is this ok here? hello girls. the in laws live about 3 hours away by car and they dont get to see Joshua very often.last time was 6 weeks ago. they dont see him very much but they dont even call to see how he is or what hes been up to. but i wont get started on that. we have planned to go to theirs for xmas so Joshua can have a 'good' xmas. well im now thinking twice about it. their other grandchildren live close to them and they see them every weekend and sometimes through the week. well i have heard that they have made plans to go and see them on xmas eve and then when they get up in the morning the girls are gonna call them so the in laws can go and watch them open their presents. then they girls are going to theirs boxing day. all sounds fine but do they not want to see joshua? joshua always comes second. im not bothered that they are going to see the other grandchildren but they see them all the time and they havnt seen joshua for 6 weeks already. they only want to know joshua when they have done everything they want to do first. once we went round there and it took the MIL 3 hours before she actually took proper notice of joshua. they try their dam hardest to bugger Joshua's routine up. they wont be having xmas dinner until like 2pm but joshua is always ready for his by 12. ive sent MIL a message today asking if it would be possible to do dinner ealrier and she has sent one back saying no not really. im just really peed off that Joshua always comes second. am i being stupid?