madasa
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Is anyone else in this position?
I feel like I am WTT for #3. But I feel like dh is done.
I've gone through really low times, feeling as if I am grieving for my 3rd neverborn child. I've gone through times when I feel it is a possibility and other times when I feel like I have come to terms with not having anymore.
I've tried raising it with him and it doesn't go well - he doesn't want to even talk about it for another couple of years. Sometimes, in softer moments (when I haven't raised the subject) he will say things that make it sound like he does want another child someday but other times, the exact opposite....
Sometimes I feel like i really need to know where I stand, so I can look forward to another baby, or find closure. Other times I am afraid to find out for sure, in case the answer is what I don't want to hear. (I know, what a chicken.)
I've found a kind of happy place where I can accept the way things are today, and just enjoy being happy with what I have already. But sometimes the uncertainty/sadness catches up with me and I get lost wondering or hoping or grieving :/
Thanks for letting me ramble :/
I feel like I am WTT for #3. But I feel like dh is done.
I've gone through really low times, feeling as if I am grieving for my 3rd neverborn child. I've gone through times when I feel it is a possibility and other times when I feel like I have come to terms with not having anymore.
I've tried raising it with him and it doesn't go well - he doesn't want to even talk about it for another couple of years. Sometimes, in softer moments (when I haven't raised the subject) he will say things that make it sound like he does want another child someday but other times, the exact opposite....
Sometimes I feel like i really need to know where I stand, so I can look forward to another baby, or find closure. Other times I am afraid to find out for sure, in case the answer is what I don't want to hear. (I know, what a chicken.)
I've found a kind of happy place where I can accept the way things are today, and just enjoy being happy with what I have already. But sometimes the uncertainty/sadness catches up with me and I get lost wondering or hoping or grieving :/
Thanks for letting me ramble :/