0108]

:wave:

Hiya!

I'm WTT #3 xx

 

[Simonie]

#3! How lucky! I want 3 or 4 but I think my boyfriend will stop at 2.. Will be hard to convince but maybe I'll be lucky.

 

[sarah0108]

Thank you, we both wanted just one more! xx

 

[daisyblue]

Hi I'm WTTC #2 as well, hopefully in the next couple of months we will start. DD is 25 months old now and I've been broody for ages. Would be great to have a baby before or around the time she is 3 though. We also need to have a loft conversion in our house before having another so that's a hurdle, but hoping to have one in September.
Good luck to everyone!

 

[Simonie]

I asked my boyfriend how he felt about a second baby and he said he doesn't want another one. I do not think it is a final answer but for now, he is ok with our daughter. He's reasoning is that it's going very well with ours, he's happy and she has all the attention she wants. He also mentioned money but we are totally fine regarding that. He always worries about it but it's just because he's a virgin (astro sign!). Like I said, I don't think it's a final answer. Maybe in a couple of months, when she'll be more independent.

I haven't told him how much I wanted another one just to not influence him on his opinion. I will probably ask him more seriously in a near future to let him know how much I think having a second one would be fun. We'll see.

At least his reasons are not because he think it's tough having a child! That's a great start!

 

[bbygurl719]

Hi my names Amanda and im also WTT for #2.. Our daughter Aaryella is 2months n almost 2 weeks old. We will TTC in late Sept early Oct

 

[HollySSmith]

I'm also WTT for #2. DS is almost 18 months but we plan on waiting till next year before trying for #2. DH is playing the "I'm not sure if we will have another card", but we've talked very recently and he understands that it's a deal-breaker for me. Ive been very upfront on what I expect as far as children....I think he's scared because DS hasn't been the easiiest child. He still wakes constantly and is in the tantrum phase. At least DH acknowledges that he will feel differently once DS is more independent.
I think all guys go through a phase where they get scared off of more kids. I think they know how much hard work it is now and are a little leery of doing it again. I know DH will change his mind (well we got married with the understanding that we would be having 2 kids) I think he's just stressed about our toddler who is being a handful. We are re-starting sleep training this week... I can't wait for us to make some progress so we can get a bit of ourselves back!

 

[Simonie]

You see, mine is hesitant and our baby is really easy! I hope he'll change his mind soon because having a second one before our daughter is 2 would be ideal. If not, I'll wait until she's 3. From what I have read, it's easier for the older kid that way.

Good luck with ttc bbygurl719 and HollySSmith!

 

[bbygurl719]

thank u and i hope u start TTC here soon!!

 

[plutosblue]

Hiya! I am WTT #2 - We are looking at Feb 2013 at the earliest.. (well thats my plan anyhoo, DH has taken a while to adjust to fatherhood so may take some convincing )

 

[EstelSeren]

I'm wtt for number 2 as well! I'm really lucky though as my husband is keen for us to have another relatively soon too! We're looking to start trying again sometime between September and December this year! Hopefully it won't take so long this time! We're hoping for an 18 month- 2 year age gap.

Beca :wave: