mrs_sasquatch
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We are on a roll today! Lol.
Mine messaged me on FB last night (She refuses to call me or be in contact in any other way), asking for a copy of my birth plan so "they" (herself and DH's stepdad) know "what to expect in l&d. Excuse me??? DH is going to be there, as well as 1-2 close friends I've asked to be backups, but his mother is someone I would never allow in the room. She stresses me out to begin with!
(Minor background: our first(married, 3rd total) Xmas together, she told him he was trapped in a loveless marriage and she'd pay for a divorce as a gift. Also, in July, when we found out our baby's gender, she made the whole week about her...from being mad that it's a girl, to blaming me for telling people she is t blame for my infertility issues (I still don't understand how I could blame her for something genetic with me). She's also caused myriad other issues over our 6 years of marriage)
but, I digress. I was polite, but very firm with her that we will not be letting anyone even know about labor until we are moved to a postpartum room. My hospital of choice has a sealed labor and delivery side, that we have to have people listed to be allowed into, and once they move us postpartum, they keep visitors away for the first two hours for bonding time. I was as nice as I could have been in explaining it...now she has spent all day today calling DH at work to tell him we don't appreciate her, and that (as her first grandbaby, which she hasn't cared about to this point), she has every right to be in the room. She even mentioned getting a court injunction to allow it. She is completely nuts.
Mine messaged me on FB last night (She refuses to call me or be in contact in any other way), asking for a copy of my birth plan so "they" (herself and DH's stepdad) know "what to expect in l&d. Excuse me??? DH is going to be there, as well as 1-2 close friends I've asked to be backups, but his mother is someone I would never allow in the room. She stresses me out to begin with!
(Minor background: our first(married, 3rd total) Xmas together, she told him he was trapped in a loveless marriage and she'd pay for a divorce as a gift. Also, in July, when we found out our baby's gender, she made the whole week about her...from being mad that it's a girl, to blaming me for telling people she is t blame for my infertility issues (I still don't understand how I could blame her for something genetic with me). She's also caused myriad other issues over our 6 years of marriage)
but, I digress. I was polite, but very firm with her that we will not be letting anyone even know about labor until we are moved to a postpartum room. My hospital of choice has a sealed labor and delivery side, that we have to have people listed to be allowed into, and once they move us postpartum, they keep visitors away for the first two hours for bonding time. I was as nice as I could have been in explaining it...now she has spent all day today calling DH at work to tell him we don't appreciate her, and that (as her first grandbaby, which she hasn't cared about to this point), she has every right to be in the room. She even mentioned getting a court injunction to allow it. She is completely nuts.