firstbaby25
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Fallen angel - I am with you... Not that you all want a life story but here's mine: my mum was too young when she had me and my sister (21yrs for me and 22 for my sister) by the time she was 22.5 she was on her own with 2 kids, of course she loved us and told us so but she desperately didn't want us in that position (understandably) so she always told us that our children were ours (I think so we were leaning towards to staying with their dad) and that she had worked hard to raise us and wanted to thouroughly enjoy her grandchildren.
I took from this what I was supposed to and set to work getting a life, went to uni and everything and met someone, as long as 4 years ago I wanted a baby but we decided to wait, I had this ethic that had been passed to me from my mum... My sister got pregnant at 20... She has to have an implant my sister AND the BCP she is super fertile as is my mum... All the while I was planning for this ideal life that would welcome children and SHE my younger sister that had NOTHING was pregnant... I don't know how I coped but I did... I was soo mad and it helped to talk to my mum about it, kind of like you should have first grandchild because you ARE the oldest and get all the crap growing up I am happy to report that it passed quite quickly for me and i've not been too bad for jealousy since. I find it helpful to remember that I want MY pregnancy, announcements, birth and baby NOT theirs... It really does kind of help!
I hope you all get the beautiful babies you deserve
I took from this what I was supposed to and set to work getting a life, went to uni and everything and met someone, as long as 4 years ago I wanted a baby but we decided to wait, I had this ethic that had been passed to me from my mum... My sister got pregnant at 20... She has to have an implant my sister AND the BCP she is super fertile as is my mum... All the while I was planning for this ideal life that would welcome children and SHE my younger sister that had NOTHING was pregnant... I don't know how I coped but I did... I was soo mad and it helped to talk to my mum about it, kind of like you should have first grandchild because you ARE the oldest and get all the crap growing up I am happy to report that it passed quite quickly for me and i've not been too bad for jealousy since. I find it helpful to remember that I want MY pregnancy, announcements, birth and baby NOT theirs... It really does kind of help!
I hope you all get the beautiful babies you deserve