2 under 2?

[Bebedeux]

My DH works away and is home 6/8 days a month.
Anyone else have something similar???
How did you cope? I don't have great help. My sisters both work full time, my mom is elderly and my inlaws aren't great.
DS will be going to daycare 3days a week.
I had a fourth degree tear on my DS and I was housebound for a very long time after his birth as I'd really bad rectal bruising and I couldn't stand or sit, I was in agony and getting in and out of the car used to make me cry in pain.
I'm just worried that il have another dodgy birth then have to mind to small children on my own.
And how will I manage DS because he is Lively!!!!

 

[george83]

I have 15 months months between my youngest which actually may have been easier as the older of the two was less lively then but I also had a 3 year old to content with. Birth wise ds3 was an emergency c section so although the recovery was different it was very painful and there was lots I couldn't manage for a long time. My oh is home during the week but works long hours so is rarely around to help with the kids, he's usually home after bedtime which I know is different to your situation but not completely. I've actually found things ok so far, being organised is key especially as ds1 is now at school and we have to leave the house before half 8 each day. Ds2 and ds3 mostly have one nap at the same time each day which is helpful so I can whizz round and do housework but equally if they do nap separately I get to give the awake child so proper one to one time which I like as otherwise I feel like I'm letting them both down. They are all super close though so I wouldn't change it for the world

 

[Wugz22]

Some might frown on it but I had to embarrass a little screen time for my then 19 month old when my girl was born 12 weeks ago. When she is feeding around the clock, or I'm trying to put her down for a nap and need a quiet house - I put on Daniel Tiger for my toddler, or let him play some games on my iPad. That keeps him entertained for as long as I need, and then as soon as she's down for a nap or content in her swing, I can give him my complete attention. For that rare occasion when they are both napping at the same time (happens a couple times a week thankfully! ), that's when I can attempt to do some housework - or rest!!!! Also babywearing is a must so that you can chase after your toddler. He still needs to get outside and play, so I just strap her on and off we go!