Claire s
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Just thought i would share my birth story with you guys seeing as ive been on here for the last 9 months!
My baby girl was born right on her due date which was really unexpected after you hear all the stories of babys usually arriving late so hope that gives some hope for others of having their bubs on time.
I had no signs or symptoms happening during the week of her due date and i had got it in my head that i would have to go for a sweep the following week but on the Thursday night, 2 days before her due date in the middle of the night after going to the toilet i had a bit of the show, it was a small amount so i still wasnt convinced anything was going to happen anytime soon. Friday morning i was getting mild on and off cramps so had a bounce on my gym ball and went for short walk with hubby, still nothing.
Had a nice big dinner (big mistake) and sat down to watch some tele for the evening, still feeling pretty normal. Got to 9pm and suddenly i was getting more and more period like cramps so i asked OH to start timing them, They seemed to be coming every 9 minutes or so but were bearable so i decided to have a bath. At this point i had no more of a show or anything else just the period like cramps. Within 2 hours the pain had gotten much worse and the pains felt as though they were coming every 5 minutes so i decided to ring the delivery suite and get some advice. Unfortunatley i wasnt impressed with the midwife i spoke with, who seemed to have poor english and kept getting me to repeat everything i was saying, She then said that i was to only come in when my contractions were 2 minutes apart. This made me panic as all along through my pregnancy i had been told it would be okay to come in when my contractions were 5-7 minutes apart.
Got off the phone and the pain seemed to get worse to the point that i couldnt sit down or do anything to ease the pain so i rang back and spoke with a much more helpful midwife who said to come in and get checked, I was relieved at this as the hospital was a 45 minute drive from where we live.
Got to hospital at 1am that morning to be checked and told i was only 1cm! i couldnt believe it as i was in agony and had always thought i had a high pain threshold and also seeing one born every minute where they are 4 cm dilated and reading mags i coudnt understand it! i was offered a sweep which i accepted but had to stop as i found it too painful. After this i was sick!
Disappointed we went home which was fun trying to get back to the car as i could barely walk. Had an awful night of pain with no sleep as i couldnt lay down, sit up or even do anything. it got to 7am the following morning and we rang hospital again, i said please let me come in as i was not dealing with the pain.
I arrived at hospital at 8am that morning, heavy snow had also started so i didnt want to be sent home again, was examined and told i was only 2cm. i refused to leave and asked for some sort of pain relief. They said they were short staffed and i should go home and take paracetamol all the while i was being sick in front of them from the pain. I felt like they werent taking me seriously at all. Then i was examined by another midwife who offered me a sweep, again i said no but before i knew it she did it! i was kicking her away as was in so much agony. (we are going to be putting in an offical complaint about this). i asked if i could have petherdine which she said i could but said i would be on my own as there was noone to check on me, she also said when she had her babies she was out shopping when she was 4cm dilated!. I was in so much pain at this point that i really didnt care i just didnt want to be sent home again. We ended up in a bed in an unused ward with builders walking in and out and lots of banging sounds going on, not that i cared at this point or took much notice. 3 hours late and the petherdine seemed to be wearing off , it didnt take the pain away and i could still feel the painful contractions but it sedated me to a point where i just remember groaning through them. I asked OH to go and find someone to check me as the pain had come back so much worse and also i felt like i had wet myself! it turns out i was just bleeding more of the show which seemed never ending! Eventually someone came to check me and luckily this time it seemed to be a nicer midwife . Hubby was getting annoyed at this point and asked if we could have a room as i was clearly in agony and was in this unused ward and had been going it alone all morning. we were again told that there were no available rooms, turns out my husband had seen 3 free rooms when he went to toilet, they said that i wasnt in established labour so there was no way i could have a room yet. What was annoying though is that noone had checked me since that morning and it was now 2pm. After another half hour of pain they eventually gave in and gave me my own room where i could have a bath. Not that i wanted to as i was in so much pain. I kept asking for an epidural but being told that i was not far enough along and that as it was my first baby it was higly unlikely i would be having her today.
After an hour in the bath i was told i could be checked in an hours time,. That hour seemed to take forever to come round but when it did i was told i was 8cm! they then said it was so close to pushing that i probably shouldnt have an epidural and could now have gas and air.
After 2 hours of pushing and being very tired after having no sleep the noght before and being constantly sick my little baby got stuck and kept going back up what they said was like a u bend! i gave it my all but still nothing so they got the doctor in to do ventouse, I listened carefully when to push and said i did not want to be cut, They gave me an injection incase they needed to do stitches which bloody stung but nothing like the pain i had been in . After half hour of pushing with ventouse my baby girl was born at 6pm weighing a healthy 8 pounds 3 oz
. the pain went away instantly and i only had a small first degree tear which i had 2 stitches for.
I had extra growth scans throughout this pregancy and was told my baby was back to back, i am assuming this is what made it so agonising for me. Although my story isnt the most positive, i just want to say its amazing what our bodies can do and how quickly i have recovered. ,I was up and about pretty much straight away after the birth and i now have my beautiful baby girl. I know the midwifes werent taking me seriously as it was my first baby and i think they assumed i was just being a drama queen. All i will say is you know yourself your own pain threshold so dont doubt yourself and feel like your failing if like me you only get to 1cm and are in agony, there is most likely a reason behind it like baby being back to back. I did have a really good midwife in the end even if she did leave it too late to check how far dilated i was but i do think i will use a different hospital next time.Thanks for reading and good luck with your births xx
My baby girl was born right on her due date which was really unexpected after you hear all the stories of babys usually arriving late so hope that gives some hope for others of having their bubs on time.
