Your thoughts on nursery?

[Mum2b_Claire]

My ex sil put my nephew into nursery full time when she didn't need to and even said it was a shame nurseries aren't open at weekends. She treated him like a burden. My lo starts nursery on Monday as I'm back at work. I'm really nervous but I need to work and he's going to the same nursery as my daughter did and she loved it. My son has been fine on our settling in sessions so fingers crossed he will quickly settle in and enjoy nursery x

Unbelievable!

 

[leelee]

My cousin used to work 2 days a week from her baby being a few weeks old,but then when she was off she still put him in nursery when she could have been spending time with him.
In my opinion that is a shame,missing important milestones etc.I live next to a nursery which offers free places and some children are there from 8 am till 6,they get all their meals there and get home more or less in time for bed.When do they see their parents?

Again that depends on individual circmumstances. I have only been working part-time since Lo turned 1 but we have no family near us at all. We live in a different country so sometimes when I have a day off and need to get something done I have to put him in creche as I have no-one to take him. When I had my 20 week scan a few weeks ago LO was in creche and myself and OH went to it at 1.30pm and then had a lovely lunch (just the 2 of us) afterwards. Babies are not allowed into the scans so had we taken him out (just because we weren't at work) OH would not have gotten to see this baby.

I think it all balances out for us, as he is currently having 3 weeks off creche to come home with us to Ireland and will be with us all the time.

 

[SKATERBUN]

I dont want to but I have no option as I have to work full time and have no family available to look after LO.
I would rather she goes to a nursery which has some structure though rather than a childminder.

 

[Mummy2Asher]

I put ash in a private nursery from 8months, just two mornings a week then when he was one he went to full time as I had to return to work. Well he was booked in full time but I did 3shifts a week so he'd go 3 days and I'd keep him off the other two but still had to pay grrr
But with Tristan he will go from when he's 1yr for two mornings a week, and then two days when he's two. I choose private nurseries and with ash he grew so close to his friends there...we went on play dates with them etc and he's always been so social and confident in any situation. I think it's good for them to make friends and join in with new activities xx

 

[indy and lara]

I have chosen not to return to work until Emma is 3 and at that point she will go to school nursery for 2 years PT until she starts P1. I do believe that if you are ensuring your child has the opportunity to mix with adults and other children and experiences lots of activities both in and outside the home then nursery pre 3 is not necessary. I also like that our lives at this stage do not have to run to a timetable. we do not have to be up and out early in the morning and this suits us. If there is a day when Emma wants to mooch about, then we can.

However, this all comes with lots of caveats. Most importantly, I don't have to work so I don't need to make those choices. If you need or want to work then there are lots of fabulous nurseries out there who do a great job.

 

[annawrigley]

i really dont see the point in having kids if your just planning to send them off to daycare all the time. sometimes its unavoidable but i did my work experience at a daycare and their were little babies there from 8am til 6pm. whats the point in having a kid?

Wow, as if we don't feel shitty enough about it as it is. Maybe come back and air your rude opinions once you have kids and have a clue about what needs to be done sometimes?

 

[venusrockstar]

Bella is going into daycare when she's a year old because my maternity leave will be over and I have to go back to work.

 

[venusrockstar]

i really dont see the point in having kids if your just planning to send them off to daycare all the time. sometimes its unavoidable but i did my work experience at a daycare and their were little babies there from 8am til 6pm. whats the point in having a kid?

Wow, what a bitchy and rude comment.
Some people don't have the luxury of being able to afford to stay at home. Some women actually like having a career as well. Get down off your high horse.

I should also mention that I would stay at home in a heartbeat if we could afford it. I would love nothing more than to stay home with my daughter. It's depressing and going to be hard enough on me going back to work without having to deal with ignorant rude comments from people like yourself.

 

[3011busyyear]

Not read all the replies but I'm feeling quite torn about this at the moment. I have always planned to put my LO in nursery for at least a few days per week. But a lot I've seen don't take them out of the nursery and basically they are in one or two rooms all day with an hour or so outside, which is understandable as it must be hard to take group of 15children out on trips.
I looked at child minders but the best one I found would have 3under the age of 1 so I'm not sure she would actually be able to take them out much either, plus she has to pick other kids up from school so LO would just be taken along for the ride basically.

I also realized that I do an swimming on a Monday, music group on a Tuesday, baby group on weds, and other activities on thurs fri like the park, net mums meet ups etc.....she would miss out on all this
I do have to go back to work but given the choice I would stay at home and maybe send LO to some kind of nursery setting for 1or2half days just so she can socialise without me, which is what I see the main benefit.

 

[hel_5]

I have worked p/t since i have had my eldest - she has been in with a childminder from about 7 months - loved it and LOVED playing with the other kids, since sept she has been going to playschool/montessori 2 mornings a week - and is still going despite the fact im on maternity leave, why? because we live in rural ireland, we dont have groups etc that she could go to and she LOVES it (asks me why im picking her up now because she wants to stay longer!) and because she wont start her free pre school year til sept when she will be 4 (its done a little different over here - but its 5 days a weeks, 3 hrs each day).

in a months time i will be returning to work for 2 reasons, although we could survive off DH wages it would be less of a struggle if i worked, also because i need adult contact - DH is gone by 9am and is usually not back home til 11pm and i have no family, i enjoy working a few days a week

 

[MrsBandEgglet]

wow 3011 you do so much with your lo, that's brilliant. i really do try but some groups are at really awkward times and i really wanted to go swimming with Arf but it would be too difficult with two of them. i go to a toddler play group on a mon, but not every week, BF support group on a tuesday and a what parents want group on a friday which is all sorts of different activities, today we did nursery rhyme finger puppets which was fun. arf does go to nursery for four hours on a thursday and he seems to love it. violet will be going too when i return to work. i now intend to check out some more groups though, just none that start too early because it's nigh on impossible to get them both ready and get anywher on time lol

 

[bubbles123]

I don't intend to put my LO in nursery until he is 3 (when the free 15 hours or so kicks in). We go to several groups and classes and he mixes with others toddlers every weekday so I think he's fine.

 

[Seity]

My LO stays home all day with his dad. On nice days they go for a walk in the woods. I don't see how he's missing out on anything. When he's older we'll take him to the park on nice days. When he's 5 or 6 he can start kindergarten.