2 M/Cs when to try again?

[sarah_george]

Hi all, Havent posted for a while as i was having a bit of time out enjoying living and trying to forget about all the baby malarcky for a while, anyone who's read any of my previous posts will know i had 2 miscarriages about 3 months apart the last one being about 6 weeks ago, had one AF 2 weeks ago and just waiting for my second (I only waited one AF last time and MC'd again so gonna try 2) been to the docs and he said it was probably just unlucky and to leave it bit longer next time, anyone else experienced this situation? I feel ready to go for it again just dont know how long to wait as i really dont want to go back to square one for a 3rd time! any advice would be greatly appreciated thanks xxx

 

[buffycat]

firstly, i am so sorry for your loss........

secondly - please tell me that your doctor didn't say the word 'unlucky'.....?

i've had one mc, but i've not had a bfp since then........no-one really told me to wait for a certain amount of time, so we just started trying as soon as we could...

fingesrs crossed that your third bfp will be the one though.......

 

[sarah_george]

thanks for the reply buffycat, he really did say that! he said 1 in 3 miscarry as we all probably know and that in the law of averages some people will be unlucky enough to miscarry twice in a row, he said maybe i didnt give my body enough time to recover and that i should wait longer than 1 period before we try again, its just frustrationg waiting and taking a gamble that maybe 2 wont be enough either and i will back posting more bad news in the next few months, theres also no saying that i will catch as easy next time as i did with the 2 i have just lost, if only I had access to a crystal ball.....

 

[nicky]

Sorry again for your losses, I remember reading about them at the time. I had 1 mc last year and was told by my hospital consultant to wait 3 cycles so that my womb lining could build up again. I don't think 3 cycles is absolutely necessary as some people try again straight away and are perfectly fine and sometimes it wasnt even the lining that was the problem in the first place. I would imagine 2 cycles would be fine if you feel ready.

 

[Zoya]

Hi Sarah.........I am so sorry about your loss and can understand very well your condition and frustration........as I am also on a same boat......I had 2 mc in a raw this year........1st was in end march(10 week) and 2nd (6-7 week) was 2 weeks ago and my doc also said that its not very common to have 2 mc in a raw and you were just unlucky........

I ask myself........why me...

My doc advised me to wait 2-3 cycle before trying again and she also said that if you wait more then 3 months then it could only help you mentally but phisically you are ready to try again.

So I guess we will also start again after sep-oct...........which is a quite long time and also I am very very scared to being pg as I have experienced this.

I just wish good luck for you and
Take care

 

[superp123]

First just want to say how sorry I am for your losses. I know exactly how you feel.
Ah, yes. The crystal ball. Wouldn't it be nice to know if this time will be it?
What burns me up is that no two docs give the same advice on the 'best time to try again'!!!!! I mean I understand that no two people are the same blah blah... but do they give out different advice for people with a head cold too? NO, they tell you how to take care of yourself, 'drink lots of fluids, turn on the humidifier, etc. etc. When you mc you could see 15 diff docs, run all the same tests with all the same info and get 15 diff stupid answers. It seems they've all got the standard, 'sorry you're just unlucky' response down pat. Cant they just all agree on a standard reponse for when to TTC again. Obviously, outside of extrenous circumstances, but geeze lueeez!!!
My first mc I had a female doc who said, I should wait 3mths for the lining to build up. This time I've got a male doc who gave me a blanket response, that was something to the effect of, 'well, you could try tomorrow if you want to, but it's better if you wait 1mth, and better still if you wait 2mths.' Then when I went in for my follow up, he said, 'you should wait for one cycle'. Okay, so I'm thinking of a number between 1 and 3. That's the best time.
As for me, I'm jumping in head first. TTC, and putting lots of hope into my next Because the truth is, if it's to happen again, it will, even if we wait an eternity for our lining to build up!! We're still taking a gamble, just like anyone else... only now our odds are a little different, and we've now seen the other side. That's really what sets us all in a spin, its the feeling of having no control over it all anyway. No matter how hard we try.
I say it sure would be nice to take some comfort in knowing that we're doing the best thing.

P

 

[xxxjacxxx]

Hi Sarah,

I too have suffered 2 early m/cs within 3 months of each other, the 1st was the end of April and the other was 3 weeks ago today. I was 5.3 and 6.4. I havnt seen my doc about them as I went to the hospital for my check ups after etc and I mentioned trying again asap and the midwife didnt bat an eye lid, her beleif is that, if its going to happen again, it will..no matter how long you wait. She also told me its quite common for some women to have 2 m/c's in a row.
I havn't even had my first af yet and am ttc already.
Good Luck in your quest for lucky number 3.

 

[sarah_george]

Thanks for all the advice ladies, how many times in everyday life do you meet people that have had 2 miscarriages in a row and will openly chat about it - not many! so sorry for everyone elses losses, dont know about everyone else but the second one hit me no where near as hard as the 1st so maybe i am strong enough to deal with it if i'm "unlucky" enough to go through it again, positive thinking all the way though! My kitchen looks like a harvest festival in preperation for TTC again, just focusing on trying to get myself as healthy as possible in the next few weeks, good luck to you all and hopefully the emotional rollercoaster we are all on will be worth it in the end xxx

 

[cerilou]

I am so sorry for your losses. I had my 1st mc last week and although I'm still getting over it, I just want to carry on ttc. I think each individual is different and if you feel you are ready to start all over again, you go for it. There's nothing wrong with being hopeful. I have everything crossed that we get our sooner rather than later.

 

[Logiebear]

I am sorry for your losses hun and I too have suffered 2 losses this year. One in January at 6 weeks and then in May at 10 weeks, havd an ERPC at 12 weeks. When you have an ERPC you have a clear lining in your womb so there is no time to wait really but they do suggest atleast 1 here. Everywhere is different and people on here are always being told conflicting advice. I think we have just been unlucky hun and you have to hold on to hope that your next pregnancy will be happy and healthy and you've had your share of bad luck!!

 

[bethyb]

hey hun, just want to say if itsa meant to be its meant to be. ive had two miscarriages in a row (we were pregnant at the same time at one point) and ive had a very awful period i think may have been a miscarriage but ahum i did a test today and its positive.. not getting excited yet, although im living in hope xxx

 

[mindy1600]

I am so very sorry about your loss. I Know kinda how you feel. I have lost three. The last one very recent. I want to try again, but am starting to feel frightened that I won't be able to.