1st Miscarriage

[MommaEmerson]

Hi,
I'm new to the site. Last night I was told the devastating news that the child I was carrying no longer had a heartbeat. My ten week old 'fetus' had, according to doctors, been dead for about a week. It was horrible news. I had just seen the baby on ultrasound a few days prior to it's passing. My OB & ultrasound tech assured me that Baby E had a very strong heartbeat was looking healthy. Now I was lying on a hospital a week later, crying my eyes out because it was gone. My fiance & I were so excited to bring another child into our home. We had even told our two year daughter that she was going to be a big sister. She was so excited. How do I tell her that Mommy no longer has her sibling inside of her? How I do ever get past the fact that I went into labor last night after leaving hospital & 'gave birth' in the toilet? It's the most painful (both mentally & physically) thing I've ever experienced. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I can't even cry anymore. How do people deal with this loss?

 

[Laska5]

It is a very devastating loss & it is normal to feel this way. I am so very sorry you are going through this! I don't have any younger children so I have no advice on how to tell them- although I think it's ok to cry & have a memorial service of some sort with your family.

 

[bamagurl]

I am so so sorry for your loss. I have had the same thing happen. I went in saw a heartbeat at my 8 week appointment. When I went back in at 12 weeks, they told me the baby's heart had stopped beating around 10-11 weeks. My body however did not recognize the loss. I felt so betrayed. We had already told people and were so thrilled to be adding a child to our house. We already had a daughter and if I had not had her I don't think I would have been able to handle it as well as I feel I did. It was the hardest thing ever. I got pregnant 4-5 months later and she is now a healthy, sassy 18 month old.

I am so sorry for your loss and will say a prayer for you and your family!

 

[Phoeniix]

I'm so sorry for your loss I lost my baby at 12 weeks and I was devastated. It was my first pregnancy so having a m/c wasn't even something I considered.

I know this probably wasn't the best way to cope, but it worked for me. I kind of stayed home, only spoke to my husband and mom for a few weeks. After 6 weeks or so, we started trying again, and that was the conclusion of the intense grieving period for me. It gets better, love. I promise.