I had no signs or symptoms happening during the week of her due date and i had got it in my head that i would have to go for a sweep the following week but on the Thursday night, 2 days before her due date in the middle of the night after going to the toilet i had a bit of the show, it was a small amount so i still wasnt convinced anything was going to happen anytime soon. Friday morning i was getting mild on and off cramps so had a bounce on my gym ball and went for short walk with hubby, still nothing.
Had a nice big dinner (big mistake) and sat down to watch some tele for the evening, still feeling pretty normal. Got to 9pm and suddenly i was getting more and more period like cramps so i asked OH to start timing them, They seemed to be coming every 9 minutes or so but were bearable so i decided to have a bath. At this point i had no more of a show or anything else just the period like cramps. Within 2 hours the pain had gotten much worse and the pains felt as though they were coming every 5 minutes so i decided to ring the delivery suite and get some advice. Unfortunatley i wasnt impressed with the midwife i spoke with, who seemed to have poor english and kept getting me to repeat everything i was saying, She then said that i was to only come in when my contractions were 2 minutes apart. This made me panic as all along through my pregnancy i had been told it would be okay to come in when my contractions were 5-7 minutes apart.
Got off the phone and the pain seemed to get worse to the point that i couldnt sit down or do anything to ease the pain so i rang back and spoke with a much more helpful midwife who said to come in and get checked, I was relieved at this as the hospital was a 45 minute drive from where we live.
Got to hospital at 1am that morning to be checked and told i was only 1cm! i couldnt believe it as i was in agony and had always thought i had a high pain threshold and also seeing one born every minute where they are 4 cm dilated and reading mags i coudnt understand it! i was offered a sweep which i accepted but had to stop as i found it too painful. After this i was sick!
Disappointed we went home which was fun trying to get back to the car as i could barely walk. Had an awful night of pain with no sleep as i couldnt lay down, sit up or even do anything. it got to 7am the following morning and we rang hospital again, i said please let me come in as i was not dealing with the pain.
I arrived at hospital at 8am that morning, heavy snow had also started so i didnt want to be sent home again, was examined and told i was only 2cm. i refused to leave and asked for some sort of pain relief. They said they were short staffed and i should go home and take paracetamol all the while i was being sick in front of them from the pain. I felt like they werent taking me seriously at all. Then i was examined by another midwife who offered me a sweep, again i said no but before i knew it she did it! i was kicking her away as was in so much agony. (we are going to be putting in an offical complaint about this). i asked if i could have petherdine which she said i could but said i would be on my own as there was noone to check on me, she also said when she had her babies she was out shopping when she was 4cm dilated!. I was in so much pain at this point that i really didnt care i just didnt want to be sent home again. We ended up in a bed in an unused ward with builders walking in and out and lots of banging sounds going on, not that i cared at this point or took much notice. 3 hours late and the petherdine seemed to be wearing off , it didnt take the pain away and i could still feel the painful contractions but it sedated me to a point where i just remember groaning through them. I asked OH to go and find someone to check me as the pain had come back so much worse and also i felt like i had wet myself! it turns out i was just bleeding more of the show which seemed never ending! Eventually someone came to check me and luckily this time it seemed to be a nicer midwife . Hubby was getting annoyed at this point and asked if we could have a room as i was clearly in agony and was in this unused ward and had been going it alone all morning. we were again told that there were no available rooms, turns out my husband had seen 3 free rooms when he went to toilet, they said that i wasnt in established labour so there was no way i could have a room yet. What was annoying though is that noone had checked me since that morning and it was now 2pm. After another half hour of pain they eventually gave in and gave me my own room where i could have a bath. Not that i wanted to as i was in so much pain. I kept asking for an epidural but being told that i was not far enough along and that as it was my first baby it was higly unlikely i would be having her today.
After an hour in the bath i was told i could be checked in an hours time,. That hour seemed to take forever to come round but when it did i was told i was 8cm! they then said it was so close to pushing that i probably shouldnt have an epidural and could now have gas and air.
After 2 hours of pushing and being very tired after having no sleep the noght before and being constantly sick my little baby got stuck and kept going back up what they said was like a u bend! i gave it my all but still nothing so they got the doctor in to do ventouse, I listened carefully when to push and said i did not want to be cut, They gave me an injection incase they needed to do stitches which bloody stung but nothing like the pain i had been in . After half hour of pushing with ventouse my baby girl was born at 6pm weighing a healthy 8 pounds 3 oz
. the pain went away instantly and i only had a small first degree tear which i had 2 stitches for. I had extra growth scans throughout this pregancy and was told my baby was back to back, i am assuming this is what made it so agonising for me. Although my story isnt the most positive, i just want to say its amazing what our bodies can do and how quickly i have recovered. ,I was up and about pretty much straight away after the birth and i now have my beautiful baby girl. I know the midwifes werent taking me seriously as it was my first baby and i think they assumed i was just being a drama queen. All i will say is you know yourself your own pain threshold so dont doubt yourself and feel like your failing if like me you only get to 1cm and are in agony, there is most likely a reason behind it like baby being back to back. I did have a really good midwife in the end even if she did leave it too late to check how far dilated i was but i do think i will use a different hospital next time.Thanks for reading and good luck with your births
xx
